Can't stand his beard any longer!

[lizzlebizzle33]

I know s lot of ladies love a man with a beard and find it sexy but I'm just not one of them.
OH has had a beard for like 3 years now, and I'm not talking stubble it's a full on big wirey beard and I just hate it, I can't enjoy kissing him and it's actually affecting our sex life.
He knows how I feel but loves his beard it's like his comfort blanket.
AIBU to ask him to cut it? Or do you think I should just accept him how he is and try and see past it?

I think if you DH was clean shaven on your wedding day then grew a horrible beard after you could argue that you never married the beard so you can divorce it.

Or separate from it even.

Meh, I’m young (early 20s), so not a teen but still. I don’t like beards. But then I never fancy all the same blokes everyone else does, so...

Who do you fancy toffee?

Well for instance people tend to fancy Tom Felton and Matthew Lewis from the Harry Potter films. They’re good looking, yeah, but I like Rupert Grint more. I am a redhead though so may be biased There aren’t that many famous red headed men, him and Damian Lewis are the only ones I can think of at the moment!! (DL is a bit old for me though).

I think if you DH was clean shaven on your wedding day then grew a horrible beard after you could argue that you never married the beard so you can divorce it.

LOL.

I think there might be at least a stone of me that my DH didn't marry though TBF.

Ba ha ha ha ha! Good point @sparkles

So let's replace the words husband and beard with wife and pubic hair. Only a complete dock would try to control what their partner does to their body. Be honest and tell him that you don't like it but ffs don't ask him to shave it off for you.

Beards and pubic hair-not comparable IMO.

Pubic hair has a hygiene purpose, a beard doesn't.
I think the majority of women with pubic hair try to keep it tidy - not sure that's true of beards.
The day I find crumbs in a woman's pubic hair might be the day hell freezes over!

Op, my partners beard is.this length.......he does have a.bald head tho thank goodness. 🤔

@Sparklingbtooke why not?

Hmm, tough one. I'm not a fan of beards at all but also wouldn't make demands on my OH about his looks. As a teenager I was contemplating cutting my hair really short and my boyfriend told me he'd dump me if I did. So the next day I had a Mohican shaved in. How dare he say such a thing! He didn't dump me, but my next boyfriend also said he preferred long hair. My current partner is is much nicer and open minded and wouldn't usually dream of commenting on people's looks and has a very alternative hairstyle himself but even he has said he wants me to keep my long hair when I've mentioned cutting it. It really riles me that he fits and voices that stereotype of preferring women with long hair too.

I wonder if your husband is the same. Can you call his bluff and leave hair model photos of under cuts, Mohawks and Chelsea cuts. Let him think you are planning a skin head. Let him tell you he'd hate it and then say you'd love to but won't if he really feels that way... now that beard...

I can't kiss someone with a beard - it's just horrible.

Dammit... Now I'm craving my bearded, long haired ex...

Yep pubes on a minge, and a massive beard on a man's face, are not comparable. FFS, some of us cannot even KISS our husband.

So I shall continue to be a 'dock' and hate it with a passion and refuse him sex if he grows it again!

Buy him some oils, comb and a voucher for a lovely beard trim. My OH has had one for about a year and the grooming really helps it look dapper. When it gets out of hand he looks bloody rough and I hate it!

My ExH grew a beard several years after we got married. Out of sheer laziness. Final straw for me was seeing him blow his nose and getting tramlines of snot in his moustache which was so long it covered his top lip completely. I nearly puked. Sex was cancelled for over a year until he eventually trimmed it. Went off him big time.

@watchingfromthewings I don't know whether to vom at your post, or fall over laughing!

Sorry to make this slightly less 'lighthearted' but this is exactly my life.

My DH has a beard I hate. I've told him I don't like it. It makes me reserved when I kiss him and we don't have sex very often either as I can't bare the thought of it around my face too much.
He's so stubborn that the more I say anything, the more determined he is to keep it. He doesn't trim it very often so it's straggly and messy. Even other people say it's horrible but he just doesn't care (or have the energy to do something about it- he works in a stressful job and just wants to sit down when he gets home). Gahhhh.

Just asked him is he planned to have a beard forever 😂 he said he didn't know. I told him it's fine if he wants to but he should know that's it's cock-blocking him. I think he thinks I'm joking, well we will see who is laughing when we don't have sex again for another 6 months 👍🏻

To be fair he needs to brush it, you can buy a boar hair brush for that and also some beard oils will soften it when applied.

I can't not brush mine, it makes such a difference.

DH grew a beard after DC1 was born, mainly to save time on work mornings I think. He does take care of it but I find it repulsive. Hideous thing. I miss kissing, and yes, we do have less sex because of it.

Yuk at brushing a beard. If you don't like beards no amount of brushing/oiling or messing with it is going to help TBF.