DH embarrassed by my sensitivity

[MarysLittleLamb]

I get very moved by certain types of art and music, so much so that I occasionally cry. Last year we went to the Louvre and I ended up silently weeping at a number of art works. When we got out of the gallery DH admitted that he finds it all a bit over the top and unnecessary - as if I do it on purpose!

Anyway we've just got back from Rome. I became a little overwhelmed in the coliseum when I thought about the violence and death that had taken place there. DH said I was the only one in the entire place crying and he was fed up with it. I explained that I don't do it on purpose, it just gets to me.

We went to the Sistine Chappell the day after and I ended up screaming at the MichaelAngelo. A number of tourists tried to console me but DH just walked off muttering "for fucks sake". I felt so stupid. When we got out DH had a massive rant at me about how I spoil everything for him and he often wishes he was with someone normal who could visit places without making a scene. He also declared that he no longer enjoys travelling with me. I'm gutted because travel is the main thing we do together. AIBU to think I can't change who I am or should I??

I think you've over-egged it now to be honest, OP

we went to the ground zero memorial and I was crying quite heavily there

Why go to these things?? When you know you will be affected by them?

You're not crying for the people affected by 9/11; you're crying for yoursefl. Soudns like there's something going on in your life you need to resolve.

How old are you OP?

Now I have reached ahem a certain age (50) I find I am more emotional about stuff than previously. I finished 'Allegiant' today (started the Divergent series on holiday, borrowing from my 13yo as I ran out of books) and found myself crying. I would never have done that 5 years ago. In fact I don't think I have ever cried over a book before.

I'd just agree between you and your DP that when you visit places you pretend you don't know each other while you go round, and meet in the tea room or wherever at the end.

Does anyone else think this has to be a wind up? Surely it can't be real

Hilarious!! PMSL!! Thanks OP!

Definitely OTT. What do you do if something actually upsetting happens?!

Never mind walking off with a fucksake as you DH does, I'd refuse to enter with you.

When was this? There was a woman wailing when I went. Perhaps this is a common thing? No one was comforting her though, people just backed away.

Maybe you could see someone about this op? It’s like anxiety or something.

I’m surprised you managed to get in the mood to be overcome by the paintings... The sistine chapel is the opposite of a place of quiet reflection imho. Full of people shuffling around murmuring to each other with the regular sound of the docents going “SHH!” And “NO PHOTO!” Over a bloody megaphone! And the Louvre is just as busy - interspersed by the sound of alarms going off every 5 seconds as people lean over the clearly marked rope

The ground zero thing is immensely disrespectful to be honest - being moved, shedding a quiet tear is to be expected at memorials, tombs etc, but weeping and wailing turns it all about you and that is immensely tacky.

Have you considered a visit to the wailing wall? This may be where you will find your people

Damn, you're good

Loving the idea of the OP screaming and crying at her dc's violin recitals....

Have you considered a visit to the wailing wall? This may be where you will find your people

@MrsBloomsLeftVeg

I love you.

(Still think the OP should check out Stendhal syndrome - I love Dr Google)

Far enough to shed a quiet tear at a sad film but to physically scream in a mueseum is ridiculous

@Winterfellismyhome

Thank you for this little gem.... I’m sorry but whole thing is so funny I may have to read it all again!
Yabu... very much, you do sound quite hard work, I would be so embarrassed if my dd did this and she is only 15.

I'm astonished your DH will go anywhere with you, to be honest. If I saw someone behaving like this in an art gallery at best I would have thought they were utterly pretentious, at worst I would have seriously worried about their mental health. And yes, I would have been incredibly angry if my experience of the Sistine Chapel was ruined by self-indulgent wailing and screaming from another visitor.

Does it ever occur to you to wonder how everyone else manages to enjoy art without this sort of performance? Do you really have no means of exercising self control?

Security did come over and escourt me out but they did seem sympathetic and concerned. I told them I was ok. I frightened a little old lady who jumped out of her skin when I wailed and I wanted to go back and apologise and see if she was ok (as tourists were helping her too) but they wouldn't let me go back. Obviously I ruined it for myself as well as everyone else and I'm certainly not proud of that.

(Please let it be real, I so want somebody to be actually this mad)

Absolutely. Wanting to levitate and all.

YABU

I would have stopped going anywhere touristy with you long ago.

You are incredibly dramatic and over the top.

A little emotional perhaps, inside and to yourself, invading other people's space and enjoyment with your drama antics is just too much, you're being precious and making it all about you - just get over yourself! Not everything should reduce you to tears

Security had to usher you out.

Your poor husband! No wonder he says he doesn’t want to go anywhere with you.

OP - presuming for a moment that this is real- has this thread convinced you that you are behaving terribly and need to get a grip?

I have to say it's also cheered me up no end on a miserable snowy Monday morning also.

This is really funny. Your DH is NBU!

Dobby dies???

All of this sounds really attention-seeking and awkward. I'm not surprised your DH is getting upset. You are monopolising every holiday by screaming at art and sobbing at walls. Have you ever considered how your DH might feel when you do this? Or are you too wrapped up in YOUR experience to care about anyone else's?