Mother in law going in my bedroom

[madwifenewlife]

Ok not sure if I'm being unreasonable to be bothered by this, or if it is a bit odd. We moved house a couple of months ago so been trying to get it sorted out. It's taking time as needs some work and was left in a state.

But every time my in laws come round mil will nip to the loo, and then just let her self into my bedroom for a look! My husband found her in there the second to last time, and today I had stuff in the landing as was moving my daughters room round and blocked my room on purpose. She just started climbing over bits making her way to my bedroom! I said oh don't go in there it's a right mess! But she still went in. I just find it a bit odd now to just keep going in there, we have been here a bit so it's not changed or been decorated yet! I feel like getting a massive dildo and putting it on the bed or something next time they pop round just to put her off doing it again lol. Anyway would this bother anyone else or am I being silly?

Also my bedroom is no where near the bathroom she doesn't need to walk past it as my stairs split off at the top, and my landing is quite long each way, so bathroom is a different end to my bedroom.

Your husband needs to say something diplomatic to her now about this.

Why hasn't he do you know?

But either way a lock is the way forward. When she turns up unnanounced off you trot and turn the key and smile.

Our room my room it's just a figure of speech I guess. I always say my bedroom?

Yeah I think il close the door next time as it was open. But as there is no reason for anyone to walk down that way I never think to close the door. And the landing was pretty blocked today.

Nope she had a good look in the kids rooms too which I don't mind so much as they will take her in them to show bits. But our room is a bit odd! My own mum wouldn't unless I asked her to.

You shouldn't have to put a lock on your door to keep someone out. She needs to respect your privacy. Ask her directly. "MIL, this is a bit awkward, but can I ask why you keep going in our room? There's no reason for you to go in there and I'd prefer it if you didn't". If she can't respect that then she doesn't come round anymore.

This would really piss me off.

I'd be tempted to set a 'Home Alone' type trap that will set in motion next time she opens the door.

I’d be tempted to have a bucket of wallpaper paste balanced on the top of the ajar door waiting for her next time - “Oh no MIL! I’m so sorry we were in the middle of decorating - silly me must have forgot I’d left it there” #evilbutdontcare

"MIL, this is the room your son and I fuck in. You need to stay out of it, because it's really creepy that you're so invested in our fucking room."

Some people just have no boundaries at all really, and will do anything they can get away with.

They just do not operate on a privacy principle.

Get a lock for your door. It is so simple.

Haha like the trap idea not sure how I'd explain it away tho. Think I'm going to go all out with hand cuffs and a giant dildo ready. Then next time the 'turn up' " I will just nip to the loo "and set up my sex room!

My MIL is the same. Suggest investing a few £ in whatever is cheap and scandalous at Lovehoney

Idont

How about asking a friend if they could come round and pretend to be yours/DHs sex slave. So when your MIL opens your bedroom door they’re greeted by the pleasant sight of your mate all gimped up and chained to the bed. Wonder if your MIL would say anything to you or just keep schtum 🤔😂

My husband doesn't really notice anything his mum does! Or says. He's just so used to her. I have parents with boundaries and who are not pushy so I notice it.

He thinks this is just because we have just moved and she's interested and likes the room. It's a period house with a lot of features. But I'm thinking this has probably been going on for 15years without me even knowing it.

OP, your DH doesn't see the issue because to him, your MIL's behaviour is normal. It isn't, it's quite rude.

Do the old "bucket of water balanced on the door" trick. She will only go in there once!

"Oh did you get wet? Well I did tell you not to go in there didnt I?"

Knowing my look one of the kids would knock the bucket off, then she will come to investigate the fuss lol!

Luck*

She's desperate to look in that she climbs over stuff & then goes in when you tell her not to?

WTAF is wrong with her?

If you lock it-will she just ask her son for the key??

Get one of these and put it on the inside of your bedroom door. When she opens it, it'll set up an almighty screeching and scare the shit out of her.

www.amazon.co.uk/Swann-110dB-Magnetic-Window-Alarm/dp/B004INZPXW?tag=mumsnetforum-21

Just be sure you don't open the door first by mistake when she's there!

I've never met anyone like her in my life. Honestly I rang my mum to tell her I was so shocked she claimed over stuff to get in it! It wasn't big things just a few toy boxes and a desk but still it's a bit ridiculous. My mum thinks she's a nosy cow! Yes she would probably have the nerve to ask why it's locked, not be embarrassed that she found out it was locked and keep quiet.

Shed alarm. You can get them for under a tenner, wireless and they will shriek when the door is opened. Warn the kids!

Put one of these on your door.. www.amazon.co.uk/Surface-Mounted-Wired-Intruder-Contact/dp/B001PMN4OG/ref=sr_1_10?keywords=door+alarm+magnetic&tag=mumsnetforum-21&ie=UTF8&qid=1517694379&sr=8-10

"MIL, this is the room your son and I fuck in. You need to stay out of it, because it's really creepy that you're so invested in our fucking room."

aaaaah amazing!!

LOL@ all the x posts!

I may pay my 9 year old to bring it up. "What you doing in here? Why you going in there? But she will just say I'm just looking. I'd be mortified to be caught snooping! Not that I ever have done.

Set up a camera and record what she does in there. She might be going into cupboards and drawers. Leave notes for her to find!