NDN and snow and disability

[ciele]

I'm quite severely disabled as my NDN knows.
It has taken me 45 minutes and excruciating pain
Aibu to have expected some help to clear my path?

You sound like the kind of person I would avoid like the plague. And no, disability makes no difference to that.

Helping people is human nature, and the reality is that many disabled people do not like the fact that others just assume that their disability means that they should need help. I wonder whether you’re also the kind of person who would shout at someone who helped without asking when you didn’t need help...?

I have disabilities, I also have very supportive family. But there will undoubtedly be times when family aren’t available and I might have to do certain things myself such as clearing pathways and so on. While if my neighbour offered to help, or even in the case of a previous neighbour sometimes would have done these things without asking on account of the fact he’d be clearing his own drive, there is absolutely no way I would expect it, and no way I would be bitching about them on the internet if they didn’t offer.

Having a disability isn’t an excuse for having an appalling attitude.

If you are my neighbour we are waiting until the snow stops for longer before the shovel-happy ones come out on the street to clear all driveways inc. the elderly and disabled and clear our road.

But tbh we'd be expecting the able bodied ones in your family to come out and lend hand.

MrsJay see Newyearnewme

When has anyone said you were a benefit cheat as you mention in your post at 11:50:18? Have I missed something?

OP, are you seriously trying to pull me up on literacy? I am a teacher. I teach literacy and it is my specialist subject. I have a first class degree in it, and a Masters.

I sincerely hope that you have a miraculous attitude change, as you are really making us nice disabled people look atrocious.

I am appalled at your vile attitude. It's no wonder your daughter acts entitled. The apple doesn't fall far from the tree.

Yes being disabled is frustrating and maybe that heightens my awareness of what is wrong with many things.
But this thread was only asking ...do you/AIBU to expect my neighbour to help out.
I wasn’t expecting help.
I didn’t want help.
It was a hypothetical question.
I am certainly not any of the extremely rude things I have been called.

Wow, I have a disabled ds and my dh has lots of medical,issues that are invisible and no one would know about them. I stand up for people, help people with shopping but with your entitlement I'd only be doing it once.

And no you may not have an answer regarding my disability!

Dalek, I can only assume she's referring to my post about my experiences with PIP. She has assumed that I was calling her a benefit cheat, which I didn't. Although how someone with a "severe disability" shovels snow is beyond me.

Ooooh we've all got cabin fever.

Yes being disabled is frustrating and maybe that heightens my awareness of what is wrong with many things. Do you mean inequitable, unfair, OP? 'Wrong' seems to be inappropriate when you are talking about 'not how I'd like them to be'.

'ciele

Beehivesandhoney are you known as the neighbour with the strange ‘stinky’attitude who locks up your bin or just an odd bod'

I don't really care what they know me as tbh.

No I mean ‘wrong’. It’s a simple word that means ‘not correct’.

Ok you've now decided you're OK is just asking a rhetorical question about should neighbours help disabled people shovel snow?
My answer is no. It would be nice but it's not expected.

However, you arent really asking a rhetorical question at all are you? You were pissed off your neighbour didn't help and wanted to shame him on here because you were clearly furious.
You've since back tracked massively, going from being in excruciating pain to quite enjoying it and not wanting his help anyway.
WTF was the point of this post.
And I agree about your disability and PIP, they get wind your shovelling snow and your " disability " status will be out the window.

If you haven't asked them, I don't think it is reasonable.

If you need help then ask for it!

anxious ah I read that comment yes. So basically OP is just twisting everything anyone says now and throwing around insults.

I am so glad I am not your neighbour ciele. I help my neighbours and they help me. Everyone says thank you afterwards. No one expects people to just know what they need. People actually ask for help when they need it. You an adult, grow up and act like it!

Your attitude has been disgusting the whole way through your thread. I imagine your neighbours must dread seeing you. You sound like a passive aggressive nightmare.

No I mean ‘wrong’. It’s a simple word that means ‘not correct’. So, in this instance, what was wrong?

I understood that your OP was probably written in frustration and pain but now? What do you think was wrong ?

I do pay for things I need doing eg cleaning and maybe if I lived in Canada I would pay someone to do my path.
Fortunately it’s not an everyday thing.
anxious2017 I don’t know what you know about literacy but you know nothing about my disability and believe it or not I do not go searching through your posts about your PIP claim!

i would never clear a path as I think it makes it more dangerous so it wouldn't even cross my mind to offer. I would think they are doing it because they want to, rather than need to.

DalekDalekDalek I don’t think they hate me at all. They are very pleasant and chatty.
Why on earth do you think I am a passsive aggressive nightmare.
I am certainly not hurling insults but came on here to answer some very harsh and unfair criticism.
Maybe you should just spend some time actually thinking about what you say?