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Friends DH broken loaned item

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welshmist · 09/02/2018 16:01

OH lent an electric meat slicer to a friend for a party, he broke it apparently, his DW has messaged us saying she has bought her DH a new one because he liked it so much, should she throw out our broken one. I paid £150 for the item as a present, I am annoyed that she is being so cavalier about this, DH says to say nothing but I feel bloody annoyed that it will cost us another £150 to replace it.

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NotAgainYoda · 09/02/2018 16:10

This doesn't ring true

Atticusss · 09/02/2018 16:11

Was it clear it was a loan? Or did they think you gave it to them? Sounds like that's what they thought. Just say 'it's up to you, you are welcome to keep it and see if you can fix it for yourselves. Thanks for replacing, don't know what we'd do without it'

MadMags · 09/02/2018 16:11
Hmm
MissionItsPossible · 09/02/2018 16:11

How bloody rude. CF of the highest order.

Graphista · 09/02/2018 16:12

Someone always suggests apologising to cheeky gits! No!

do NOT give them the opportunity to be even cheekier - they WILL take it 9/10

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welshmist · 09/02/2018 16:14

Our DH are both keen cooks, who like to entertain it is useful for large joints. They borrowed it for a party, thought it was brilliant but broke it. So her dH had one for xmas. Hubby will not let me kick up a fuss, but keeps bending my bloody ear about it. She messaged him not me so I cannot reply (bangs head)

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Bluntness100 · 09/02/2018 16:14

She can't have thought it was a gift, because she wouldn't have asked what' to do with the old one.

They are simply being tight and grabby,

MyKingdomForBrie · 09/02/2018 16:15

Message her separately and say what bluntness said.

MavisPike · 09/02/2018 16:15

of course you can reply to her ...... its £150 !!!

Passmethecakeplease · 09/02/2018 16:16

I'd reply asking saying that it's great she's replaced it so quickly, she can chuck the broken one away and drop the replacement one off to you tonight/tomorrow/whenever as you'll be in.

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welshmist · 09/02/2018 16:16

Our children are friends which makes it more difficult we are in a big social circle dating back to primary school days. There was a disagreement between two parents 8 years ago which got way out of hand and other parents were expected to take sides. I think DH does not want a repeat of that.

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NoSquirrels · 09/02/2018 16:17

Tell DH if he’s not going to ask her to replace it then you don’t want to hear anything more about it - it’s his choice whether to address the situation or ignore it.

Only1scoop · 09/02/2018 16:17

Bloody hell are folk really this brazen??

Tink2007 · 09/02/2018 16:17

Part of me wonders if they actually broke it at all and are actually keeping your one.

ObscuredbyFog · 09/02/2018 16:18

WOW, they are CFers.

Borrow their new one, then tell them you've broken it whilst you keep it hidden every time they visit. Grin

Bluntness100 · 09/02/2018 16:18

The thing is she's relying on uou being too polite to say anything. She's also been quite clever, because as soon as he says bin it, it's game over....

Only1scoop · 09/02/2018 16:19

What Obscured said

ElderflowerWaterIsDelish · 09/02/2018 16:19

I would remind them that they LOANED IT from you, they BROKE the item, and ask if they plan to buy you a new one or to give you money towards a new one...

Don't be afraid to speak up, they are relying on you keeping quiet so they can get away with it,

Whocansay · 09/02/2018 16:20

Some things are worth a disagreement. Quite frankly £150 is one of them.

diddl · 09/02/2018 16:20

If you paid £150 for it as a present-then it's your husband's & he can decide what to do?

If he cba to do anything about it then he needs to stfu!

I'd be pissed off with him though!

Graphista · 09/02/2018 16:20

Yes the bitching but doing nothing about it would piss me off too - grow a spine or stfu!

LittleLights · 09/02/2018 16:21

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LizardMonitor · 09/02/2018 16:21

How on earth did he break it?

HollyBayTree · 09/02/2018 16:23

Borrow it
Announce you broke it
Keep it

Sorted

mustbemad17 · 09/02/2018 16:25

DH has two choices; he tells the cheeky fucker to replace the one they broke OR he cuts his losses & shuts the fuck up about them having broken it