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Is he desperate?

174 replies

Whatislife123 · 24/02/2018 22:36

Hello, what do you all make of this? I have been going to a public place, wont say where as possibly outing, with my DS and his father. Although me and DS' s father are not together we still go out as a family and may well look like we are in a relationship.
Anyway we go to this public place everyweek and a person that is employed there has made it very obvious that he likes me. He smiles and stares. The usual stuff to show he 'likes me'.
However in that time I have been pregnant and had my DD, which he is aware of, and he is still giving me hints that he 'likes me'. I also believe he thinks I like him as 2 years ago I stared at him for no particular reason but since then I have given him no 'hints'.
I do not get why this bloke would pursue me withme having two children and a 'partner'. AIBU unfair to think he is desperate

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PhelanThePain · 25/02/2018 11:02

Ahh so it’s the arrogance he has noticed and just can’t understand. It’s all clear now.

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Whatislife123 · 25/02/2018 11:06

Actually I am not arragant. Insecure at the best of times so it is even more important that I find something positive about myself. Hence liking my hair, skin and teeth. Whats wrobg with that

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Whatislife123 · 25/02/2018 11:07

*wrong

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Original poster
Whatislife123 · 25/02/2018 11:07

*arrogant

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Coconutspongexo · 25/02/2018 11:10

You’re coming across as arrogant.

If you was insecure you wouldn’t think he fancied you..

iLoveABiccy · 25/02/2018 11:13

Reading way too much into it. In customer service you have to smile and be welcoming even if you hate someone Hmm

starbrightnight · 25/02/2018 11:15

In what way is he pursuing you? You don't mention him ever actually approaching you to talk to you or any other 'pursuing' behaviours.

PhelanThePain · 25/02/2018 11:20

So you’re so gorgeous he can’t take his eyes of you, you have fab skin and hair and to top it all off you’re amazingly humble. Can’t imagine why he has taken two years to er... do nothing at all. Must be intimidated by your weird staring awesomeness.

berninisbeloved · 25/02/2018 11:41

Go there alone, start talking to him about anything at all and 2 year mystery solved .

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Whatislife123 · 25/02/2018 11:58

Yes I do think I am attractive. Whats wrong with that? In my teens I thought I looked like an alien and thought I was ugly but im my mid twenties I started to look at all the positives. What is wrong with that? My original question was why would he make it obvious from afar he likes me even though I have two children abd a 'partner'. ?

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doesthislookoddtoyou · 25/02/2018 12:02

My original question was why would he make it obvious from afar he likes me even though I have two children abd a 'partner'

and as you have been told, he hasn't. There is no indication he likes you other than you telling yourself that because you think you are so attractive.

CoffeenoTea · 25/02/2018 12:09

I think your full of yourself. Get a grip. He probably just smiles at all the customers. He could think he knows you, but is to shy to ask. I very much doubt he fancys you. also Yabu.

surreygirl1987 · 25/02/2018 12:10

Hahahahahahahahaha poor ranfom guy!

Coconutspongexo · 25/02/2018 12:11

My original question was why would he make it obvious from afar he likes me even though I have two children abd a 'partner'. ?

Except he hasn’t

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Whatislife123 · 25/02/2018 12:18

Or maybe i should approach him on my own and find out for myself and prove you all wrongGrin

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Bluntness100 · 25/02/2018 12:22

Well ok, this is got all weird.

Ok, no he's not desperate. It's just you're really attractive so he fancies you. Men do stare at very attractive women. Even if they are pregnant and have a partner.

There is nothing wrong with the guy, you're very attractive and he can't help stare. It doesn't mean he is desperate.

Alright now?

OutyMcOutface · 25/02/2018 12:24

He may actually just be friendly because you know, it's his job!

PhelanThePain · 25/02/2018 12:33

No, he’s not desperate...

PhelanThePain · 25/02/2018 12:34

And what do you even mean by desperate? Desperate for what? A shag, a piss, a smoke? All he has done is look and smile. What sort of weird imaginary fantasy have you created in your head where smiling at someone means they’re desperate for you?

Booie09 · 25/02/2018 12:42

Maybe he's staring at you because your staring at him and he feels really uncomfortable!! If it's that bad (after all it's been two years since you stared at him) maybe you should find somewhere else to go!

Tattybogle89 · 25/02/2018 12:50

Hmm I think everyone needs to look where they are going and stop bloody staring

I think you are staring at him
So
He stares back

Maybe you are creeping him out

Tattybogle89 · 25/02/2018 12:51

(And after two long years of anticipation - he would have blinked and opened his gob by now..)

ferrier · 25/02/2018 12:53

I think you fancy him, not the other way around.

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Whatislife123 · 25/02/2018 13:05

Like I said I will find out for myself and prove you all wrong. Will update soon on why he has been staring at me constantly like a hawk and at times smiling at me like a Cheshire cat. Wink

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PhelanThePain · 25/02/2018 13:10

Grin you going to film it? Otherwise I won’t believe you.

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