To ring my mum at 3:30am

[Mirrorbella]

I’ve just woken up and had an urge to make sure my Dad is OK. I’ve never had this feeling before and I can’t settle. I don’t want to wake her up unnecessarily but at the same time I’m thinking “what if....”

I’m not usually particularly woo and hadn’t had any dreams that would have unsettled me etc

Different if it was a regular thing but once in a blue moon, who cares.

Me. And, it would seem, the majority of people on this thread

always follow your gut what a load of absolute shite. Can’t believe how many people are actually saying it’s ok to ring someone off the back of a feeling about someone who has no health problems or issues at 3:30 AM

I agree with this. I can't believe you actually phoned. 😱😱😱. That's crazy!

Yabvvvvvvu

Waking someone up at 3.30 based on a “feeling”.

I’d be livid if one of my dds did that to me. I’d assume on hearing the phone ring that someone had died or was in serious danger. And I’d privwvly not get back to sleep. But hey, at least you’d know your dad was ok

I also hope you texted your mum last night to say everything is ok. Died have woken up, seen the missed call and she would be panicking!

*She’d have woken

Thinking about it , if one of my kids phoned me in the middle of the night based on a gut feeling I'd be concerned they were either taking drugs, drinking or were having mental health issues. (BTW. I'm not implying the OP has mental health issues just if it were one of my kids)

I'd be miffed if you called me at that hour, more for the sheer panic when I woke up to why youd called

Did you speak to them this morning g OP?

It isn't madness.

This happened to me while I was away studying. I woke up at 3am with the most horrible sensation, convinced that something was wrong. I never want to feel like that again.

I rang my father at 7 am who said "how do you know"? A close family member had committed suicide two days before, and my family had agreed to keep it from me until the weekend, when they could come and collect me in person.

Op - I didn't mean to upset you by that post - I just wanted you to know that sometimes we should trust our instincts. How are things this morning? I am sure your family are absolutely fine btw!

if someone called me at 3:30am I would wake in a panic, have trouble understanding why they called for no good reason, and after ending the call I would lie there with my heart still pounding, worrying about what was really going on with the caller that would make them behave so oddly.

Saying that, one of my friends did once call me IN THE MORNING because she had a dream I was dead. I found her anxiety quite touching, although it took a while to get to the point because she didn't like to tell me i was dead in the dream. But she didn't call in the middle of the night!

my DM called me at silly oclock to tell my my DSis had gone in to labour.... full work day ahead, not impressed

Not madness at all, my mom and I both did this on occasion, and 9 times out of 10 the gut feeling was right.

DB rang me once at 4am to tell me his flight had been cancelled ( he was working in America and I was supposed to pick him up later that evening ) why he couldn't wait to tell me at 7am I don't know! Couldn't get back to sleep after that. I think some people think because they're awake then everyone else must be!

I think even if someone has died 3am isn't the time to tell you, they'll still be dead at 8 and if it's someone who you are close enough to need to know immediately they have died then let them enjoy the last moments of rest they will have for a while

I have had many 'spooky' moments but am a firm believer in coincidence. There could have been other subconscious reasons the people in the stories above woke up feeling worries which led to actual things having happened. The subconscious coupled with coincidence is what it's about not woo. (In my opinion). Our brain interprets it into a cause and effect thing not a psychologist. My dad's health has been on my mind for years with no concrete reason other than him being a former smoker in his sixties and male grandparents having died relatively relatively young.

I wouldn't call my mum at 3 in the morning about a feeling because in the unlikely event that something had happened what could I do? Wouldn't she be the one calling me if she did need help? I did once call her at midnight, upset about issues in my life, and I regretted it a while later when it became clear how upsetting she had found it (though she didn't let on). If I had just gone on mumsnet pulled myself together instead of calling, I would have been equally fine.

(Hope your dad is OK though!)

My Mother in Law used to call at odd times to check we were alright, it was a symptom of her schizophrenia and was annoying beyond belief.

Once while at university I woke at 2 am with a strong feeling that something terrible had happened to my mum. I would never have rung home but the feeling was so strong and oppressive that sleep was out of the question. I got up and made myself a baked potato as had no idea what else I could do.

The thing was fully baked and I was just tucking into it... so must've been about 2.45 to 3 am when I got a knock on my door. The night porter was astonished to see I was up (and eating a meal!), and said could I come to the phone. My father was on the other end, saying my mum was physically fine (the first thing he said) but was in pieces as my very healthy, sprightly 70-yr-old grandma had been killed in a car accident that night.

So it was all very weird, and my gut was right, but I still wouldn't call anyone at that time in the morning! If there is something amiss, there is very little you are able to do from a distance.

The thing with all the stories where people have had a funny feeling then found out later that they were right is that all the other hundreds of times where they've felt unsettled or inexplicably concerned concerned will have amounted to nothing but will have been forgotten about.

It's a bad idea to call someone in the night unless it's a life or death situation. My mobile is on silent until 7am and I don't have a landline upstairs so nighttime calls are all ignored.

Are you generally an anxious person, OP?

Not madness at all, my mom and I both did this on occasion, and 9 times out of 10 the gut feeling was right.

It's happened at least 10 times, MTB? Seriously?

shock I'm so sorry to hear the news about your gran. How awful.

But I did smile at your first instinct being a baked potato! Isn't it funny how we act in a crisis sometimes?

YABU - for future reference WAIT! Even if you have bad news wait till the morning 6.30am/7am. If something had happened then waiting a few hours makes no difference... if your DM needed you at that time she'd call you! If something is wrong then let everyone get enough sleep so they're better equipped to deal with it.