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Peak P&C space rage!

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beepthemeep · 24/02/2018 09:26

Argh. Just whipped DD up to the shops to get some nibbles for our guests who are arriving shortly. The spaces at this particular Waitrose are very tight and I'm very pregnant, so did need a P&C spot.

There was one left, so I headed for it. But nooo - some tool in a wannabe sports car zoomed the wrong way up the one way bit and parked in it (badly). Door opened and a young couple got out. No baby. No child. I assume no disabilities as there were several empty disabled spaces even nearer the shop.

I had to get DD out at the side of the car park and then park, as there was just no way I could do it in a normal space. The worst thing was, as I was struggling to do so, I saw them heading off... THEY WEREN'T EVEN GOING INTO FUCKING WAITROSE!!!!!

Am I wrong to wish the plague of a thousand traffic wardens upon their heads?

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blackteasplease · 24/02/2018 10:25

bishop I understand where you are coming from but in all the circumstances of this case it's hugely unlikely these people did. People who drive a sports car the wrong way down the car park roads to race someone for a p and c space and park in it badly are rarely those in your position.

I have a mild hidden disability myself. I'm imagining you are much less able than me but I do understand. It's all the circs of yhis situation that make me think we should proceed on the basis that are not disabled.

BishBoshBashBop · 24/02/2018 10:26

In the real world outside MN it's clear they didn't have a disability.

Just to look at me people would say I don't have any disability. I have however.

Assumptions usually make you look stupid.

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beepthemeep · 24/02/2018 10:26

Erm - Tidy - you do realise that it's not about not being able to park in a normal space, don't you? It's about the extra room needed with a 36 week bump to fit the toddler and enough of yourself through the car door so that you can do up the (fucking crystal maze style) straps.

The rest of the time, normal spaces are just fine. Although I agree developers squeeze too many tiny spaces in.

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BlackeyedSusan · 24/02/2018 10:28

You should have left a note on their car... really sorry my toddler pushed the trolley into your car. hope there is no damage. Might remind them of why it is not a good idea not to park in the parent child spaces. also sticky little fingerprints on the glass.

Sparklingbrook · 24/02/2018 10:28

So if it's a town centre Waitrose anyone can park there and could be going anywhere. Maybe they were going to Waitrose last as they were getting chilled/frozen stuff?

I appreciate there are hidden disabilities. But if you're physically fit enough to drive a low slung car and walk off into the town centre to shop elsewhere, i would be very surprised if this pair had anything of the sort.

I don't know where to start with that comment.

blackteasplease · 24/02/2018 10:29

bishbosh calling people stupid makes you look stupid.

HotCrossBunFight · 24/02/2018 10:30

Of course they were being knobs. All this not all disabilities are visual blah blah blah! If they weren't going into Waitrose then regardless of their disabled status I doubt a space closer to Waitrose would have aided them and if they didn't have mobility issues then the wider space would have had no benefit either.

BishBoshBashBop · 24/02/2018 10:32

bishbosh calling people stupid makes you look stupid.

Not when I have had people in real life challenge me over my disability it doesn't. As they don't think I look 'disabled enough for their liking.

HTH

3EyedRaven · 24/02/2018 10:34

This is the reason I think the p&c parking should be at the back of the car park.

HotCrossBunFight · 24/02/2018 10:35

Agreed Raven.

Preferably woth the specialist trolleys very close by though.

IsabelleSE19 · 24/02/2018 10:35

YANBU OP, but this is a bizarrely inflammatory issue on here.

For anyone saying 'hidden disabilities', the OP said there were disabled spaces available in her OP.

Fengshui · 24/02/2018 10:36

They were knobs and that would have frustrated me.

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 24/02/2018 10:36

For anyone saying 'hidden disabilities', the OP said there were disabled spaces available in her OP.

Not all disabilities qualify for a blue badge for starters.

funnyfoursome · 24/02/2018 10:38

Very selfish. I had the same the other day. Chick in giant Land Rover parked right in front of the P and C sign and with her yoga mat headed off to her posh hot yoga class. No she didn't have a disability and if she did she could have parked in the empty disabled spaces. She just either couldn't park her enormous 4x4 or couldn't be arsed to walk an extra 10m from a normal space. I rang the yoga studio and asked to make a polite request that their clients don't park in P and C spaces. The yoga studio were mortified and used the words 'selfish'. It's the extra space thats needed. Hope your day gets better

LondonHereICome · 24/02/2018 10:39

samcro the one she is 'cooking'? Er no. The one she took with her! Did you not read the op then?

Samcro · 24/02/2018 10:41

london i assumed it was the bump that made it harder

blackteasplease · 24/02/2018 10:43

No you still look stupid bishbosh. Picking a fight over something that isn't the point of the thread.

I agree with those who say p and c spaces could be elsewhere in the car park with a safe path to the supermarket door and a trolley park nearby. That would hopefully stop the dickheads. Needn't necessarily be the very far end but far enough that they aren't so attractive to entitled gits.

I don't usually bother with p and c spaces and haven't for a while - my youngest is now 4. But it's helpful to have space to open the car door more fully. I do often park at the furthest end to achieve this though!

BishBoshBashBop · 24/02/2018 10:44

No you still look stupid bishbosh. Picking a fight over something that isn't the point of the thread.

Glad you think my disability makes me look stupid.

You appear to have had an empathy bypass.

DadDadDad · 24/02/2018 10:44

Don't get cross with the selfish parkers - get cross with the store. They provide P&C spaces so ask them why they are not policing them in any way, as you will stop shopping there if you can't easily get out of your car.

Moonandstars84 · 24/02/2018 10:44

If they were disabled surely they would use a bb space. They are entitled.
Also leaving the child at home eouldn help if heavily pregnant.
Yanbu

Sirzy · 24/02/2018 10:45

My dad had a stroke last year which impacted his mobility, but he isn’t entitled to a blue badge. As a result of the stroke damage he has also just been fitted with a permenant catheter. Hopefully it’s just while he gets used to things but st the moment getting in and out of the car is a nightmare for him and painful. Being able to open the door fully means he can get in and out more comfortably.

He may not look disabled, he may not have a blue badge (because of the daft system) but he does need the space.

Samcro · 24/02/2018 10:46

not all disabled people have BB

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 24/02/2018 10:46

If they were disabled surely they would use a bb space.

As has repeatedly been said, not all disabilities qualify for blue badges.

There can also be a backlog wait.

TheJoyOfSox · 24/02/2018 10:48

Nobody needs a P&C space. Yes, it’s very handy to have the extra space when trying to manoeuvre a toddler a baby a pushchair and getting them in and out of seats, but believe me, parents did manage in the days when carparks just had spaces.

Yanbu in cursing the young couple. But you did park, and had the young couple been a young family and rightly used the last space, you’d have had to use a regular spot yourself anyway.