to have lost the will to live

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Someone please give me some advice or something, anything to take my mind of how fuming I am.

I am being induced tomorrow at 11am, boyfriend went for a pint with a friend, fine, said he'd be back by 12, fine, gives me a chance to bath/clean/chill.

It's now 3am he has just stumbled in absolutely steaming, rang the doorbell constantly, waking me up even though he had his keys on him. He's been sick in the bedroom/bathroom knocking everything over. To top it all off I'm now on the sofa as he's diagonal across the bed snoring his head off and he's far to heavy for me to move him.

You know any other night I may have found it slightly amusing and left him to it. I just wanted tonight of all nights to not be woken up and kept awake and having to get up early to clean up all his sick before I come home with the baby. He will be a nightmare to get up in the morning and I don't think I can face the dramatics and moodiness of him when I have to get up and go and have a baby.

Would I be a complete bitch if I left him to it and went and had the baby myself and made him regret it for a long time. Or is that a step too far? It's my first baby and a high risk pregnancy. Sorry for the rant it's early/late and I'm angry.

Best of luck just focus on your new little bundle that you will be holding soon !

@EmmaJR1 I’m not the OP, but completely agree with your sentiments.

Whoops! @ChasedByBees on my @ thingy it shows you as OP! Sorry but glad you agree!

Best of luck OP

I am ( and on your behalf ) that your partner treated you with such disrespect.
You must be so excited and anxious and he goes off with a mate and gets drunk!!!
What age is he?

Under no circumstances clean up after him.
Is his family nearby?
If so, ask them to embarrass check on him.

I'd be livid if this was me!

You have enough on your plate without having to deal with this.

Good luck today...... Look forward to Baby update :)

Checking in with you OP, hope you're ok!

Good luck op.

He's awake, wanted to pee while I was in the shower told him to wait and just got 'are you doing to be a bitch all day'. Blegh just wanted to be chilled for today, wanted to straighten my hair and do my make up aswell now i feel poo

Why the fuck are you with this monstrosity??
I’m fuming on your behalf!

Good luck today.

This man won’t get better. They rarely do.

You are still at home and are being induced in 15 minutes. How does that work?

Quick photograph all the mess ( & the state of him) in case he tries to deny it in the future. Get your things ready & consider leaving the house to deliver your baby alone. Explain why to the midwife, in case he tries to come stumbling in drunk. He does not have any automatic right to be there, and a drunk/hungover partner is a massive hindrance and liability in a labour room.

You must put yourself and the baby first now, and to be honest, get used to it, because if this is any indication of how he approaches fatherhood, this is your future.

Best wishes for a safe delivery and a healthy baby.

If the nesting instinct is strong you could deal with it by packing his bags!

Seriously though, look after yourself, don't get het up, call a good friend for support, can you go to someone elses house to get ready?

Good luck and enjoy your wonderful new baby.xx

Cross-posted with you.

In light of your update, go alone to give birth & register baby in your name only. This is not going to end well.

Just... wow. Can't believe he acted like that and then had the audacity to say you are a bitch!! Doesn't sound like he's going to be a great father figure I have to say

yes i would take photos of the mess. absolutely don't tidy it up!

look after yourself, try stay calm and go to the hospital. don't take responsibility for him. you have your baby to think about.

You don't need this man in your life. Can you ring your mum and get her to come home from her trip? (Also a bit selfish of her IMO).

Don't get drawn into any more conversations with him. If you have the energy, maybe write him a letter explaining how you feel.

Good luck today. Induction can take quite a long time so maybe take some books, magazines, music etc.

Lots of us here are thinking of you.

Oh god op. Just read your update.
You don't need this, don't talk to him and go on your own and call your friend.

He should be begging for forgiveness, if he's not he doesn't deserve you.

Good luck today, you really won't need him there, my first husband moaned the whole time about his uncomfortable chair while I was in labour....it wasn't helpful!! X

Enigma
Great advice for the OP.

Ignore him for now - you need to concentrate on yourself and your wonderful baby. All the very best x

If imagine she's late lavs, because she's had a shocking night and is heavily pregnant? I was when I was induced and my partner was helping me!
FFS

I agree that your mum should be told, she might want to come home!

Also, I would tell his nan and tell him you don’t want him there when you get home.

Can anyone stay with you for a couple of days? Anyone that’s not him!

He called you a bitch??! Don't take him to the hospital with you, you'd be better of labouring by yourself, honestly.

are you going to be a bitch all day

that would have done it for me-hope the birth goes ok then you can leave this piece of filth

good luck xx

What a wanker. I can't believe how selfish and thoughtless some people are.

What time are you due to be the the hospital? Can you get there without him?