DH embarrassed by my sensitivity

[MarysLittleLamb]

I get very moved by certain types of art and music, so much so that I occasionally cry. Last year we went to the Louvre and I ended up silently weeping at a number of art works. When we got out of the gallery DH admitted that he finds it all a bit over the top and unnecessary - as if I do it on purpose!

Anyway we've just got back from Rome. I became a little overwhelmed in the coliseum when I thought about the violence and death that had taken place there. DH said I was the only one in the entire place crying and he was fed up with it. I explained that I don't do it on purpose, it just gets to me.

We went to the Sistine Chappell the day after and I ended up screaming at the MichaelAngelo. A number of tourists tried to console me but DH just walked off muttering "for fucks sake". I felt so stupid. When we got out DH had a massive rant at me about how I spoil everything for him and he often wishes he was with someone normal who could visit places without making a scene. He also declared that he no longer enjoys travelling with me. I'm gutted because travel is the main thing we do together. AIBU to think I can't change who I am or should I??

Oh goodness OP, I'm afraid I'm with your DH, a bit of quiet weeping, carry on if that's what you want to do. Screaming & wailing, nope, weird!

It's the strongest reaction I've had to anything. A few years back we went to the ground zero memorial and I was crying quite heavily there but a lot of people came and stood with me, some of them crying too. DH even walked away from me then.

🤣🤣🤣 oh that gave me a laugh. Your poor husband. I suggest trips to Blackpool instead of museums

Crikey. What are you like when something actually upsetting happens?

Oh dear it does sound a bit OTT. I am a cryer, I cried at the Sistine chapel as well but it was just a few tears I dabbed away I suspect my OH would have been pretty mortified if I had been screaming and wailing. I think you need to try and rein it in a bit, this sounds embarrassing

Genuinely unsure if this is a troll post but

If it’s true then I feel bad for your DH and I’d pretend that I didn’t know you.

YABU. However, this has given me a really good laugh. Screaming? I've heard it all now.

Sorry but I'm really giggling over this.

Sorry but im with DH on this one. A tear in your eye is one thing but to the point other people notice and try to comfort you? I would be embarrassed if i was your DH tbh.

I think you are both being unreasonable. You are being far too sensitive and need to make an effort to reel it in a tiny bit at the very least. I mean shedding some tears over and artwork is fair enough that comes under the banner of just being quite a sensitive person... but screaming and getting consoled by random strangers is quite odd behaviour.

However he also should not be shouting at you about it if you arent doing it on purpose. He needs to tone down his anger and efforts to control your emotional responses.

Perhaps you could both put a bit of effort into learning how to express yourselves more appropriately.

I don't think this is real but thanks for the laugh. It is genuinely hilarious.

Can I ask what made you so extra sensitive about MA? If you had screamed at the Colosseum maybe understandable due to the history - but what was particularly moving about the statue?

Well you made a scene for no good reason and took away from other people's experience by doing so.

I'm surprised you managed your wedding vows!

were you drunk? That used to make me very emotional.

If I had seen you screaming at a Michaelangelo I would have consoled your DH tbh while silently cursing you for ruining my enjoyement of the art

I’m a cryer but I find I’m geberally underwhelmed by stuff that I’m meant to get upset about. Please don’t visit Auschwitz with your DH, it will end in divorce.

I get being moved by art, the occasional few tears etc and I was so with you...until you screamed! That is an extreme reaction and I think you need to address the issue, seek some professional help on how to manage your reactions.

Best laugh I've had in weeks

Next time go to Disneyland.

I'd walk away from you too. I'd be horrified.

YANBU OP...the fecking mutant ninja turtles make me scream an' all.

I have a sensitive dd. When I brought her to Salvador Dali Museum in Spain when she was 5 she gave the finger to every painting and said fuck you. That was embarrassing!!

I also cry and scream at my children's choir performances and violin recitals (Stage 1).
I think we are kindred spirits personally.

However he also should not be shouting at you about it if you arent doing it on purpose

Oh I think if you witness it enough you'd get to thr stage you shout and refuse to go elsewhere. Anyways it was after he had the rant about her ruining stuff.

Quite understandable in my opinion. If my husband was weeping and wailing where ever we went, I'd eventually lose my temper and refuse to go anywhere with him. This attention seeking behaviour would test the patience of a saint.