to feel sorry for my friend with the eco-warrior DH?

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(sort of lighthearted but not really)

Very close friend is married to a professional eco-warrior. He's employed high up in a green charity and has in the past been involved in Green politics. They have two daughters of school age. Friend also works but not in the green sector, she's a nurse.

Because her DH is a dyed in the wool "knit your own lentil" person, he has to be seen to walk the walk as well as talk the talk. Nothing non-eco. They do have a car, but he cycles to work and she takes the train.

But what makes me feel REALLY sorry for her, and her girls, is that they have bought a touring caravan for all holidays. Despite the fact they're earning good money and could afford a week in the sun somewhere, they spend every holiday cooped up in a tin box so he can show what a WORTHY person he is.

They are currently in Wales. In the freezing cold and rain. In fucking FEBRUARY.

YABU.
First you suggest that it's sad for her that they do not use a car to get to work, and next you claim it's even sadder that they 'spend every holiday cooped up in a tin box'
Eh? But being in a car is the uiltimate 'cooped up in a tin box' experience: significantly worse than being in a caravan, which is essentially a little home on wheels.

And I'd assume they use this caravan simply because they like caravan holidays, as some people seem to do, because actually a touring caravan is not such an eco friendly way to holiday at all... Travelling to France by Eurostar, for example, would be a significantly more eco-conscious move.

Yabu. Her choice. Your use of the language “knit your own lentil” (or whatever it was) says more about you really.

Her choice, not yours. Presumably she is ok with it and on board with it. If not, she should have thought about that before committing to him, sorry. If he's changed since marriage/DC, presumably she's in on it and ok with it.

He wouldn't be for me though. If it's in the UK I don't call it a holiday.

Well the weather this weekend has been ok in the Welsh borders, but damp now but we had a good long walk in the sunshine with the DGC yesterday and were out and about today as well.

Caravans have heating, full washrooms, proper fridges and cookers these days, and have done for the whole of the time I have been caravanning 30 years. We have been all over the Uk, France, northern Spain and Italy.

So YABU to go on about their holidays.

As for being an eco warrior type- how preachy is he? If he just gets on with it then ok, acting like he's the sole saviour of the world, not so good.