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Should I have shared?

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werkwerkwerk · 01/02/2018 14:08

I've name changed for this as it is very outing!

Basically, I work in a small office with 2 other ladies doing the admin etc, for a local business. I have been there, full time, for just over 3 years, the 2nd works part time and has been there for almost 1 year and the 3rd is a new starter, still on probation.

We don't socialise outside of work and I wouldn't say we were particularly friendly.

For Christmas, the 3 of us were given a bottle of prosecco, a box of chocolates and a scratch card.

My scratch card was a winner! £25k winner.

I was over the moon! I've had a tough few years financially and this really couldn't have come at a better time. The money paid off a few bills and the rest will be used as a deposit on my very own little house (as soon as I find it!) I'm very excited!

After new year, I invited the 2 ladies I work with out for a champane afternoon tea in a swanky hotel and then we went for manicures and pedicures. All my treat.

This morning, I was taken into the office by the owner of the business and told that the other ladies have asked him to speak to me regarding the winnings, as they feel it should be shared 3 ways. And my boss agrees as he feels that my winning has caused a bad vibe in the office.

AIBU by not sharing? I'll be honest and say that the thought of sharing with them never even crossed my mind and I still have no intention of doing so, but I just wanted to get some other opinions...

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tessieandoz · 01/02/2018 14:36

Ridiculous to put you in that position and ask you to share . o way should you even feel that you need to do any more than say "No " ( Say it is already spoken for if necessary. ) How very rude.

You already treated them as well !!

BiddyPop · 01/02/2018 14:36

I'd also add to Mad Mag's email to Mgr/HR, that you are not aware how much either of the other 2 ladies won on their own scratch cards, but that you have not had any winnings shared with you and nor would you expect them to.

Imsorrynow · 01/02/2018 14:37

Congratulations on YOUR win Flowers

meandmytinfoilhat · 01/02/2018 14:37

No it's a personal gift to you.

LuckyLuckyWoman · 01/02/2018 14:38

Tell them you donated it to charity, I bet they'd love that not

I bet you wouldn't have seen a penny if one of them had won. It's just sour grapes on their part. Blame your boss, he gave out the tickets

letsdolunch321 · 01/02/2018 14:40

They can jog on the “Moaning Minnies” Congratulations, you won it ... YOU enjoy it

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 01/02/2018 14:40

YANBU to not have shared. If they weren’t prepared for someone winning they shouldn’t have given out scratch cards.

There’s no reason for you to share your winnings; they’re just being greedy.

Katedotness1963 · 01/02/2018 14:42

You treated them out of the money, that was kind and, really, unneeded. I wouldn't share the money, but I wouldn't have told about the win, it was bound to cause jealousy.

nailyourcolours · 01/02/2018 14:42

Of course they are not entitled to anything! What nasty people they are. A lesson to be learned here, you never know who is a lurking greedy person who will begrudge others a fair and square win.

If you want to stay working there (not sure if I would) tell them the money covered your debts (what will they say then? Grin) and has gone. If you want to leave, hand your notice in and look for something with nicer people.

NoqontroI · 01/02/2018 14:43

I would have kept that quiet. Would they have shared? Bet they wouldn't.

Groovee · 01/02/2018 14:44

It probably would have been better to keep quiet. But no I wouldn't share.

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Easytobuild · 01/02/2018 14:45

I doubt very much if they would have split it 3 ways if they won - even if they profess they would have done.
^ This

Your boss is the idiot here! he should have thought of what would happen if one of you won or won that big. I'd have told him there and then gone as you treated the other 2 ladies and then paid off / invested it all so there is nothing left to hand out. It's your money, not theirs, it's a bit gutting for them but that's the way the cookie crumbles had exactly the same chance as you.

He's also gone about this all the wrong way he shouldn't have called you in if it was true that they complained then he should have told them straight, its non of their business what you do with the money! If its not affecting the way you are carrying out your work then I don't think he has any rights to comment on it, if they are not getting on with their work effectively because of it, it's them he needs to be having words with.

whiskyowl · 01/02/2018 14:46

Wow, £25k, that's quite a Christmas surprise!

No, I think in this case it was clearly your scratch card. Had there been one basket for all three of you with one scratchcard, my answer would be different. But a scratch card in an individual bag is definitely an individual present.

Your workplace sounds horrible, find a new one!

Idontdowindows · 01/02/2018 14:47

They are being very unreasonable. And I wouldn't want to be working with them anymore at all.

SoupDragon · 01/02/2018 14:47

I’d ask HQ to pull this. It’s perfect Daily Fail fodder.

I agree.

RatRolyPoly · 01/02/2018 14:47

Ha, the lesson in this is for your boss; do not buy scratch cards as Christmas gifts for your employees

I mean what did he think was going to happen? Did he think there was no chance of this happening because definitely, certainly, nobody was going to win??

Wordsmith · 01/02/2018 14:50

Did they mention this at all when you were treating them to the champagne and beauty treatments?

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werkwerkwerk · 01/02/2018 14:50

I really don't want to leave, I love working there! If things are a little awkward now, then so be it.

I probably haven't helped the situation by coming back from lunch breaks with property details and etc! Blush But they had both been really lovely to my face, I had no idea they were pissed off!

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nailyourcolours · 01/02/2018 14:51

I agree with Easytobuild, your boss should have told the other workers that it was your money and they had no claim.

I agree with getting the thread pulled also before it is in the DM.

Lweji · 01/02/2018 14:51

If your boss thought any winnings should be split, then he should have given the cards to all of you at the same time and just take turns to scratch them.

As it goes, a scratch card is a poor gift anyway(except in your case) and open to this sort of undesirable consequences.

Finally, did you all consume the Prosecco and the chocolates in the office, between you all, or did all of you take them home?

They were lucky to be treated by you. Ungrateful people.

RedDogsBeg · 01/02/2018 14:52

Absolutely NO to you sharing it and your boss is completely out of order asking you to, I would set him straight in writing to that effect.

The others have got a touch of the green eyed monster coupled with greed, don't countenance their jealousy. They should have congratulated you on your good fortune and thanked you for what you did for them.

DSHathawayGivesMeFannyGallops · 01/02/2018 14:52

If you were feeling charitable, do they not think you'd give to people dear to you and give to an actual charity first? Like they would if they won, no doubt.

livefornaps · 01/02/2018 14:52

Maybe shoving the property deals in their faces was a bad move....!

Hurrr hurrr hurrrr!

BlackeyedSusan · 01/02/2018 14:52

no, but you already have by treating them.