Can someone be too fertile?

[ByTheBlueBay]

I was on the pill for 6 years before I came off it. We conceived DD when we didn't use a condom once. Literally, once. I know once is all it takes but it was a shock.

Anyway since having DD we always used a condom. However it wasn't used straight away, there'd be a few pumps first (TMI). We'd only have sex once a month or so but I still managed to fall pregnant on DH's precum.

Am I super fertile? I had a termination and we haven't had sex since. I'm too scared. I'm considering the implant but I'm not sure how the hormones will affect me with depression and anxiety.

Maisypops - you were so busy being outraged you got all your facts wrong,

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My mistake. I thought I was in thr pregnancy and conceptio area.

It's hardly an AIBU either. It's 'look at me being smug about super fertility which isn't super fertility at all. I was just too lazy to use contraception so had an abortion'.

I understand @MaisyPops

To address your point the implant is very very good. I've had it twice and I'm like you. Look at me and I'm up the duff. The implant works quite quickly - about 5 days I think but I do know of occasions where if you're lucky your periods stop or as in the case of Dd it gave her a 3 month period.

But I'd recommend it wholeheartedly.

Oh my gosh why are you digging at me?! It can be dealt with. Via antidepressants, therapy etc. I have been through an abortion. Jesus.
Well it is isn't it? She's not having a baby after taking that precaution to end her pregnancy. Which if she was well educated it'd be common sense for her being "too fertile" she knew it could happen regardless.

It's 'look at me being smug about super fertility which isn't super fertility at all. I was just too lazy to use contraception so had an abortion'.

Exactly.

Yes you're too fertile so therefore you must take a drug to help- the contraceptive pill.

But seriously though. I got pregnant when we didn't use a condom only once. I then decided I didn't want any more for a couple of years. So I took necessary precautions. Then when we decided to have another one we got pregnant straightaway.

Now I am done having children that I am double extra very careful as I really wouldn't want to have to go through a termination

Oh my gosh why are you digging at me?

I’m responding to your comments you know how discussion boards work right?

It can be dealt with. Via antidepressants, therapy etc.

And abortion. Abortion is one of the options. Why would you judge someone for choosing one of the options available to them to deal with their personal Circumstances?

Well it is isn't it?

What is what?

Having a termination is a hell of a lot harder than using contraception. It's not an 'easy pill'.

Some very prejudiced opinions on this thread.

Taking 'a pill' to terminate a pregnancy isn't easy. I'm still waking up covered in blood in the mornings six weeks later. It's not easy at all... and people say that I've been offensive

Seek medical advice. When that was happening to me after my medical management, I had retained products.

I'm staunchly pro choice.
I do have strong feelings about adult women not using contraception and acting like pregnancy is some surprising consequence of unprotected sex.

I agree with you @MaisyPops

I do have strong feelings about adult women not using contraception and acting like pregnancy is some surprising consequence of unprotected sex.

Me too Maisy. I’m pro choice too, I don’t see why people are acting like we are against abortion because we think adult women should use contraception.

I once got pregnant when a condom split and the morning after pill didn’t work. I had a termination and made sure after that that I knew when I was ovulating. When we were ready to have a baby I got pregnant 4 times at the first attempt (lost 3 of those to miscarriage). Get to know your own body, and wake up to the fact that anything that comes out of a man’s penis, that is not urine, is designed to create a pregnancy. And they can fertilise the egg up to3 days after intercourse.

OP, I think you've gotten a lot of unwarranted slack on this thread.

I also get pregnant each time I have unprotected sex. I have 3 dc and have had 6 pregnancies. I also suffer from anxiety and have the Mirena. No remembering to take the pill, no side effects. Go the GP and see what your options are, you do have some!

I don’t see why people are acting like we are against abortion because we think adult women should use contraception.
Or if they make a mistake they say 'i think DH and i have been careless. I fell pregnant and have had a termination. I'm after some people to talk to'. That would equally get a bit of sympathy. Sure it's careless and shows lack of sex ed but i get it.

What irritates me is 'oh dear me.. It was only a few times unprotected but who'd have thought i'd get pregnant. I've had an abortion too but now I'm also bothered about sorting out contraception because I might not like it but what do you think guys. I'm probably super fertile'.

You're either pro-choice as in it is the womans CHOICE for whatever reason and under whatever circumstances...or you're not.

You're not pro-choice if you think there are certain circumstances under which it isn't acceptable.

Exactly Harvey when it comes to pro choice it's all or nothing. Yes there are women who use abortion as contraception and whilst it's questionable it's still their choice. Ignore Cats and Maisy OP. A lot of people on here are jaded because of their own experiences. I'd recommend visiting a sexual health clinic so you can hopefully find a form of contraception that works for you

We haven’t said it should be banned. We’ve said we think the OP to be very childish.

I still think she needs medical attention if she’s bleeding this long afterwards.

I thought (stupidly) this was going to be about fertility issues to do with having too high ovarian reserve. Which can be a sign of PCOS and can be an issue.

I'm not upset by your thread, OP, but I do think you're a bit rude to assume people with fertility issues wouldn't read it, because it sounds like an issue!

I've definitely read this thread op before about a year or so ago on here. It upset a lot of women on here at the time on the ttc board and op was reminded how insensitive such a thread was for those struggling to conceive.

Their is a variation in the fertility of humans, like there are many variations among us. Some people do conceive more easily than others.
It sounds like you are one of them.
Be sure to use contraception if you don’t want a baby, always, every time.
Also be warned, fertility declines with age, so Just because you are super fertile now, it may be harder to conceive in say ten years. I don’t know how old you are, but I do know many people who accidentally fell pregnant in their 20s. Fast forward to late 30s when they wanted dc and it took much longer than expected.

WHAT does that have to do with this magic? It's not on the conception forum.

I appreciate the heartbreak of infertility and losses I really do. I have had losses myself and supported my friend through failed IVF.

But there is a strange situation that occurs for some women where the fertility of others - especially those others that terminate or give up their children for adoption or don't provide a loving home for their children is seen as a perceived source of offence in some way.

That some women desperately want to be pregnant (or can't maintain a pregnancy) so those that find it easy to conceive or who don't want a pregnancy or to look after their children and talk about that - are somehow insensitive to the women who are struggling or 'rubbing their nose in it' or some other negative perception.