Can't stand his beard any longer!

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I know s lot of ladies love a man with a beard and find it sexy but I'm just not one of them.
OH has had a beard for like 3 years now, and I'm not talking stubble it's a full on big wirey beard and I just hate it, I can't enjoy kissing him and it's actually affecting our sex life.
He knows how I feel but loves his beard it's like his comfort blanket.
AIBU to ask him to cut it? Or do you think I should just accept him how he is and try and see past it?

Yuk at brushing a beard. If you don't like beards no amount of brushing/oiling or messing with it is going to help TBF.

Of course it does, just like brushing head hair.

I go from looking unkempt after waking up to looking socially acceptable.

The only thing worse than my husband growing a beard, would be having to watch him oil and brush the beard. Ugh.

It really isn't like brushing head hair. And a special brush? Lol

@petbear, it still turns my stomach and we've been separated over 7 years!

The beard and moustache are even longer/worse now too!

I never complain about my boyfriends beard and he doesn't complain about mine!

Do you share the beard brush and oil Myheart? That's true love that is.

Does he get food trapped in it.?

Yes! It's worst when he has had s pasty 🙈

8It really isn't like brushing head hair. And a special brush? Lol*

Why comment if you don't know what you are talking about?

You can get beard brushes, I don't get what's LOL about that.

Well if brushing your beard is the same as brushing your hair why the special brush?

Anyway I am off out. I may do a bit of oily/brushed beard spotting...

Maybe the women who hate the beards so much should say 'keep the beard - I don't care; it gives me an excuse to not have to have sex with you.' 😂😂

Then walk off breezily. 😁

Well if brushing your beard is the same as brushing your hair why the special brush?

Different bristles because beards are quite coarse plus plastic combs get static

Could you handle it if it was trimmed? If so could you buy him a voucher for a beard trim/treatment and see if he'll agree to it being tamed somewhat?

Find the details of a good barber that does cutthroat shaving and beard shaping and book him a full luxury appointment.

My DH has a lovely beard, and goes at least monthly to his barber. It's an hour long appointment for hair and beard, and he has a hot towel treatment, the lot! He thought it was ridiculous and very girly when I told him about it, but now he loves it and nearly falls asleep under the towel 😂

A well shaped, trimmed, oiled and groomed beard is a million miles away from a grotty unkempt one.

I will take these suggestions on board, but I know him well and I doubt very much he would keep it up. It's worth a go though.

But what if I spend this money on a nice 'beard spa' for him and I still hate it? 😬😬

No to the beard oil. My DH got some for Christmas, and it just made his beard look wet. He looked like he'd tipped a pint all over his face.

I get irritated with DHs stubble and won't kiss him because it scratches my skin.

If he chooses to grow a beard...there'll be no more kissing.

I've also often wondered (perhaps tmi) how uncomfortable it would be to receive oral from a man with a beard...just seems it would get in the way ...but I'm sure I'm overthinking it accordingly to a male friend i braved it to ask.

My DH decided to grow a beard once and I hated it. I told him they kidding was off the menu and so was oral sex. I told him there was no way his spiky and scratchy face was going anywhere near my Vag and that if his decision to grow a beard meant I was missing out on oral sex then he should miss out on it too.

My DH has actually left the bed you fo and shave when we're about to DTD...but I complain about the stubble.

Nothing will get in the way of him having a shag. Absolutely nothing

Well I would be offended and sad if my DH didn't like my hair or moaned about hairy legs so I would just not mention it.

Beards are just grim.

DH was musing about growing one and I made very clear he was making a choice between facial hair and his sex life. I have very sensitive skin and even day old stubble leaves my skin red raw.

For those saying it's his personal choice I respectfully disagree.

Having a partner do something in the knowledge that it's not just unattractive to them but very uncomfortable for their other half is just selfish.

It's not at all comparable to what people wear or a hairstyle.

In this case the bugger doesn't even look after it properly.

Don't buy him beard oil OP - just buy a ruler and tell him he's not getting and closer to you than that until he gets rid of his ridiculous fifthly face ferret.

Yabu.

How would you feel if he told you your hair was shit and you needed to get a pixie crop. (Assuming you haven’t, but you get my point).

Oh, I utterly adore my husband’s beard and would hate if he got rid of it. He’s very handsome but has quite a young looking face- his beard makes him look very distinguished.

It gets washed every morning in the shower, and again when he comes home and washes his face. It’s not too long, nicely trimmed, and I love the feel of it on my neck. And thighs

Must get him some oils.

DH was musing about growing one and I made very clear he was making a choice between facial hair and his sex life. I have very sensitive skin and even day old stubble leaves my skin red raw.

I hear you.