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To think this mother is horrible for not inviting my daughter

482 replies

WomanInTheMirrorStaresAtMe · 20/02/2018 12:20

Birthday party one...
Girl next door having a birthday party, she is in the same class, year 1, as my daughter. There are 11 girls in the class.

Around Xmas the girl next door started being a bit mean to DD. It came to a head when she pushed DD over at school and she hit her head on the playground. We were called because they suspected concussion and the teacher said she had also informed girls parents. Teacher said DD did nothing wrong, didn't even retaliate and that as far as they were aware after speaking to girls and their peers it has all been one way nastiness. Girls made up, as they do, and are fine now but her mother has ignored me since, deleted me from Facebook and glares at me on school run and when we pass outside. Silly but whatever...

So back to the birthday party. Every single girl in the class is invited except DD. Invites were given out on morning school run. The girls were all together waiting to go in. Next door girl handed them to everyone but DD, telling her that she wasn't invited cos her mum says she not allowed. DD looked upset but I took her aside and said we would have a day out, she wasn't impressed... NDN mother just stared at us.

I have found out when the party is and will take DD out so she hasn't got to see all her friends arriving and hear the party, but seriously, this mum is an absolute bitch isn't she? And I have to live next door to her!!! DD seems a bit confused more than anything but is upset as thinks our neighbours must not like her.

I know moaning about kids not being invited to parties is normally seen as unreasonable but I am not in this instance am I??

OP posts:
WhatWouldOliviaPopeDo · 20/02/2018 20:26

Leaving HER kid out? Shock

SootyandMathew · 20/02/2018 20:26

Poor poor BSDD

rascallyrascal · 20/02/2018 20:30

Errrrr, wasn't she the one who left your daughter out? She is nuttier than a sack full of squirrels on coke.

Nicpem1982 · 20/02/2018 20:33

She is nuttier than a sack full of squirrels on coke.

^^ this with bells on

emmyrose2000 · 20/02/2018 20:35

mums leaving my kid out
HmmShock
How did she manage to write that with a straight face?!

#needtomoveawayfromthisinbredvillage
Maybe the village mums could help her to pack so she could leave faster!

billybagpuss · 20/02/2018 20:44

poor bsdd. I guess they've had a few declines.

LaurieMarlow · 20/02/2018 20:49

She's the type that gets off on all the drama. Ignore everything and cut off her oxygen supply.

Knittedfairies · 20/02/2018 20:52

'Clicky mums'! How many of you actually click? Shoes? Or hips? Maybe knees?

Your NDN is unhinged. No response necessary; don't engage the crazies.

6demandingchildren · 20/02/2018 20:52

I have no words, do people like this really exist? I have seen it in the film's but this woman is a few pork pies away from being a vegan.

SnackMaBitchUp · 20/02/2018 20:53

I'm a clicky mum, it's me hips! They're a right bugger for it.

Sostenueto · 20/02/2018 20:54

Why would you even want your child to mix with someone who has been so mean to her? I would have ignored next door after the pushing incident and would not want my child having anything to do with the family.

shinysinkredemption · 20/02/2018 21:05

Glad she has been found out for the fool she is so quickly. Don't respond to the message. This would be great clickbait in the Fail.

rothbury · 20/02/2018 21:05

Hilarious! Well she is certainly providing everyone with entertainment isn't she?

Just maintain an icy cool detachment. Channel Grace Kelly, or someone like that. sorry I am an old gimmer and can't think of someone more current

ohfourfoxache · 20/02/2018 21:13

I feel so sorry for her dd

Tistheseason17 · 20/02/2018 21:16

Corking thread. Love it when someone shows their true bat shit colours! 🤣
Keep rising above, OP! Great work with a smile.

Rhubarbginmum · 20/02/2018 21:22

Hopefully she’ll do you all a favour by moving on to terrorise others or with a bit of luck may have learned her lesson but doubtful.
I would maybe let the school know the basic facts just incase she goes in all guns blazing or if their are any repercussions for your DD.
Take care and enjoy Legoland.

Thistlebelle · 20/02/2018 21:53

I actually feel quite sorry for her.

Calling the villagers inbred is hardly likely to de-escalate the situation or win her friends back.

I wonder if she just doesn’t know how to undo her mess?

LadyDeadpool · 20/02/2018 22:05

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rascallyrascal · 20/02/2018 22:07

And yet here you are ladydeadpool reading with the rest of us!!

CherryMaDeary · 20/02/2018 22:12

LadyDeadPool

Pipe down, no one needs you to be a troll-hunting knight in shining armour.

macbethh · 20/02/2018 22:15

@rascallyrascal

Excellent point!

DunkandEgg · 20/02/2018 22:22

Clicky mums'! How many of you actually click? Shoes? Or hips? Maybe knees?

Grin My knees click and crack all the time! This really made me laugh.
LittleFeileFooFoo · 20/02/2018 22:26

I think a civil answer is good. You don't want to be worried every time you get a text.

OrphanWeek · 20/02/2018 22:35

This woman obviously is lacking self awareness. Does she realise the 'inbred villagers' are the same people she's invited to her DD's party? yes that party's going to be banging Hmm.

DreamyMcDreamy · 20/02/2018 22:41

Sorry, haven't read the whole thread, just the first few pages.
Seriously, Year 1? That's what, 5 and 6 years old? I couldn't be arsed.
The next door neighbour mum sounds like a 6 year old herself,let her crack on.
Invites given out to everyone on the school run and the dd says that it's because she's not allowed to invite you - yeah, she's an utter cow (not the dd, her childish mother).
Don't sink to her level. Be the better person, push a birthday card through the door and tell your dd that not to worry, sometimes people can't invite everyone to parties and that you'll take her out for a lovely day instead.
Leave the house the morning of the party, post her a birthday card wishing her a happy birthday, it's her who comes out of this looking like a complete and utter child.