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Missing him

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Lilmis · 07/02/2018 16:35

Hubby had been australia for a week and still another week to go. Never been apart in 13 years apart from once. The children and I are missing him like crazy. I cried the first 5 days and so hve the children. Is this normal or am I being ott!!

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Myddognearlyatethedeliveryman · 07/02/2018 16:38

You are very lucky indeed op!! Many dw are glad of the peace!
Your marriage must be a good un!!

Glenscoconut · 07/02/2018 16:38

Absolutely fine and normal to miss him! Totally OTT to cry about it for 5 days.

Not too long to go now OP, you will all be together again soon!

Only1scoop · 07/02/2018 16:41

. 'I cried the first 5 days and so hve the children'

Totally over the top IMO

How long is he away for??

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 07/02/2018 16:42

Crying for 5 days seems extreme OP. Are you ok generally?

Only1scoop · 07/02/2018 16:42

I've just read another week....

It does seem really extreme but then I'm used to it and so is dc.

Allthewaves · 07/02/2018 16:42

Crying for 5 days, wise up.

PinkHeart5914 · 07/02/2018 16:42

Normal to miss him, crying for 5 days Confused OTT.

Wishiwasholsk · 07/02/2018 16:44

Have some self respect

saoirse31 · 07/02/2018 16:44

Completely Ott re crying, and clearly encouraging kids to cry too... How old r you op?

Only1scoop · 07/02/2018 16:45

How old are your dc

Glenscoconut · 07/02/2018 16:50

Only1scoop

I shouldn't laugh really but I can't get that image out of my head.

TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge · 07/02/2018 16:51

Totally OTT! Make the most of it, when he comes back you'll be wondering where the time went.

Passmethecakeplease · 07/02/2018 16:53

Crying for 5 days seems excessive and id worry that my mood was rubbing off on the kids too making them more miserable than they would be otherwise.

It's ok to miss someone and have a sad moment but he's just in another country, the time difference is, what, 8 hours?! You can still speak to him every day.

Angrybird345 · 07/02/2018 16:53

Sorry, crying for five days is OTT and not good for kids.

LolitaLempicka · 07/02/2018 16:53

Your children are only crying because you are. You are being very pathetic and worrying your children unnecessarily.

GrowThroughWhatYouGoThrough · 07/02/2018 16:54

Don't become a forces wife!

LEMtheoriginal · 07/02/2018 16:55

I have been away from dp for 7 days in the 25 we have been together. Two were hospital stays over night. On the 5 days I was away for work I cried each night - hate being away from him even though he drives me nuts Hmm

NerrSnerr · 07/02/2018 16:55

My husband is often away. It's normal to miss him but I agree with the others that the tears are OTT. I don't think it's a good example to the children to cry for 5 days. You just need to get on with it.

LEMtheoriginal · 07/02/2018 16:56

Fucking hell some folk here could do with a kindness pill

Wellfuckmeinbothears · 07/02/2018 16:57

Its fine and healthy to miss him, crying for 5 days seems extreme and I worry that perhaps your children are picking up on it and are crying more because you're sad than they're missing him?

My dh and I hate being apart and we talk and message a lot if we ever have to be away from one another.

TwitterQueen1 · 07/02/2018 16:57

Crying for 5 days? really? That's not good OP - to be so utterly dependent on someone who's simply away working... And the messages you're giving to your DCs... Sad ie, your happiness is totally dependent on someone else. You're showing your DCs that:

  • You can't function properly without your DH.
  • Even though they haven't done anything wrong at all, they've made you unhappy....
  • Nobody should go away again, ever, so they don't make you cry...

Awful life lessons for DCs.

Chapterandverse · 07/02/2018 16:58

Spare a thought for those people whose husbands or wifes are no longer with them.

My BIL would give anything to be seeing my sister in 5 days time.

I know that's not the tone or the point of the thread but I've just left my BILs house and it hit a nerve. Please don't all pile on me, I miss her too.

Greensleeves · 07/02/2018 16:58

You rotten lot

Of course it's OK to miss him. My dh used to travel a lot for work and I sometimes shed a few tears in the evening because I hated being alone. I have long-term health problems, some of them are MH problems, and I missed him and our relationship terribly. And the kids missed him too - we're a family, we love each other.

But MN will tell you if you're not happy to go and climb Everest completely on your own without so much as a yak for company, you're co-dependent and needy

ClareB83 · 07/02/2018 16:59

I just assumed she meant that she cried on each of the first five days. Not the entire time.

If so, I think that's fair enough. You love and miss him.

sirlee66 · 07/02/2018 17:00

You must have a lovely relationship, OP!

My DH went away for 3 days with work and I hated it!! We are always together at home - he's my best friend and I cried because I was all alone in this suddenly big, lonely house without him! Mind you, I was 12 weeks pregnant at the time with our first. But I'd have still hated him being away!!

He'll be back soon!!! [Flowers]

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