Boyfriend won't leave MY house

[FirstTimeMama18]

I have told my boyfriend to leave my house and he's refusing. I own the house outright myself.

We have an 8 week old DD and he has a DS from previous relationship. Our relationship has been very whirlwind, fell pregnant very quickly etc. We have done nothing but argue since I gave birth and I have had enough. Too much stress and don't feel supported.

I asked him to leave last night, he did but came back this morning and is refusing to leave now. His son is with him, he's sitting on my sofa smirking telling me he's going no where and to call the police.. I don't want police at my door.

He pays me £400 towards bills but like I said, I own my home outright. Do I have to give him notice to leave? How do I get him to leave without calling the police?

Did you red every word you copied - can be it is all down to the situation and, in law, sometimes 24 hours is enough notice - usually where there is violence or damage!

Of which there is precisely no evidence here. So you're talking bollocks.

@Battleax no I know, I just had an image in my head of a load of MNers turning up on her doorstep to throw him out

Sitting on a couch, smirking, doesn't constitute bullying.

The OP hasn't been back to clarify the age of the other child. Where the other child resides and if her BF is on the BC. How he got in the house.

I thought there was a definition of 'reasonable' within the law. It's what 'the man on the Clapham omnibus' would think is reasonable. i.e. A general consensus of what is reasonable and what is unreasonable.

In this context, Ruffian is right. It would be very unreasonable to evict someone without notice from their place of residence, without some reasonable cause, e.g. domestic violence.

Curious the last post of mine which a PP refers to is not my words.

There is a heading in bold.

Under the BOLD there is a long piece which I COPIED AND PASTED.

It is not Polly's piece- IT IS FROM A WEBSITE WHERE THERE IS LEGAL ADVICE.

If you look at it the marks that were to put it in italics haven't worked. I wanted to do that to show it was a "Quote"

Bloody hell Polly! I haven't said he is violent! Just that his stance is a tad bullying!

I did read it all, I told you, I think we just place emphasis on different aspects!

Don't be so bloody smug!

OP has a problem and all you seem to want to do is prove that she has to put up with the situation!

And yes, I do understand quotes... again stop with the smuggery!

Try being helpful!

Surely it is being helpful to stop the OP making a fool of herself, calling the police, and then having to back down because they won't do anything. Without violence it's a civil matter.

Just my two cents.
He might not be outrightly violent but I get the sense there is intimidation going on.
Call the police, OP.

Pack his bags and call the police. They will not prosecute if he is cooperative but this man needs to leave your house.

So you want to throw the father of your child and his son on to the street with no notice and no where to go . That’s pretty disgusting behaviour op.

Here you go op! I really hope this helps.

Where a couple are cohabiting and the property is in one name only, the non-owning cohabitant will, in many cases, not have an automatic right to occupy. The non-owning cohabitant usually has the status of a bare licensee, ie s/he is only entitled to remain in the family home as long as the cohabiting owner gives permission. If the owner wants the partner to leave, all that is legally required is 'reasonable notice'. Once the notice expires, the non-owning cohabitant becomes a trespasser.

A non-owning cohabitant, however, may be able to show that s/he has a right to remain in one of the following situations. A non-owning cohabitant may be able to show that s/he has a beneficial interest, or a contractual or irrevocable licence, or rights by estoppel.

Alternatively... wherever he went last night is a 'somewhere' and he chose to bring his son back to a house he has been asked to leave, specifically to make it more difficult for OP to throw him out!

We don't know, as OP has not clarified that.

And many women want the father of their children out of their lives... there are squillions of threads here about just that... why is OP being told she has to keep hers?

Is it being 'smug' Curious when someone corrects you (or says you are talking bollocks which another poster did)?

It's not a case of a 'different slant'. It's a fact.

Sitting on her sofa smiling /smirking is not bullying. It may not be nice but it's not breaking any law.

And stop putting words into my mouth. You are on expert on reading something and putting your own slant on it. I said they should have a mature discussion and an agreed time for him to leave.

That is what grown ups who have created a child together do, unless one of them is being violent.

I would give it one more attempt at having a reasonable discussion with him RE the relationship now being over, he needs to find somewhere to live within an agreed amount of time etc. If this is unsuccessful, call the police. Whilst I agree you’re probably being unreasonable in expecting him to leave immediately, the situation cannot continue indefinitely with him refusing to move out.

Totally agree with Polly. Sounds like OP got what she wanted and has decided it's now time to dispose of the enabler.

This man is the father of her child and unless he is clearly abusive, deserves some respect as such, even if it's come to the point of acknowledgement that they can't share their lives together.

OP, you might not need him any longer and not care what happens to him, but your child will always need him, so out of respect for your child, can't you give him a bit longer notice?

Any updates, @FirstTimeMama18 ?

And many women want the father of their children out of their lives... there are squillions of threads here about just that... why is OP being told she has to keep hers?

Because a child has a right to know his/her father and make up their own mind when they are old enough as to how much contact they want.

You don't use a child as a pawn when your relationship breaks down. You act like a grown up. And put their needs first. Not your own.

Is this issue because you have both been arguing,and nothing more serious ? Can you not sit down and talk about everything together,
I don't think that the police would be likely to get involved.

Be interested to know how the OP manages to own her house outright with no mortgage. Impressive OP- maybe you got an inheritance or a divorce settlement. I hope you can come back and solve the mystery of where he went last night and what is going on now.

Erm Polly you do know, that you are as much pot as kettle here, don't you?

We seem to have been saying much the same thing, from slightly different perspectives! That you see your perspective as 'fact' is no different from my assessment of my own viewpoint.

Yet more posters saying to call the police - do people really think it's ok to call out the Police because someone you live with is pissing you off?? Because you own the property you can put someone out of their home without notice?

If that was true there would be total chaos and the burden would probably fall worst on Women.

No one has said the OP has to 'keep' her dp, just that it's not reasonable to say 'I own the property therefore he can get out right now.'

There may be squillions of threads on a similar subject but circumstances can be very different and often extreme. The OP here has cited Too much stress and don't feel supported. That is definitely grounds for counselling or breakup but not eviction-on-the-spot.

Actually I take that back! You really are reading a lot into my posts, just as you are the OPs post!

That last one is downright nasty!

Call the police and bag his stuff up ready