To feel so let down by DP!?

[Divaroses26]

I’ll try not to drip feed, so here goes....

DP and I have been together a while, in a very happy secure stable relationship - no problems either side im aware of...but....

Today DP has decided to go and visit his biological father and his partner around 150 miles away from us. DFils wife has been diagnosed with terminal cancer - 12 months to live. Awfully sad.

Now, DP very briefly lived with DFil & Wife for around a year, he also had a relationship with a local girl around that time which ended rather sourly, however DFil and his wife have remained in contact and friends with the said girl despite all the problems she has caused DP & I since we got together. (That’s a whole other story tho so won’t go into detail!) Anyhow, DP has gone to visit today in our car (which we share!) and not even asked if I would like to join him! He knows I had issues around this as I’m fearful he will bump into his ex and ultimately bring things to the surface again, as well as this, they’ve decided to go out to watch the rugby. Now to me, that’s not visiting someone who is terminally ill, that’s going on a fuckin jolly!

I asked DP to get the train so I wouldn’t be stuck at home as I’m car-less and he refused!!
Whose being unreasonable here? Him or I? Was it wrong of me to expect an invite? Xx

[thewanderer03]

Agree with OP sorry. YABU why are you worried that your partner may bump into this person, surely if you trusted him that shouldn't matter and it sounds like a big if anyway, unless it's a very small place?