Can't stand his beard any longer!

[lizzlebizzle33]

I know s lot of ladies love a man with a beard and find it sexy but I'm just not one of them.
OH has had a beard for like 3 years now, and I'm not talking stubble it's a full on big wirey beard and I just hate it, I can't enjoy kissing him and it's actually affecting our sex life.
He knows how I feel but loves his beard it's like his comfort blanket.
AIBU to ask him to cut it? Or do you think I should just accept him how he is and try and see past it?

But BigBaboonBum, your head hair is pretty much a visual thing, and far less intrusive in personal matters. It's not going to change the kissing or making love experience. Facial hair is must more intrusive.

I love a nice short groomed beard but absolutely could not put up with a massive, scratchy, pube like mess on dp. No way.
Like you OP it would make me not want to kiss him and sex would be with him behind so it didn't itch me :)

Just tell him that it turns you off! If my DP grew a beard, I would refuse to go anywhere near him.

It's not like Dick Strawbridges beard is it,? Now that IS disgusting.. The moustache part is hanging down over his lips
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You know my mother always said you could never trust a man with a beard!! 🤔

My father said never trust a woman with a beard!

But there are.... how can I put this delicately.... sexual advantages to the presence of a beard, OP.

Sweetpea55 it does hang over hop lips!!!

*his lips

I could have written this OP! My DH beard is quite messy, it's not in any shape etc. I've told my DH I don't like it and it makes no odds at all. I've tried every approach- saying nicely, getting annoyed, his Mum's told him, told him it's scruffy etc etc and nothing makes a difference. It's putting me off DTD as kissing it is horrible but he's not bothered. I really don't like it but there's not a whole lot I can do is there?

I think the trouble with saying you don't like it, is that maybe a man can feel a little embarrassed that it doesn't work for you, and that makes them more defensive and unwilling to remove it. Sounds silly, but the mind of man can be strange!

He's really to think it was his own decision - you just have to bamboozle him into thinking it was his choice ;-)

My dh has grown a beard recently and I hate it. It's all grey and black patches, it just looks awful.
I am almost phobic about it, I hate touching it, I hate when it touches me and I hate when he sits and fiddles with it.
We haven't had a proper kiss in no the, I just don't want to. He was so lovely without it and now he looks like an old man.
He knows I hate it but he keeps it anyway.
And I hate so so much having to clean the trimmings out of the sink. That's like the ultimate insult.
I'm so glad I found your thread, I feel less of a freak now.

Coolandbook the trimmings are just disgusting aren't they!!!
I don't think we have had a proper kiss for ages either, I just don't like it, it goes up my nose 🙈, he's a great kisser too it's such a shame, I really miss it!

Beards revolt me. They are unhygienic and some men fiddle with them which is frankly sick-making. Hipster beards - and style, generally - make otherwise normal youngish men look deeply stupid. Bleurgh

Stubble is ok but only if it is a couple of days max.

I often find myself looking at men with beards and thinking how much better they would look without and in most cases how much younger.

The beard/man bun combo makes me laugh.

I like a short beard or a neat beard, but the other year my dp grew some monstrosity of a wild beard. He looked shit. He got loads of comments from other guys who were impressed but i didnt like it at all. Made me fancy him less. I wouldnt have minded if he'd have taken care of it or shaped it, but he crossed the line between cool beard and homeless chic.

I often find myself looking at men with beards and thinking how much better they would look without and in most cases how much younger.

^ me too! I was just thinking a few days ago that I hope they go out of fashion soon.
Have you told him OP, that it puts you off kissing for example?

@sparklingbrook the manbun/grizzle beard look is awful.

In a few years, we are going to look back, and see it looks as daft and shit as the mullet!

Even the rather gorgeous LEO DICAPRIO looks fucking grim with that look!

I don’t like beards either. I wouldn’t want a mouthful of hair when trying to kiss someone, or trying to kiss a guy with spiky stubble...

Ooh I did like a bit of a mullet back in the day petbear. I wonder if i was a teen now i would be all over the man bun/beard thing. I would like to think not.

That picture is all kinds of wrong. The man buns always look a bit greasy.

No offence @sparklingbrook

I just mean that the mullet is a style that people laugh at a bit now. But it was really popular at the time

No offence taken. I was a teenager in the 80s, you couldn't move for mullets.

@somerville

When I had a thread about this before, I learned that lots of women prefer bearded cunnilingus. Which makes me recoil in horror, frankly.

@TheBrilliantMistake

The only reason to prefer that, is because of the velcro effect and it means they are stuck to the task for hours!

OMG, I think I just vommed in my mouth. 🤮🤮🤮

Your head hair is pretty much a visual thing, and far less intrusive in personal matters. It's not going to change the kissing or making love experience. Facial hair is must more intrusive.

Exactly! You can't compare a big fat hairy beard to a haircut!

Re @cookandbook and @lizzie, my DH had a beard for about 3 months... I LOATHED it when he sat there fiddling with it, pulling it, stroking it, running his nails down it, and de-fleaing in (well it looked like it! He kept picking at it!!!) I fucking hated it. Him doing all that was so annoying. And yeah I got fucked off with the trimmings too. Gross.

A few people have said their partner/husband refuses to shave his beard off. If he insists on carrying this on, then I would withold sex. Some people may say this is a bit nasty and controlling, but it's no worse than your husband/boyfriend growing a nasty-ass face full of hair, REFUSING to shave it off even though you absolutely loathe it, and expecting you to still be intimate with him, and kiss him, and push his beardy face in between your legs GROSSSSSS! 🤮

Wanna beard? You don't get to fuck me, or touch me intimately, or even kiss me. They will soon shave the fucker off. My husband did!

Basically, if he won't shave it off (when he knows you loathe it and it makes you feel uncomfortable and sick and you cannot bear having sex,) it shows very little respect for you, and very little regard for your feelings. He is doing what HE wants, and to hell with you!

To be fair to me, my husband had never had a beard in nearly 20 years of us being together, so I had a right to hate it and refuse to have it near me.. I HATED it. Because of intimacy issues, not being able to kiss him, him fucking about with it: (poking, stroking, picking, and pulling,) food sticking to it (🤮) and sodding trimmings all over the bastard bathroom sink! At LEAST 3 times a week!

I was SOOOOOOOOO glad when he shaved it off. (A couple of months with noooooo sex will do that to a man HAHA! )

Oooooh, I feel better now!