Someone At Door 😣

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It’s 19.13, I’ve just put 2yo dd to bed, done all my housework, been at work all day, so about to have a lovely hot bath and someone is knocking at my door, door is locked, not expecting anyone, my dp is working nights. AIBU not to answer or even check who it is...I’m scared

How’s it going with that woman OP? Has she took the hint yet?

I ignore the door all the time. I never thought to start a thread about it.

*I struggle, I never used to be like this I ran my own business for 7 years and was outgoing and so confident. But now every day is a struggle.

May I just say this - how I’m feeling could affect any one of you like it has done me out of the blue.*

Have you sought any help with this?

It’s going ok and I’m feeling so much better I just really panicked last night- I didn’t mean to piss the whole of MN off

Yes I am working with my doctor, and I am back there for a review Tuesday at 8.30
Currently on fluoxetine but think my dose may need to be upped

Keep going OP, this will pass. You'll get the meds right but it does take time.

My oh my. Had do you get through life dear. Sorry this is not meant to be rude or sarcastic. I do mean, just how do you get through day to day. That was more patronising than rudeness/sarcasm.

People need to try and remember there are real people behind the computer screen, real lives and feelings, there's never any need for nastiness. Great, state your views but being vile to others, is there any need.

I was on mirtazapine but I mistakenly thought I was impriving and decided to try to stop them. Big mistake. So my doctor has started me on fluoxetine, I’m on week 3 I think but I know it’s going to take a lot more, I just try and push myself each day. Doctor said I should maybe be off work, but I feel better being busy

I think most (if not all) the negative comments you got OP where made in the context of there being no underlying mental health issues. I don't think anybody would judge you or anyone else for being anxious about opening the door when there is a very good reason for it. Personally my comments were more directed at the people who ignore callers because they "cba" and think other people needing help or assistance is "not my problem", which I think is pretty rude and self centred, or someone who won't answer because they've read an SAS survival book, which for a person of good mental health would be a rather alarmist reaction to a knock on the door.

I was on mirtazapine but I mistakenly thought I was impriving and decided to try to stop them. Big mistake. So my doctor has started me on fluoxetine, I’m on week 3 I think but I know it’s going to take a lot more, I just try and push myself each day. Doctor said I should maybe be off work, but I feel better being

Please please please don't do this, your doctor will tell you when how to stop if ever.

There is no shame with taking medication, this attitude that there is does sadden me.

Actually the majority seem to agree with you op! I'm sorry you're having such a rough time of it and I can absolutely see why your mental health issues make it a big deal for you.

I'm surprised that so many, presumably without those issues, just wouldn't open the door though. It has never occurred to me not to. The poster quoting from a book by an ex-sas guy has properly made me chuckle though. I'm not sure we should all live our lives as if we're in the sas.

OP it’s got really weird around here of late, you didn’t piss off mumsnet. There’s always been people who like to find a way to stick the boot in just because but now they seem to outweigh anyone else.

Keep on plugging

I don't know anyone in real life who refuses to answer the door. Only on mumsnet.I don't know anyone in real life who refuses to answer the door. Only on mumsnet.

I quite often don't answer the door if I'm home alone, because the dog always tries to get out and snog attack the caller. But I do open the living room window and see who it is. The only time it hasn't been someone selling something, it was a police officer come to tell me my mum had died.

Thank you yes I should of put more info on the first post. I didn’t quite realise, anyways it’s done now. And I’ve apologised.

I don't answer the door. I'm not scared. I just don't want to be disturbed by people trying to sell me things whether that is religion, politics, wash cloths or anything else.

I always just ask who is it. And I usually answer. My friend didn’t answer her and the burglar assumed she wasn’t in, so this is why I always make it obvious I’m home.

Thank you lemonshark and lougel. To all those talking about snowflakes I'm quite old so not answering my door at night is from police advice. I answer the door during the day but only when I've checked who it is first. If I don't know them or it's not a delivery driver I don't answer.

Don't blame yourself OP. I lived on my own for 13 yrs and I still flinch when the door goes if it is dark. I would not answer it.

Can you afford counselling. There is a reason (imv) for the anxiety, you need to work through your thinking to work this reason out, then work on that problem.
I live in the country and we get parcel deliveries at all hours. Email says parcel will be delivered between 1-2pm, arrives any time after that into the evening.

I wouldn't answer the door in the evening either. This is why we installed a doorbell with a camera so it rings a box on the lounge wall. I can see them and speak to them without going near the door. Makes it so much easier to say 'no thank you' and hang up!

I have been referred for counselling through my gp, however I probably could afford it privately. I know I still have a mountain to climb

I get quite scared of answering the door and generally don't as there have been reports locally of burglars knocking on doors and forcing their way in. In the day and at night!

I've come to the conclusion that this place is frequented by people who have lost all sense of normality.

And fucking fruitloops, don't forget the fruitloops.........

If you’d been more specific as to why you were so freaked by someone at your door at 7.15 pm, you’d have got an entirely different response I imagine. Very few of us are psychic so without any reference to a problem neighbour, anxiety and depression issues, people are probably going to think you over reacted. This is a huge site and many posters reading this thread will have had no idea about a previous and related one. Hope you soon start to feel much better, anxiety and depression are so debilitating and utterly exhausting .