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Can someone be too fertile?

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ByTheBlueBay · 14/02/2018 12:13

I was on the pill for 6 years before I came off it. We conceived DD when we didn't use a condom once. Literally, once. I know once is all it takes but it was a shock.

Anyway since having DD we always used a condom. However it wasn't used straight away, there'd be a few pumps first (TMI). We'd only have sex once a month or so but I still managed to fall pregnant on DH's precum.

Am I super fertile? I had a termination and we haven't had sex since. I'm too scared. I'm considering the implant but I'm not sure how the hormones will affect me with depression and anxiety.

OP posts:
kirinm · 15/02/2018 11:43

@TheCatsPaws you're really horribly judgemental

TheCatsPaws · 15/02/2018 11:46

Kirin

No I’m not. OP posted this thread, and what exactly was the point? She had unprotected sex and got pregnant. It’s the equivalent of the size 6 girl going “OMG do you think I’m -too- skinny guys?”

She wasn’t asking contraceptive advice, or thinking she had a medical problem. And super fertility is an issue where women get pregnant relatively easily and have miscarriages.

OP was insensitive, immature and ignorant about sex. Hopefully now she is not.

GreatScottie18 · 15/02/2018 11:52

OP, have you decided what contraception you are going to use?

I believe that sometimes your body adapts itself in order to conceive. I became pregnant by having unprotected sex on the first day of my period. My partner didn’t ejaculate inside me and we thought we were 100% safe. It was the only time we had unprotected sex that month and when my period was late I couldn’t believe that I could possibly be pregnant.

There is a very good reason why you absolutely must use protection if you don’t want to conceive. It’s called biology.

kirinm · 15/02/2018 11:59

She's perhaps misinformed but none of the rest. It's you that is hyper sensitive. Stop reading the thread. And how dare you sit and judge someone who chooses to have an abortion. Who are you to say she didn't have to have one? You know nothing about her mental health and precisely how a baby could have affected that. Yes she should be more sensible with contraception but the reality is, to get pregnant you need to have unprotected sex in your fertile period. There are plenty of days in a cycle where you aren't fertile. It's easy to avoid pregnancy if you know your cycle.

TheCatsPaws · 15/02/2018 12:01

Kirin I have no problem with her choosing an abortion. My problem was with the wording. She chose to. And that’s okay, just don’t pretend she didn’t have a choice.

I’m not the only one who said her thread was stupid.

kirinm · 15/02/2018 12:02

No but you are insistent it's massively insensitive which it isn't.

ColaCube22 · 15/02/2018 12:03

thecatspaws you clearly have your own reasons why this is offensive to you.
Why are you still on a post that is causing you to be so upset?
Its interesting that you are ignoring everyones comments on the fact that she didn't catogarise it under fertility or pregnancy, maybe just maybe because she didn't want to to upset those struggling.
Perhaps you could start a thread to educate everyone on the correct Language, phrases, conversations we are allowed to use so not to cause offence in any way to anyone.

TrickyKid · 15/02/2018 12:04

I would think it's pretty common, not too fertile just not careful enough with contraception. I got pregnant straight away twice and wouldn't take any risks.

TheCatsPaws · 15/02/2018 12:06

Whether it’s in the pregnancy section or not, this site has a lot of people who are struggling.

I actually clicked on this because I assumed it was about super fertility in relation to recurrent loss, when women get pregnant easily but have miscarriages. Instead it was just someone who doesn’t know how sex works. Which I find pretty shocking.

Justanotherzombie · 15/02/2018 12:12

It's not about being too fertile, it's about not understanding how contraception works. Lots of other people would get pregnant too if they had sex without contraception like you have been.

GinDaddy · 15/02/2018 12:44

It would be fine if the original poster was the main one commenting on her "issue", but what these threads inevitably turn into is a string of "subtle proof of fertility" posts , as if someone is taking some sort of poll on the subject

DonnyAndVladSittingInATree · 15/02/2018 12:56

Kirin I have no problem with her choosing an abortion

You very clearly to cats it oozes from your posts. It’s very obvious you disagree with abortion by choice.

