Is he desperate?

[Whatislife123]

Hello, what do you all make of this? I have been going to a public place, wont say where as possibly outing, with my DS and his father. Although me and DS' s father are not together we still go out as a family and may well look like we are in a relationship.
Anyway we go to this public place everyweek and a person that is employed there has made it very obvious that he likes me. He smiles and stares. The usual stuff to show he 'likes me'.
However in that time I have been pregnant and had my DD, which he is aware of, and he is still giving me hints that he 'likes me'. I also believe he thinks I like him as 2 years ago I stared at him for no particular reason but since then I have given him no 'hints'.
I do not get why this bloke would pursue me withme having two children and a 'partner'. AIBU unfair to think he is desperate

He may be desperate.

He may "like a challenge" and enjoy chasing "taken" women.

He may just think you're he most gorgeous creature he's ever seen.

He may be just a Right old creep. Are you worried?

I don't think he's necessarily desperate, it just sounds like he fancies the pants off you. Many people have affairs or are at the flogging-a-dead-horse stage relationship-wise so he's probably just hopeful. Do you fancy him?

I'm not worried but confused to why he would pursue me from afar even though it would appear like I am in a relationship. Also he saw me pregnant and still dropped hints. JUst to add he looks to be in his mid twenties.

What kind of hints? Could you be reading too much into it? Some people just stare a lot.

I do not fancy him although he is ok looking. Most people would back off atleast at the pregnancy stage but not him

Smiles and constantly stares. I am quite good at picking up vibes when someone likes me. I know some people look when they find you attractive but this feels different. Its been going on for two years

He probably thinks you look like a genuine person who is juggling life

Smile back & embrace that someone finds you attractive.

Are you interested in him? If not then it doesn’t matter what his stares mean.

Don't give it a second thought. I bet he smiles and stares at loads of women; it's the scattergun approach.

I'm only asking because I am genuinely baffled as to why he would smile and stare and because I see him pretty much week it kind if plays on my mind why he would still pursue someone who has just given birth

I was surprised by men flirting when I was heavily pregnant. A male friend told me seeing a woman pregnant made some men think of that woman having sex and in turn were sexy

I’m not sure this counts as pursuing you.

It’s akso possible that you are reading way to much into this.

he smiles at you at looks in your direction - really, you think he's pursuing you? I don't think Smiling in your direction is pursuit.

Being pregnant, giving birth and having children doesn’t instantly make you unattractive and those things aren’t always a ‘turn off’.before falling pregnant I worked in an office made friends with a guy and then one day at work told me he fancied me. He knew I had a boyfriend, I got pregnant and before leaving for maternity he took me aside and said I was so beautiful and wanted to kiss me... I was like 30 weeks pregnant and then after giving birth I went to my works Christmas party and he found me and said he wished things were different, he’d be with me. I’m still with my boyfriend and very much in love and the guy from work has always just been a friend to me but me being pregnant and then being a mum didn’t change the fact he found me attractive :) just accept it and if you’re interested go for it.

So in two years, he’s never actually asked you out or done anything to actively seek a date or relationship with you?

If that’s the case maybe you’ve got your wires crossed. I wouldn’t count that as ‘pursuing’. Maybe he finds you attractive, maybe he thinks you’re a shoplifter? Maybe he’s a nervous person with poor social skills who is often flustered? After two years if he hasn’t actually made an approach I would say that describing him as ‘pursuing’ you is very strong.

I think you need a hobby

Unless this is a dripfeed, and he regularly follows you home and sings extracts from the Take That songbook outside your front room window.

I think you're reading too much into this

Glad it's not just me who think it's possibly all in the ops head.

He smiles and stares. The usual stuff to show he 'likes me'.

That’s not the usual stuff to show you like someone. That’s being friendly and attentive in your job.

I also believe he thinks I like him as 2 years ago I stared at him for no particular reason

You’re weird and have a real issue with staring.

He cannot exactly approach me as when we go there I am always with my DC's father. I know some of you think it is all in my head but it is honestly not. Even my ex partner has noticed. Also with the previous poster calling me weird. Thanks I'll take it as a compliment

Pursuing was perhaps the wrong word to use but I couldn't think of another word at the time

I think you're coming across a bit very OTT. Definitely over-thinking it. Just drop it. What do you want us to say? That he is definitely in love with you? You sound like you are rather enjoying it. If so crack on

I think remembering that you stared at someone once two years ago IS bonkers...

None of your thread indicates he's pursuing you or has the hots for you. Sorry!