to have lost the will to live

[lovelystar]

Someone please give me some advice or something, anything to take my mind of how fuming I am.

I am being induced tomorrow at 11am, boyfriend went for a pint with a friend, fine, said he'd be back by 12, fine, gives me a chance to bath/clean/chill.

It's now 3am he has just stumbled in absolutely steaming, rang the doorbell constantly, waking me up even though he had his keys on him. He's been sick in the bedroom/bathroom knocking everything over. To top it all off I'm now on the sofa as he's diagonal across the bed snoring his head off and he's far to heavy for me to move him.

You know any other night I may have found it slightly amusing and left him to it. I just wanted tonight of all nights to not be woken up and kept awake and having to get up early to clean up all his sick before I come home with the baby. He will be a nightmare to get up in the morning and I don't think I can face the dramatics and moodiness of him when I have to get up and go and have a baby.

Would I be a complete bitch if I left him to it and went and had the baby myself and made him regret it for a long time. Or is that a step too far? It's my first baby and a high risk pregnancy. Sorry for the rant it's early/late and I'm angry.

It is your right to ger to focus on you and what you're about to do right now. If he's going to interfere with that, then maybe it is best if he isn't there. Very best of luck OP!

Good luck OP x

Just read this thread. Absolutely disgusting. Get rid of this fuck wit ASAP. You sound like you’ll be a fantastic mum. You e already had lots of experience cleaning up sick from the other baby. The man child you need to get rid of now.
Good luck op. Please consider what others are saying on here. It can be tempting to create a two parent unit when you have a child but really all dc need is a good safe home. He doesn’t sound like he’s going to help you with that

Good luck. Please leave and let you and baby have a decent life

I've just read your other thread about him cheating on you when you were pregnant with this baby and then blaming you for it.

Can you see a future for yourself without this complete waste of space, OP?

Do you have family you could go to after the baby's born?

Hope it's going well, and you've sent him out.

@tigercub that's what I always say to him, I'm already looking after one baby before the other one has arrived . He is here now and is behaving he said sorry but I am still not impressed merely because I'm now so exhausted

You’ll have hours to kill. Do yourself a favour; read over your other thread and ask yourself is this what you want your baby growing up with...

Please ask the midwife to put you in touch with an abuse counseler

You're being abused

his sober presence should not be enough to impress you

he's not sorry

he's frightened of losing his fucking housekeeper

You are being abused

You can't fix him Lovelystar, he's broken. As I once saw another poster say "You might love a lion but you can't keep one in the house, it would kill you and your children."

@qvar my due date isn't for another 2 weeks, the trip is for work and ubfortunatley she can't just stop doing her job for me, she had booked time off for the original due date and is back tomorrow!

I was planning on leaving, and is still very much on the cards however I guess I wasn't strong enough And with the whole pregnancy and being induced and all the appointments I was scared so stayed instead. I know i am always welcome back home and would be welcomed with open arms by everyone there l, there is even a room and nursery set up ready and just in case. Maybe when I've realised I'm strong enough to push a baby out I'll realise I'm strong enough to leave, especially for the babies sake.

For the next few days though I am just going to have to power through and make the best of a very shitty situation!

OP I’m so sorry this is happening. But you need to seriously think about your future with this man. He’s shown himself to be a complete twat. He may say he’s sorry but it counts for nothing because he has shown you - repeatedly - who he really is. You need support at this time. I would think seriously about asking him to leave and getting a friend/your Mum to help you out for a few weeks. Your HV may be able to put some support for you as well.

X posted with you OP.

Why can’t you do that at your mum’s though?

He sounds a nugget and having rooms set up looks people know enough already. Enjoy your baby when they arrive op. Please keep us updated

Don't take your baby into a home with that man. Go to your mum's.

the thing is, you don't have to do any of this shit

he has you trapped thinking you won't cope without him but you will be BETTER OFF without him

he's sabotaging you

Everything is ready for you at your mum's - sounds like she knows the score better than you do - so just go. Do you have a key? can you let yourself in?

He's a drowning man, lovelystar, and drowining men will grab anything to hold onto.

Don't let him drown you and the baby too.

For the next few days you are likely to still be in hospital - unless you particularly want to leave immediately to go home to the shitface wanker who is with you?
Then you can call your mum from the hospital and get her to come and pick you up, go and stay with her for a few days for some love and care; and when you've been there a bit, send someone over to yours to collect your stuff.
Job done, no strength required.

I feel nothing but sorrow for you and this baby. He is a knob. Get the midwife to send him home have your baby and go to your Mum. This guy will never ever treasure you or his child. No reasonable and living partner pulls shit like this. Only selfish dickheads who need to grow up!

Personally I would have a word with the midwife and get her to ask him to leave. And then go straight home to your Mum once you can leave hospital. If she has already set up a room it sounds like she already has the measure of him and is just waiting until you see the light and move back home. It is easier to go straight to hers from the hospital, so your partner gets the message from the beginning, it will be much more messy if you go back to him and then leave later. A new start with your baby.

This is one of the worst things I've ever read on MN. I want to say I can't believe you let him in the cab with you, but I know what its like to be about to undergo a procedure for birth and to be scared.

If you are tired and stressed the birth may take longer and you have that tosser in the room with you. I'd send him away.

Oh OP, my heart is breaking for you. I hope everything goes ok with the birth and you find the strength to leave this awful man.

You do not have to have him at the birth if you don't want to - it is not his right as the father. You need to have someone there who can support you and make this the best experience for you, and sometimes that is just the midwife. Your mum might be able to make it for the actual birth tomorrow if the induction takes a while.