To think these parents should be hauled over the coals for this

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A teenage girl was given highlights for her birthday by her mum - subtle ones - and when she returned home from a visit to see her father and stepmother they had cut off all of her hair as they disapproved. She has literally about 1-2 cm of hair length left on her head. She had long hair before.

Here's the link: uk.yahoo.com/style/father-chops-off-daughter-hair-124424056.html

AIBU to think this is a form of child abuse to do this to somebody against their will??? What a cruel, hateful thing thing to do to a child.

I read on Facebook it was the Step mother’s niece who is a hair dresser who cut the hair. Now obviously that could be made up.
She has a wig now.
The go fund me is apparently for a legal fight of some sort?
I got all that from the comments on the mums post and she also set up a page called Team Kesley there’s more comments there

How on earth do you get a teenager to sit down and let her hair be shorn

The dad is horrible and completely out of order to punish the poor kid that way, when really it was the mother who was at fault.

Well assuming the story is all true, why do you think getting highlights for a child is worse than cutting off her hair against her will?

There's also this:

www.change.org/p/division-support-christin-johnson

My mum once bought me black and blue hair extensions for my birthday. My dad and 3 year old brother came to watch. My dad didn't hack them all off. He probably didn't approve, but he didn't say a word. Like a proper dad.

What’s wrong with highlights? It’s not as though she asked for a deathhawk and a couple of piercings

I wondered if it was the same kid in the before and after photos. There’s definitely a lot more to this and I would slate the dad and stepmum just yet.?

The girl with the short hair looks much older than 13. Look at the lines in her hands and on the corner of her eyes. I don't believe it's the same person.

why do you think getting highlights for a child is worse than cutting off her hair against her will?
where did I write it was worst? I said that petty "revenge" against the kid when the dad is mad at the mother (and rightly so) is very wrong. I never said that cutting her hair was acceptable.

Looks like two different people to me

Looks like the adults playing out their tantrums and power games using the poor girl as their canvas.

Who can mark her? Who can own her skin and bone? And who can scribble over the other ones marks?

They’d be using a branding iron in a different age.

Foul. I hope that girls spirit isn’t too damaged and she gets to claim her own body, mind and self as soon as she can.

I saw this yesterday. Apparently the mum went and got her daughter a long black wig. There was a picture and in said picture you could see her long blonde hair poking out from underneath the wig.

The teen is 17. Perfectly reasonable for her to choose how she has her hair.

I'm confused now... you can clearly see long blonde hair under that wig

The change petition suggests the mum wants the daughter back at home with her. It's pure speculation but not impossible that she cooked up this scheme for that purpose.

But surely it would be really easy to disprove - if the girl still has long hair; if the first pic was also a wig; if the hair was actually cut by a professional with the girl's co-operation - that's going to come out so easily on an investigation!

where did I write it was worst?

Well, your exact words were "when really it was the mother who was at fault". If the mother's the one who's "really" at fault, then yes, assuming the story's all true, you think getting highlights was worse than cutting off the hair.

Soubriquet That’s the picture I was talking about.

I thought that was a colour streak in the wig. But I don't know anything about hair. As you'd know if you saw mine.

There certainly are abusive men who would do this to a child to spite the child's mother.
There are plenty of abusive parents who post stuff of them abusing (not referring to sexual abuse, but to punishments) their DC on social media - for attention, or to further humiliate the child, or to demonstrate what a 'traditional' parent they are.

And there are also people who use their children to scam for either attention or money - remember that poor little kid who was displayed crying about school bullying? Even though it turned out the kid was getting duffed up for persistent racism, it was still a case of a parent using the child for their own gain.

Certainly looks like there is a lot more to this story now doesn't it

Even if the mum doesn't have custody of the girl and was well aware the dad had already said no to the highlights, for him to cut off his daughter's hair is still absolutely vile. Punish your ex, not your child!

I thought the shaved pics weren’t the same girl. I can’t think that the indie wouldn’t have checked out the story though.. and if the dad and SM have been suspended from work? Odd.

That hair isn't 1 cm long. It is short but 1 cm it isn't, well maybe where it is shaped round the neck but not on the top. I thought she was going to look like she'd had a military style cut.

I think the style is nice, shame if she doesn't like it but abuse? Unless they used violence or intimidation to cut it I don't think that is abuse.

Isn't the wig just made to look like ombre hair - dark on top, light at the ends? I don't think it's her actual hair.

I think the style is nice, shame if she doesn't like it but abuse? Unless they used violence or intimidation to cut it I don't think that is abuse.

Ordering a stylist to cut off a minor's hair against their wishes is abusive. They didn't need to be holding her down for it to have still been a traumatic and distressing experience.