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Should I have shared?

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werkwerkwerk · 01/02/2018 14:08

I've name changed for this as it is very outing!

Basically, I work in a small office with 2 other ladies doing the admin etc, for a local business. I have been there, full time, for just over 3 years, the 2nd works part time and has been there for almost 1 year and the 3rd is a new starter, still on probation.

We don't socialise outside of work and I wouldn't say we were particularly friendly.

For Christmas, the 3 of us were given a bottle of prosecco, a box of chocolates and a scratch card.

My scratch card was a winner! £25k winner.

I was over the moon! I've had a tough few years financially and this really couldn't have come at a better time. The money paid off a few bills and the rest will be used as a deposit on my very own little house (as soon as I find it!) I'm very excited!

After new year, I invited the 2 ladies I work with out for a champane afternoon tea in a swanky hotel and then we went for manicures and pedicures. All my treat.

This morning, I was taken into the office by the owner of the business and told that the other ladies have asked him to speak to me regarding the winnings, as they feel it should be shared 3 ways. And my boss agrees as he feels that my winning has caused a bad vibe in the office.

AIBU by not sharing? I'll be honest and say that the thought of sharing with them never even crossed my mind and I still have no intention of doing so, but I just wanted to get some other opinions...

OP posts:
FeistyColl · 01/02/2018 14:16

I assume that it was a bottle each chocolates each and a scratch card each.
I don't think they should have any expectation of a share but as it was pure luck I can understand it's feels tough to them.

Bossbaby12 · 01/02/2018 14:16

That I am absolutely ridiculous!!!! No way should you have to share it! That is completely your choice. I can't believe you have actually been spoken to by management about this!

nextDayDelivery · 01/02/2018 14:16

I'd write them a "fuck off" note on the back of a cash point slip. A slip clearly showing my balance incl. the 25k!

Glumglowworm · 01/02/2018 14:16

Yanbu

It’s natural for them to be jealous, I would be too (I am jealous of you actually!), but it’s just luck that yours won and theirs didn’t, that’s the point of scratchcards surely!

You shouldn’t share it, its yours, you won it fair and square.

Congratulations and enjoy your new home when you find it!

Lovestonap · 01/02/2018 14:16

Nope nope. I wouldn't be sharing. Nope. No way. I might be looking for another job however.....

StoatofDisarray · 01/02/2018 14:17

There was no agreement with the scratch cards - we were each given one in a gift bag, along with a bottle of prosecco and chocolates.

In that case, you should absolutely not be asked to share! Taking them out was very generous of you. Your boss should apologise to you for even suggesting it.

Delatron · 01/02/2018 14:17

I might have just kept it quiet so they didn't feel bad though!

I guess the thought process from them is, there were three cards dished out. It was pure luck that you received the £25k one. It could so easily have been them though...

T2517 · 01/02/2018 14:17

Don’t share it. They shouldn’t give scratch cards as gifts if they don’t bloody like it!

widgetbeana · 01/02/2018 14:18

It’s not that you took the only scratch cars, they got one too!

No way, it’s a lottery LITERALLY! They lost!

StoatofDisarray · 01/02/2018 14:19

I bet your boss will never do anything as potentially divisive as dishing out scratch cards again...

PorklessPie · 01/02/2018 14:20

Do not share, I wouldn't not even £10 of it. Good luck house hunting and congratulations Smile.

McDougal · 01/02/2018 14:20

That is absolutely ridiculous. It's also beyond belief that the owner is in agreement with them.

OP, you owe them nothing and should laugh in their faces and ask if they'd have shared had it been them who had won. Of course, they'll probably lie and say they would but come on!

Witchofthenorth · 01/02/2018 14:20

Don't share and tell your bosses to mind their own. You all had the same chance of winning. Keep it and enjoy, they should be happy for you not being spiteful and jealous. (Although I am slightly jealous Wink)

DSHathawayGivesMeFannyGallops · 01/02/2018 14:20

DO NOT SHARE IT. You won. Simplesm Say it is spent, you've used it to clear debt /buy something important and treated them with whatever was left over. Take care of yourself first- you shared your good fortune by treating them out of the money.

Then find a new job and don't tell anyone else you won. That was your first mistake. You work with some right CFs!

MargoLovebutter · 01/02/2018 14:20

Buy them all another scratch card!!!! (Not really, but that would make the point that it is a lottery.)

werkwerkwerk · 01/02/2018 14:21

Thank you all! I'm so happy you wouldn't share either, I was starting to wonder if I was actually just a selfish cow!

In hindsight, I shouldn't have said anything about the win. It would have made things much easier

OP posts:
Mellodrama · 01/02/2018 14:21

No way! This was YOUR gift, they got one too! Would they have shared?? Hmm

Trinity66 · 01/02/2018 14:22

Can't believe you boss agreed with them, why would you share your gift with them, I can guarantee that if either of them won they wouldn't have. How odd, I wouldn't give them a gran each either like a PP suggested

g1itterati · 01/02/2018 14:22

No YABU. If you treat anyone, it should be family or genuine friends - at your discretion. Tbh, I don't think you should have even told them you won anything.

g1itterati · 01/02/2018 14:22

Sorry YANBU!

sirlee66 · 01/02/2018 14:24

Congrats on your winning ticket OP!! Did Charlie bucket have to share his golden ticket with all his class mates? NO! It was your ticket - you won it!! I do hope you go on a lovely relaxing holiday with that money so you can chill after those jelous CF's have made you feel unreasonably guilty! Haters gonna hate!

DarthArts · 01/02/2018 14:24

No I don't think you should share it.

I doubt very much if they would have split it 3 ways if they won - even if they profess they would have done.

It's not a huge amount in the grand scheme of things but certainly enough to make a significant difference to one person. Split 3 ways far less so.

Tbh your mistake was telling them you had won. Personally I would have kept quiet about it because nothing much brings out the green eyed monster than money.

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Trinity66 · 01/02/2018 14:26

I can't believe the cheeky bitches went and complained about it though

Cath2907 · 01/02/2018 14:26

I bloody wouldn't have told anyone. That was your only mistake. Next time keep stum. No you shouldn't have to share.

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