To think this is unnecessarily bitchy?

[BearsandHearts]

Will try to keep brief!
Last Friday I went out with some work colleagues for drinks. Whilst out my colleague/friend bumped into her husband who was with his friends. I hit it off with one of the men he was with and we've been texting with an aim to meet up soon.
My colleague knew this and seemed very keen for us to meet. However yesterday colleague told me she'd seen this man I'm due to go out with as he's a mutual friend. She said quite casually ' I told mutual friend you've got 3 kids by 3 dad's and you've had a boob job'. I told her she's being bitchy and not to put ideas in this man's head. Why would you tell someone that?

I need them also LOL. Was it worth it?! Am a single mum also. No chance of dating anytime soon like!

I see that it's true but whether it is or it isn't your 'friend' sounds a nasty piece of work IMHO. I wouldn't have a lot to do with her from now on. I agree she sounds jealous.

It was so worth it. My mum paid for them our of her retirement payout so I was lucky. Then had definitely gone South since the kids lol.

Starlight do you have a babysitter so you can date??

I have 3 by 3 and my life isn't chaotic in the slightest. To be honest it's boring as fuck, go to work, come home, feed kids, do washing, help with homework and go to bed. And do it all over again every day!!

I have a friend who has 3 DC to 3 women. We've often said that my life seems much calmer than his because when my children see their dads they're just out of the house like when they're at a sleepover or at an activity but his 3 DC all come and go at different times which changes the dynamics within the household.

Stop explaining yourself to people on this thread.

She was being a complete bitch but at least you know she isn't a friend.

Have a lovely time on your date, I hope it goes well and you hit it off as that will make her blood boil!

She was definitley being bitchy.

Men care much less than women about these kinds of things in my experience.

It’s the complete opposite I’ve found, quality men often run a mile from women with multiple kids. As do women from men with multiple kids, though I think men are more put off by it as women are usually the resident parent.

Suppose a quality man is off my wish list then

She wants him for herself.

You know what Bears I had a child before I met my “ quality man “ and 18 years later plus more kids it’s goinb just fine, Be happy , ignore the high and mighty brigade.

'Quality men'

Oh bless!

A Quality man from a Quality Street,
With Quality hands, and Quality feet,
And a Quality wallet, with Quality dosh,
Dressed in Quality clothes, ever so posh!
Oh, how poor Bears does long to meet
A Quality man, from a Quality street!

I like the strawberry ones

She is probably trying to do the guy a favour and warn him what he might be letting himself in for.

Not sure why she would then tell you that she had been slagging you off though.

Surely she knows OP would mention she had 3 kids, they're kind of hard to hide

letting himself in for

Chuffed for you Bears he sounds nice & sounds like he has the measure of your mutual 'friend' Ignore the nasty comments & have fun with your new man

She sounds a bit jealous that he is interested in you, and outraged that a man will still like you even though #shockhorror, you have 3 children by 3 men!
In fairness, what would it matter if you had 3 children by 1 man, or 3 by 3 men. They are ex's regardless.
Good luck with him OP and tell that nosy woman to butt out (or tell her some home truths of her own!)