DH embarrassed by my sensitivity

[MarysLittleLamb]

I get very moved by certain types of art and music, so much so that I occasionally cry. Last year we went to the Louvre and I ended up silently weeping at a number of art works. When we got out of the gallery DH admitted that he finds it all a bit over the top and unnecessary - as if I do it on purpose!

Anyway we've just got back from Rome. I became a little overwhelmed in the coliseum when I thought about the violence and death that had taken place there. DH said I was the only one in the entire place crying and he was fed up with it. I explained that I don't do it on purpose, it just gets to me.

We went to the Sistine Chappell the day after and I ended up screaming at the MichaelAngelo. A number of tourists tried to console me but DH just walked off muttering "for fucks sake". I felt so stupid. When we got out DH had a massive rant at me about how I spoil everything for him and he often wishes he was with someone normal who could visit places without making a scene. He also declared that he no longer enjoys travelling with me. I'm gutted because travel is the main thing we do together. AIBU to think I can't change who I am or should I??

Please tell me you don't have kids.

Time to stArt acting like an adult op. I'm sure the people around you in art galleries etc wish you would too.

The people at ground zero probably thought you were mourning a close relative! I would have done.

Ground zero is very quiet and sombre, and plenty of people are near silent and ive seen a few look ashen, I could even understand a few escaping tears when reading the names etc, but heavy crying, unless you are about to drip feed a personal connection seems over th top.

I would have walked away from you too. I don’t need to be in the immediate vicinity of that.

I've always wanted to see it and when it was there above me I felt like I was going to collapse. I remember saying "oh my god, oh my god" and DH rolled his eyes and said "oh don't start, nobody else is making a scene" and I was just overcome and wailed (which DH described as a scream) and then the crying started. I wanted to touch it. I felt like I could leverate up and be taken to it and the frustration of not being able to just crushed me. I know it sounds silly but I was a complete mess.

God. Nothing more mortifying than other people making stuff all about them awful attention seeking behaviour and I would have not only been embarrassed if I was your partner but I would feel mortified for him if I were one of the poor people who had to witness it.

I don’t believe that people need help with this kind of behaviour, they just need to grow the hell up.

Presume you've namechanged OP, as this is a really bizarre first posting in AIBU otherwise.

Getting moved at Auschwitz would be totally understandable. A tear shed at a really moving film or piece of theatre, even Pompeii understandable. Buckets of tears and screaming totally irrational. Seek help.

Although I see the reference to Auchwitz as evoking emotion, the use of it as a joke is disgusting. Please don't do it again. It isn't at all funny.

Oh god. How embarrassing. You really need to sort yourself out!

My eyes are streaming reading this. I've just had the most hideous row with a loved one and I'm feeling utterly miserable but this has cheered me up a ridiculous amount. I was sort of 'er, OK, perhaps' until the paragraph about screaming at Michaelangelo. Then I lost it.

I'm so sorry if this is in fact serious. But I'm going to go with really respecting your artistic integrity and skill in the medium of trolling - this is golden.

Was OP screaming at the ceiling or the statue of David? (I honestly don't know whether David is in the Sistine Chapel or not.(

I cry at stuff on occasion that other people would find weird, e.g. First World War poetry but I'm discreet & I don't end up needing to be consoled by strangers. I'm fairly sure someone screaming or wailing would disrupt my enjoyment of an art piece as well.

AIBU to think I can't change who I am or should I??

Yes, sorry. It is over the top. Did you even lose anyone at ground zero?

All of us can change a bit, or at least control our emotions, if we want to.

For gods sake OP get a grip

I also cry and scream at my children's choir performances and violin recitals (Stage 1)

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The pair of you should meet up, you can out scream each other in public.

Sounds like you rather enjoy putting on a performance - screaming at a statue, really? Why, exactly? Is there a touch of showing you are "more sensitive/cultured than thou" maybe?

Best thread I have ever read!

Tell us more stuff.

I’m with your DH. I’d have left you and find one to the nearest bar, I’m afraid.

@UtterlyUnimaginativeUsername

Don’t let OP go to Disney! FFS. You know Bambi’s mum dies, right? And Mufasa?

when it was there above me I felt like I was going to collapse. I remember saying "oh my god, oh my god"

I was just overcome and wailed (which DH described as a scream) and then the crying started. I wanted to touch it. I felt like I could leverate up and be taken to it and the frustration of not being able to just crushed me

These are not normal responses. Are you on any sort of medication?

I am a bit of a crier for sure but I've never screamed at art.

I did however, with much embarrassment to myself, burst into tears when I saw the Sagrada Familia in Barcelona. Nothing like that had ever happened to me before and I was wearing large sunglasses so nobody else noticed. I can't explain it. I was just overcome by the power and detail of it. I'm not even sure if I find it very beautiful but it really moved me.

I've never told anyone that in real life.

David is in Florence (oo-er)

I also cry and scream at my children's choir performances and violin recitals (Stage 1).

During the recitals?

Although on a serious note (now feeling guilty) perhaps you have this?

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stendhal_syndrome

You do realise you are so going to get a mention in the Dailyfail?

Don’t go to Disneyland as suggested, I cry there every time. Seeing my children so happy and in awe sets me off.

I however don’t scream or wail.
This post is hilarious, your poor husband lol.

There's no way you were allowed to scream in the Chappell without being frogmarched outside by security. No way.
They'd have sent for an ambulance, at the very least...