NDN and snow and disability

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I'm quite severely disabled as my NDN knows.
It has taken me 45 minutes and excruciating pain
Aibu to have expected some help to clear my path?

Did you ask? I would gladly help a neighbour who needed their path cleared but I wouldn’t automatically know if they needed or wanted it.

Also why did you need to clear it? I’ve never cleared a path in my life! Much prefer walking on snow, it freezes when the snow has been cleared and makes it really slippery

Well, I was brought up to not be entitled and not to expect others to read my mind. Maybe you need a dose of that.

YABU to expect it to happen automatically. They are probably busy with their own lives? Full time jobs/children?

Yabvu to expect your neighbour to do anything. To be honest, you have come across here as quite snippy, which may also impact on their willingness to do you a favour.

And, for the record, I am neither young nor able bodied.

Why did you clear the path?

Disabled or not, if you are an ass to people then you won't get help... simple really

Young and able bodied.

I wish.

Does the path really need clearing?

With that attitude, OP, you can clear your own path, disabled or not.

Well I hope you all remain young and able bodied. I was brought up to help neighbours out

What do you do for them then?

So this is nothing to do with your disability and entirely to do with your entitled attitude!

Why not just ask a family member or friend?

They're your neighbours, not your carers. It's not their responsibility.

I'm sorry you seem to be having a tough time. Yes, it's nice to help other people out but you can't expect it. You aren't entitled to it. Did you even ask?

I would help anyone who needed it, but I have so much going on in my own life that I simply don't always have the mental space to anticipate other people's needs. Especially if they aren't my family. But if you were my neighbour, I would have helped if you'd actually asked me to.

Are they even in?
Do you need to go out?

Were you going out? If it's snow rather than ice it's generally safer to walk on the snow as the cleared bit easily ices over if the temperature drops. Did your neighbour clear their own path? I never do so it wouldn't occur to me to do it for anyone else. If they asked or I saw them struggling I would help but as I leave at 7 am and get home late I probably wouldn't be around to help anyway.

You haven't answered any of the questions. We can't judge until you confirm:

1. Did you ask for help?
2. Did they know you were clearing the path?
3. Is it a shared path?

Usually if you are generally nice to people then help will be forthcoming if you ask. But you sound a bit entitled and grumpy from your previous posts. That will make people less inclined to help you.

You aren't your neighbour's responsibility, also you don't know their circumstances - not everyone who appears to be able bodied is well.

Did it need to be cleared? Couldn’t your DH have done it?

Clearing snow is hard work, perhaps your Neighbour didn’t feel like it. BTW had he cleared his own path?

I'd always offer to help my less able neighbours but if I wasn't in or didn't see them then I would be pretty miffed if they got annoyed with me!

If your attitude in real life to your neighbours is anything like your attitude comes across on here, I’m honestly not surprised you had no offer of help.

How do you even know they are in or saw you?

I don't clear my own path. I wouldn't offer to do a neighbour's. I might pop round though and see if they needed any groceries etc.

You need to answer the questions op.

Did you actually need to clear the path?
Were your neighbours actually in?
Do you get along with them?

I actually think that walking on a snow covered path is far safer than walking on an ice covered path but perhaps that is just me??