Gigimoll · 15/02/2018 13:53

I can see cats point of view.
I had a termination in 2015. I was ready for the baby and then my brother committed suicide which lead to a downwards spiral of me wanting to commit selfishly because I couldn't imagine my life without him. My opinion on abortion is it should only be for for medical reasons. Not as a form of contraceptive. Hypocritical of me. But that's why I can sorta understand op as well. But it doesn't matter what WE think.

Op. You need to be careful because I don't know about you, abortion traumatised me. I regret it. I'm depressed because of it, even now when I'm carrying our son. It's a terrible thing to go through for anyone.

I don't think you should worry about hormones etc. The coil which doesn't give out hormones may be good for you. I have pcos so I have to be careful too, but it may be an option. Just please get on some contraception and please make sure you're educated on pre ejaculation and make sure your dp knows about it too.

TheCatsPaws · 15/02/2018 13:54

I don’t, just don’t pretend you didn’t have a choice. You did.

DonnyAndVladSittingInATree · 15/02/2018 13:58

My opinion on abortion is it should only be for for medical reasons.

Mental health isn’t a medical issue?

Not as a form of contraceptive.

You don’t understand what the term contraceptive is if you think abortion is a form of contraceptive. Contraceptives prevent conception. Abortions end a pregnancy.

Not even going to bother with you cats.

Ubercornsdiscoball · 15/02/2018 14:01

Use contraception OP and I totally get why this is offensive to people. Maybe grow up a bit

SmiledWithTheRisingSun · 15/02/2018 14:02

Jeeze! Stop having a go at the op.
I have had unprotected sex - as in my DH ejuculated inside me 3 times and always fell pregnant.
When using condoms we have started off without putting them on to get in the mood and then put condom on before he ejuculates. Have never got pregnant this way in 20 years.
So no, it's not THAT ridiculous to think you won't get pregnant if the man doesn't come inside you.

BifsWif · 15/02/2018 14:02

I had to have an abortion too, because I wasn’t ready to have a baby and my contraception failed. See my previous comments about super fertility.

I don’t give a shit how offensive you find that.

SmiledWithTheRisingSun · 15/02/2018 14:06

Not to say it couldn't happen. Just saying it's less likely.

dotdotdotmustdash · 15/02/2018 14:08

Basically OP, you're shutting the stable door after at least two million tiny horses have bolted.

That make any more sense?

Gigimoll · 15/02/2018 14:10

No. Mental health is a medical issue. But it can be delt with properly. Unfortunately i didn't have that support. I'm on about medical reasons with the foetus or mother. Obviously it's a woman's body. But in this case I cant see how OP was so careless in this case to know she easily conceives and knew it was a possibility.
And I suppose you can class it as that. It is to terminate a pregnancy.
Some women do however have the fun, get pregnant carelessly and use it as a contraceptive. Cause its so easy to take a damn pill.

MaisyPops · 15/02/2018 14:17

You had unprotected sex and got pregnant and then post on a pregnancy board going on about being super fertile ans how you had an abortion because you couldn't be arsed to use contraception.

And you can't see why that might wind people up.
Hmm...

AlbertaSimmons · 15/02/2018 14:19

As far as I understand it, and I'm old so things might have changed Wink, the only way to be sure to avoid pregnancy is to avoid having sex with a man, specifically PIV sex. That means not even "a few pumps" or any receipt of "precum" .

Oh, and I'm sure someone will be along to correct this, but I don't think pregnancy is a cumulative effect, as in you have to have sex 10 times to get a baby. Just the once will do Hmm.

DonnyAndVladSittingInATree · 15/02/2018 14:19

Mental health is a medical issue. But it can be delt with properly.

What do you mean dealt with properly? Pregnancy caused decline in mental health, solution was to end the pregnancy. That is dealing with it properly.

I'm on about medical reasons with the foetus or mother

Mental health is a medical reason with the mother.

Some women do however have the fun, get pregnant carelessly and use it as a contraceptive.

Again, learn what the word contraceptive means. They aren’t using abortion as a contraceptive. They are using it as an abortion. To end a pregnancy. Which is exactly what abortion is designed for.

Cause its so easy to take a damn pill.

I’m extremely glad it is so damn easy to end a pregnancy. So many lives have been saved because of that easy to take pill.

DonnyAndVladSittingInATree · 15/02/2018 14:20

maisypops this is AIBU, it’s not a pregnancy board.