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Original poster

To hate heels for little girls

150 replies

RainOnATinRoof · 26/02/2018 20:30

For work I was involved in running a family event over the weekend. I was shocked at how many little girls were wearing high heels. Like this, but also a lot of boots with heels even higher. On girls age 6-10.

It's one thing for an adult to choose to wear heels, but buying them for a child? Do people really not understand how damaging they are? They alter the gait causing unnatural stress on feet, ankles, knees, hips, spines etc. I don't know why someone would want to subject a growing body to this.

When I was a girl I coveted high heels (but children's heels didn't really exist back then outside of tap classes), so I can understand that some children may beg for them, but parents can always say no. Just because they are in the shops doesn't mean you have to buy them! (note, I'm not talking about the plastic dress up heels which are usually worn around the house only).

OP posts:
user1490607838 · 27/02/2018 00:19

@FreshHerbs

some people need to get a grip

Yes FreshHerbs some people DO need to get a grip. They're just tiny heels on shoes FFS!! Some people don't half like to cause a drama and exaggerate though! Wink

In addition......... Some people on here have some nasty sordid minds.

There are some vile posts on here. Some of the names people are calling kids, and the vile things they are saying, PURELY coz people are putting tiny heels on their daughters are putrid. Makes me wonder what goes on in the minds of people who think like this. Hmm

THIS one takes the biscuit.

@frasier

SIL dressed her daughter as a hooker from a baby. Hate heels, hate satin clingy dresses, hate cropped tops, hate feather boas, hate provocative underwear... on children.

Ugly vile nasty comment. Hmm

@hildazelda

Storm in a teacup. I had a pair of shoes like that almost 30 years ago when I was a child and they certainly haven't 'damaged' me in any way.

@LockedoutofMN

I wore those shoes when I was 6 to parties in the 1980s. They're party shoes and the heels are about 3cm. high. I think they're fine.

Well exactly. The amount of hyperbole and hysteria and utter bollocks being spoken on this thread is breathtaking.

DinaSoares · 27/02/2018 00:20

My daughter has a similar pair bought in Disney shop as part of a costume. Her and my son love dressing up as princesses and he too wears heels.
I can't wear heels so they don't get it from me. Must ask the hubby is he wearing heels about the house

JoeyMaynardssolidlump · 27/02/2018 00:22

user

Agree I have asked the poster to clarify her ‘hooker’ comments as they are beyond vile snd disturbing.

user1490607838 · 27/02/2018 00:25

@Joey

You just know she won't! Wink

frasier · 27/02/2018 00:25

No, I don't want to describe it, Joey get your kicks elsewhere.

frasier · 27/02/2018 00:27

And before you start user1490607838 find someone else to bait :)

user1490607838 · 27/02/2018 00:27

There you go @Joey

No defence.

Once you put a vile putrid comment like that, there is no coming back from it.

All this poster will do now is make out WE are the ones who are in the wrong.

Which of course we are not. SHE is the one with the nasty twisted mind.

JCo24 · 27/02/2018 00:27

YANBU - but 8 year old me is still slightly bitter about not being allowed the high heeled jelly shoes. Sad

frasier · 27/02/2018 00:29

:)

chickychickyparmparm · 27/02/2018 00:30

"I loathe anything that restricts children from running, jumping, playing, being children. Awful. I hate seeing the boys running around while the girls can't. Yuk."

Seconded. Let children be children.

JoeyMaynardssolidlump · 27/02/2018 00:30

fraiser

You may require help snd I mean that sincerely.

JoeyMaynardssolidlump · 27/02/2018 00:32

user

Very sad people use language like this to describe a baby but then people are.

Ericaequites · 27/02/2018 00:37

The shoes shown were not suitable for children. Plain black patent Mary Janes with a strap are the right shoes under 13.

kinorsam · 27/02/2018 00:49

So many pearl-clutchers on this thread. These kids were at a special event and wanted to dress up. When my dd was a kid she could (and did) run, jump and dance for hours at parties in shoes like that.

Totally flat 'ballet pumps' are much worse for your feet.

DalekDalekDalek · 27/02/2018 01:06

"The shoes shown were not suitable for children. Plain black patent Mary Janes with a strap are the right shoes under 13."

WTF?

Original poster
RainOnATinRoof · 27/02/2018 01:06

Is thinking the OP was born on another planet.

Saturn, I hope. It looks pretty, with all those rings.

Just to point out - for everyone saying I'm a killjoy and making a mountain out of a molehill because these shoes are just for parties - the event I was involved in wasn't a party, or "family fun day" as some have assumed. It was a serious event with an assessment component - think open casting call (not that exactly, but similar). The children were expected to be active.

It's clear to me that for a lot of parents, heels for little girls aren't just a two-hour party thing. As mentioned in my OP, many weren't even party-style shoes at all, but casual boots with a significant heel, to be worn all day.

OP posts:
MrsDilber · 27/02/2018 01:32

Yes, they're vile. Yanbu.

Pennywhistle · 27/02/2018 02:11

Plain black patent Mary Janes with a strap are the right shoes under 13.

Erica you don’t have daughters do you? I haven’t been able to get black patent Mary Janes in my DD’s size since she was 7yo.

Pinkbedsheets · 27/02/2018 02:13

Meh. Not a big deal, those are tiny.

HuskyMcClusky · 27/02/2018 02:19

YANBU. They’re awful.

Little children (boys and girls) should be in shoes that are good for growing feet & legs and don’t restrict movement.

Those shoes fail on both counts.

OtterInDisgrace · 27/02/2018 02:20

Why don’t they market heeled shoes for boys? If they did I might find this acceptable for parties if both sexes were being encouraged to wear them. Otherwise I think they’re hideous restricting things, and yes, a tool of oppression introduced early to get females used to feeling restricted.

YANBU OP.

OtterInDisgrace · 27/02/2018 02:20

It’s the principle. Not the height of heel.

HuskyMcClusky · 27/02/2018 02:21

Agreed, Otter.

Argeles · 27/02/2018 02:21

They are party shoes, and probably won’t be worn for long anyway.

I used to wear similar heeled shoes to parties, and on special occasions such as Christmas.

There are a lot of little girls who like to look and feel glamorous, and/or princess-like, and I was certainly like this. I used to harass my Mum for ages to let me wear shoes like this, and she’d always give in as she knew what pleasure they used to give me.

And no, I haven’t needed any kind of medical interventions to my feet etc, nor have I developed into an ‘air-head,’ or a ‘Barbie doll as a result of wearing such shoes and very feminine dresses. I do love to look feminine, ladylike and glamorous though.

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