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Friends DH broken loaned item

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welshmist · 09/02/2018 16:01

OH lent an electric meat slicer to a friend for a party, he broke it apparently, his DW has messaged us saying she has bought her DH a new one because he liked it so much, should she throw out our broken one. I paid £150 for the item as a present, I am annoyed that she is being so cavalier about this, DH says to say nothing but I feel bloody annoyed that it will cost us another £150 to replace it.

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pictish · 09/02/2018 16:25

I agree that you can reply. It’s an expensive item and they are out of line! Be explicit!

“I don’t understand why you have replaced the slicer you borrowed from us then broke, with a new one for yourselves. You are due us a slicer so surely the replacement is for us?”

Orangecake123 · 09/02/2018 16:25

Oh wow- CF to the limit.

Do not let this drop. Say thank you for the replacement! And never lend anything out ever again.

ElderflowerWaterIsDelish · 09/02/2018 16:25

Yes you can reply to her, just say you saw your husband text from her...or your husband told you about her text/showed you her text (you are husband and wife, of course you are going to talk to each other about it, it's an item from your house that you lent them and now it's broken)

Just say something like "thank you for offering to dispose of the broken one, I am happy to hear that your husband likes it as much as we liked using ours, we are wondering which would be more convenient for you , you go and buy us a new one, or you give us the money and I and dh will get a replacement for the one you broke,"

mummmy2017 · 09/02/2018 16:25

Tell her can she return your and you will let her know how much it's going to cost to fix, or replace.

Handsfull13 · 09/02/2018 16:27

If it wasn't broken then you were expecting it to be returned I assume.
Therefore I'd ask if they are planning to get it repaired or replacing it.
Tell your husband it's his present and he is to deal with it, either kick up a fuss and deal with possible consequences or shut up and put up. But make it clear that you wont be replacing it, he'll have to sort it himself.

Hissy · 09/02/2018 16:27

Stop linking other issues that are fuck all to do with the issue at hand

They borrowed a meat slicer and broke it. They need to replace it.

it is THAT simple.

Just ring her and say, 'thanks for letting us know about the slicer, they are GREAT, aren't they? we'll obviously need you to replace it, as soon as you can.

Perhaps you can have the one she bought and they can replace theirs when convenient to them, but you do need yours back because it's yours.

barefoofdoctor · 09/02/2018 16:27

Dingdangdanny or Attacusss have the right idea. Does your DP have a spine?

MrsElvis · 09/02/2018 16:28

What sinceyouask said. They are taking the piss

Labradoodliedoodoo · 09/02/2018 16:29

Ask them to pay for it to be fixed

ElderflowerWaterIsDelish · 09/02/2018 16:30

Just wondering, is their new one, the same model as your "broken" one

It seems a bit suspicious that they "break" yours, offer to "dispose" of yours and then "buy" a replacement and keep the replacement,

Is there any chance that this is a story they have both made up to keep yours?

Can you ask to physically in person see the broken one to check it really is yours that's broken and that they aren't scamming you with a story to keep yours

bigbellyjelly · 09/02/2018 16:31

They are taking the piss big time!!

Just get DH to say "that's great you loved it, I love it too. Will the replacement for ours be delivered to our house or yours?" Followed by passive aggressive smiley emoji

Thebluedog · 09/02/2018 16:31

Borrow there’s and don’t take it back. When they ask tell them it’s broken

Iloveacurry · 09/02/2018 16:32

They should offer to replace it!

bigbellyjelly · 09/02/2018 16:32

It's the sort of thing I'd waive if it was £20 max. But £150- no chance!

translationAndRotation · 09/02/2018 16:32

My reply would be "get to fuck, you fuck". Small claims court would be the next step.

SandAndSea · 09/02/2018 16:35

I'm sure there must be a way to handle this without creating a problem. I think I would text her back, maybe something like, "Not sure if I'm understanding - is the new one for us or do you think you can get ours repaired?"

DriggleDraggle · 09/02/2018 16:35

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GreenSeededGrape · 09/02/2018 16:36

No one is this much of a CF surely Shock

I would absolutely be following this up OP. The fucking cheek of your 'friend'.

Nanasueathome · 09/02/2018 16:37

Just reply and say you would really like yours repaired and returned to you in working order

Thebluedog · 09/02/2018 16:37

£150! I might waive it for a quiet life at a tenner, but not 150 quid!

restingbemusedface · 09/02/2018 16:38

CF klaxon

TryAgainAndAgain · 09/02/2018 16:39

How weird of them.

Are you sure your DH hasn't said something that might make them think it's ok?

I'd send a text pretending to have misread their text.

'Hi Weird Friend, just wanted to know if you've managed to get the meat slicer repaired or replaced yet. We've been missing it and are hoping to get it back soon'.

Passmethecakeplease · 09/02/2018 16:39

Quick question - are electric meat slicers all the rage at parties nowadays then?

GnotherGnu · 09/02/2018 16:40

Ask if they've claimed the cost of the broken one off their insurance and when you'll get the replacement.

MargotLovedTom1 · 09/02/2018 16:41

Never mind what your soft shite husband says!

Text her and say "Can you replace the meat slicer you've broken please? Obviously I'm not prepared to write off a £150 item I bought for Dave/Mike/whatever Softy's called! Cheers."