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To ring my mum at 3:30am

151 replies

Mirrorbella · 08/02/2018 03:36

I’ve just woken up and had an urge to make sure my Dad is OK. I’ve never had this feeling before and I can’t settle. I don’t want to wake her up unnecessarily but at the same time I’m thinking “what if....”

I’m not usually particularly woo and hadn’t had any dreams that would have unsettled me etc

OP posts:
speakout · 08/02/2018 06:34

I hope you didn't phone OP.

It was a bad idea.

GnotherGnu · 08/02/2018 06:48

"Always follow your gut" is incredibly bad advice, particularly when it involves giving someone else a horrible shock at 3.30 a.m. If our phone rings after midnight it always really sets my heart hammering because I've been woken suddenly and I always assume it can only be a crisis.

ForalltheSaints · 08/02/2018 06:53

I would not phone at this time.

NathanTheProphet · 08/02/2018 07:03

^ What Chaos and Gnu said. If my phone rang at 3.30 A.M. I'd assume someone was dead. I would not thank the caller for this. If it turned out to be my mum was acting on a "gut feeling" about me at that time of night, I'd think she needed to see a psychiatrist. Fortunately she would never do such a thing.

UniversallyUnchallenged · 08/02/2018 07:08

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FissionChips · 08/02/2018 07:11

It would shake me up if you phoned at that hour, usually means somthing awful has happened.

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 08/02/2018 07:14

It was probably a bad dream that woke you up. I know you did ring but it probably wasn't the best idea. If your mum had have heard it she'd have probably jumped out of her skin as phone calls in the middle of the night are usually bad news.

Give them ring first thing.

floriad · 08/02/2018 07:15

Ring in the morning.

I hope everything is alright.

Playdohnut · 08/02/2018 07:19

Let's say your gut feeling was right - how would phoning help? If something had happened, your Mum would phone you. Phoning to say "I have a bad feeling about Dad" would not help fend anything off in any useful way.

KimchiLaLa · 08/02/2018 07:24

She's your mum and he's your dad, just ring!

Flappyears · 08/02/2018 07:27

My sister rang me once at 6am to tell me that Princess Diana had died. I’m still annoyed about it. I thought it must be someone I knew had died, it was so early and unexpected. I know you didn’t get through but don’t frighten people on a whim.

Pittcuecothecookbook · 08/02/2018 07:30

Don't ring! Even if your bad juju feeling is right, what could you do differently anyway?

ScarlettDarling · 08/02/2018 07:31

How's your dad op? Hope it was just a weird feeling and everything is ok?

TheFirstMrsDV · 08/02/2018 07:33

If someone rang me at that time it would take me hours to calm down properly.
A call at that time means someone has died.

Wouldn't your mum call you if your dad was seriously ill? Confused

Flomy · 08/02/2018 07:35

Maybe he was awake too!

Rachie1986 · 08/02/2018 07:36

Was everything ok, OP?

RandomDreams · 08/02/2018 07:47

If anyone rang me at that time because of a 'gut feeling'' I'd fucking murder them and spread their body parts far and wide.

Oysterbabe · 08/02/2018 07:53

Last time I had a call in the middle of the night my mum was dead. If my phone rang in the night now I'd be beside myself. I hope she's now called you and told you to give your head a wobble.

Eliza9917 · 08/02/2018 08:02

Did she call back? Was everything ok?

Nikephorus · 08/02/2018 08:15

Logically if there had been a problem you'd have got a call. If he was dead and your mum didn't know then her finding out at 3am wouldn't be better than her waking up normally and finding out. So a 3am call is pointless and thoughtless. Can't believe you did it.

Fekko · 08/02/2018 08:17

Well...?

Liskee · 08/02/2018 08:18

is everyone okay????!!

SparklyMagpie · 08/02/2018 08:19

Did she ring back OP?

PericardiumOne · 08/02/2018 08:22

I wouldn't call but I'd be worried - I've had gut feelings that have been on the money.

SaucyJack · 08/02/2018 08:23

Spectacularly bad idea to ring.

Not OK to wake your parents up because you've had a bad dream much past the age of 8 or 9.