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NDN and snow and disability

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ciele · 27/02/2018 15:07

I'm quite severely disabled as my NDN knows.
It has taken me 45 minutes and excruciating pain
Aibu to have expected some help to clear my path?

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ciele · 28/02/2018 13:41

I certainly didn’t want to ‘shame’ my neighbour. I am not five years old!

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DalekDalekDalek · 28/02/2018 13:46

Maybe you should just spend some time actually thinking about what you say?

The irony!

You know what you sound like OP? "I didn't get my own way. Not everyone in the world thinks I am their first priority! Wah wah wah!"

anxious2017 · 28/02/2018 13:51

anxious2017 I don’t know what you know about literacy

Then why attempt to shame me for it? It was a vain attempt, but you still did it.

believe it or not I do not go searching through your posts about your PIP claim

Who the fck said you did?

Idontdowindows · 28/02/2018 13:52

Idontknowwindows do you understand basic English?

Well, I think I know why your neighbours aren't running to help you.

You've shown yourself to be thoroughly entitled and unpleasant to boot.

anxious2017 · 28/02/2018 13:52

Oops, actually meant fuck, but my phone autocorrects it now, as my odd mother doesn't like me saying fuck, but will allow fck Grin

Don't worry, OP. It wasn't a literary mistake.

FrancisCrawford · 28/02/2018 14:02

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Scrumptiousbears · 28/02/2018 14:02

Nothing to do with OP but this reminded me of a true story.

In the 1987 gales a tree fell and blocked the front door to a house in my dad's street. He had a chainsaw so went out in the dark and spent an hour clearing it so the family could get out watched and cheered on by neighbours who never helped. Once cleared he knocked on the door to let them out only to be told by said cheering neighbours they were not in and on holiday.

Was he helpful without asking if it was required or was he a bit of a mug for not actually making sure the deed needed to be done. Who knows.

IceBearRocks · 28/02/2018 14:11

Honestly ..... So very very rude !!!!!

Ask DD to do it if not DH .... Who cares if he's at home all day and cleared his own!!!!

I would do it for my neighbours but they are lovely ..... You are one of the "entitled" crew!!!!

Enuffsenuffsenuff · 28/02/2018 14:14

I would absolutely offer to help a neighbour if I saw them struggling and I'm sorry yours didn't OP. Lots of people here saying you're unreasonable to expect help and I think that's really depressing. I like to think we can (or should) live in a world where it IS expected that people will look out for each other and help where needed. That's what community is supposed to mean.

TheHodgeoftheHedge · 28/02/2018 14:15

Exactly what @pumpersnatch said. In fact so much, i'll repost it:

Ok you've now decided you're OK is just asking a rhetorical question about should neighbours help disabled people shovel snow?
My answer is no. It would be nice but it's not expected.

However, you arent really asking a rhetorical question at all are you? You were pissed off your neighbour didn't help and wanted to shame him on here because you were clearly furious.
You've since back tracked massively, going from being in excruciating pain to quite enjoying it and not wanting his help anyway.
WTF was the point of this post.
And I agree about your disability and PIP, they get wind your shovelling snow and your " disability " status will be out the window.

DalekDalekDalek · 28/02/2018 14:18

I would absolutely offer to help a neighbour if I saw them struggling and I'm sorry yours didn't OP.

Unless I've missed something, OP NDN came out after the job was finished. How was he supposed to know that OP needed it doing? How does OP know that he saw and didn't help?

Enuffsenuffsenuff · 28/02/2018 14:20

@dalekdalekdalek since none of us were there and we can't know exactly what happened, my comment was a deliberately general one based on an assumption that help wasn't offered where it was needed.

ciele · 28/02/2018 14:33

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Valentinesfart · 28/02/2018 14:34

Mind you, neither do the OP's neighbours

No she moans about her neighbours was my point.

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ciele · 28/02/2018 14:34

And it was YOU who said I had trawled through your posts!

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anxious2017 · 28/02/2018 14:37

OP, you seem to be getting extremely confused as your last post directed at me made absolutely no sense at all.

Perhaps you should go and calm down a little. Have a nice cup of tea and a biscuit. Then maybe come back and post with a sense of coherence so we can actually understand what you're trying to say Smile

gussyfinknottle · 28/02/2018 14:38

Op, if you asked me to clear your drive, I would be happy to do it. I wouldn't offer unless I saw you in the unlikely event I would be doing mine.
If I thought this cold snap was going to last , I would knock on your door and ask if you needed owt from the shops when I was going.
I can't read your mind, though. And you might think I was a bitch for not asking. As I am a prepper, I can last a long time without going to the shops.

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ciele · 28/02/2018 14:41

anxious2017
Read your own posts and please don’t patronise me with your Masters.
I have one too 🤣

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anxious2017 · 28/02/2018 14:46

I've read them. I wrote them. I don't think you've read them though.

Patronising you with my Masters? That's a new one Grin You tried to ridicule me for my literacy skills, so I merely pointed out that I'm highly qualified in literacy and your attempt to make me look stupid backfired.

I'm bowing out of this thread now, as you are clearly batshit.

FrancisCrawford · 28/02/2018 14:52

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CuriousaboutSamphire · 28/02/2018 15:09

Lots of people here saying you're unreasonable to expect help and I think that's really depressing. It's the word expect and the temper tanty that has followed.

The expectation of help is unreasonable.

To offer to help is a choice and we make such choices all the time. Nobody here has said they wouldn't help a neighbour who was struggling, just that the OP has a very offputting manner and that yes, on the face of it, going only by her own words, she is BU to expect anyone to leap to!

TheCatsMother44 · 28/02/2018 15:09

Wow, this thread is still going. It really is the gift that keeps on giving Grin.

GiveMyHeadPeaceffs · 28/02/2018 15:31

Maybe I've missed the post where @ciele actually answers the question of whether or not she needed to go out immediately and therefore cleared her

Growingboys · 28/02/2018 15:33

I'm still amazed at there being an able-bodied husband AND an adult daughter (or two) but the OP is still outraged her neighbour didn't sweep her path for her. And thinks we are all evil ppl for not agreeing with her.

We have an elderly neighbour and help him, but he actually needs help. And is charming, so we want to.

Very entertaining thread tbh.

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ciele · 28/02/2018 15:43

It’s been good fun!
My able bodied husband was working away. As was able bodied daughter.
Able bodied dog tried his best to help but decided I was too entitled.

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