He's always talked in his sleep but last night for the first time he grabbed me hard by the shoulder twice. After he let go I looked over at him, he was fast asleep with a frown on his face.
Things are not good between us and he is moving out at the end of this month.
With one exception, in the seven years we have been together he has never done anything that could be described as violent
On that occasion, three years ago, I thought he was hugging me from behind. His left arm was around my torso and his right arm was around my neck. When I said "you're squeezing my windpipe", he replied "I know" and kept his arm there for a few seconds while whispering in my ear "Don't go in my toolbox". (I had borrowed money that he kept there and forgotten to replace it.)
It took months of Relate counselling before we got back from that.
With just seven days to go AIBU to ask him to sleep in the spare room until he moves out?