Early morning sex ...

[Sodamntiredasalways]

I get one lie in a week, a Sunday. The rest of the week I'm up for work or training (5:30/6am) and DH is still in bed. Apart from Saturday when we train together. DH has developed this habit of wanting sex at 6am on a Sunday morning. The sun wakes him up .... but apparently it doesn't Monday to Friday AIBU to want to scream at him to bugger off and let me sleep or should I appreciate the affection? He will persist every 15 minutes until I finally wake up and begrudgingly agree. So I can't pretend to be asleep. (This is lighthearted, I love him and we have a great physical relationship - I just was one lie in a week) thoughts ?

Gamerchick, I wouldn't jump to conclusions that letting a partner "get on with it" equates to allowing him to penetrate her whilst pretending to be asleep. It could also mean that she lets him get on with masturbation

Really?! maybe that poster will come back and elaborate then. However going on later posts it doesn’t seem to be the case.

Those without a penis can be guilty of “assault by penetration” or sexual assault.

This thread is pretty gross.

Op I can't quite work this out, you talks about him pestering you every 15 minutes, you talk about wanting to scream at him to leave you alone, you talk about begrudgingly agreeing.

All of that sounds like coercion to me, yet somehow I don't know if you're joking.

Do you actually want to have sex with him on Sunday mornings? If you do and this is a game of yours, then great, but I'm not sure why you started the thread. If you truly, genuinely don't want sex on Sunday mornings, and feel you have to, then it's not ok.

As for the person whose husband rapes her while she's asleep, I have no words.

I realise every relationship is different. Personally I love it when dh wakes me up for sex, I wish he'd do it more, sleepy sex is great.

If it's just a game of hard to get between two consenting adults then fine, but anyone bring pressured into sex isn't ok at all.

Again we have a description of non-consensual sex/ rape....I wonder what percentage of MNers husbands would fall into this category if there was a poll??? Probably would be quite high I imagine as most wouldn't see it as coercion or rape if there loving hubby did this on the regular

I'd love to know how some of you do sex. It s sounds to me something like...

Darling I'm just filling in our sex diary, is Tuesday night still OK? 10pm, great if you can just sign the consent form now and remember to bring it to bed on Tuesday. I will not lay a finger on you unless it's signed again 10.01pm Tuesday because you may have changed your mind and vice versa.

Just what's app me a copy please on Tuesday for my file and fingers crossed darling!

Enthusiastic consent, well it's complicated. Sometimes I tell dh to get lost, usually while giggling, but he knows me very well, he knows when no means no, or when it's role play. The tone of voice, the body language, the words used and so on.

If I genuinely didn't want to have sex, he wouldn't even ask again.

That's what I can't quite weigh up here, op either wants to have sex, in which case there's no point to this thread, other than to brag about her sex life?

Or she doesn't want to have sex, in which case it's getting into dangerous territory.

This thread is getting into dangerous territory that rape isn't something that happens between husband and wife, or only counts if the man holds her down while she kicks and screams.

"NO F*CK OFF" screamed loudly would be my response. My husband wouldn't dare wake me, I'm so not good on a morning.

Aeeiouslycantgetworse it's nothing to do with consent forms and appointments.

I'd be very worried if two people in an adult relationship couldn't tell when the other was enthusiastic about having sex.

I wonder what precentage of MNs would fall firmly on the left of the 100 on the IQ bell curve. In recent years the ones propping up the 100 has grown exponentially.
Sad and scary.

I wonder what precentage of MNs would fall firmly on the left of the 100 on the IQ bell curve

Well, aren’t you just the charmer.

My ex when we were together use to always try to have sex with me when I was asleep. I don't think it's rape at all, I heard plenty of men/women waking up there partners with sex.

Read any thread on MN and count the pseudo-intellectual sparks amongst the general knuckle dragging hysterics.
It's statistics.

Out of 100 times a husband and wife have sex, how many do you think the wife genuinely wants to have sex or while having sex is thinking "i need to do something else/ let's get this over with just to please the man/ nope don't really want to be doing this"
Am sure it happens A LOT....are these times RAPE?

Beyond ridiculous to all this rape. The couple have a loving relationship, it was stated that it was a lighthearted post, this mismatch of timings has been going on forever. Lighten up people. I love early morning sex, but only if we’ve cleaned our teeth.

Read any thread on MN and count the pseudo-intellectual sparks amongst the general knuckle dragging hysterics.

The irony here is spectacular .

Being pressured into sex is still very rapey

It very much sounds like consent forms to me because sex is usually imitated by one person wife or husband by the laying on of hands.

Sofiemonde that really shocks me. I have never once had sex with dh thinking that I don't want to be there, or want to get it over with. I've never faked an orgasm. I've never pretended.

Dh wouldn't want to have sex with me if I wasn't into it either.

Out of 100 times a husband and wife have sex, how many do you think the wife genuinely wants to have sex or while having sex is thinking "i need to do something else/ let's get this over with just to please the man/ nope don't really want to be doing this"

I literally never have sex when I don’t really want to. I thought that was normal.

Seeiouslycantgetworse you cannot see the difference between initiated and pestered into?

Yesterday dh initiates making a bacon sandwich. He said he fancied one, asked if I'd like one too, I agreed and he started cooking.

At no point did he repeatedly pester me into eating a bacon sandwich until I eventually gave in, despite not being hungry and not enjoying he sandwich.

It doesn't mean we need a consent form for bacon sandwiches.

I'd just go and sleep on the sofa

My ex when we were together use to always try to have sex with me when I was asleep. I don't think it's rape at all, I heard plenty of men/women waking up there partners with sex.

Christ! Are you having us on? You can’t seriously think this is ok just because seemingly everyone else is doing it. It’s not ok!

It's not too dissimilar with sex, if dh initiates sex by touching me, or kissing me, or whatever else. Well if I respond positively then this means yes please.

If I say no, or push him away, or roll away in bed, or completely ignore him, this isn't a green light to keep on and on until I give in.

It must be something about Sundays...because my DH is always bloody horny!! He pesters....sometimes I give in if i am in the mood other times i tell him to do one!!

Stoic, did you hear the call?