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Should I have shared?

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werkwerkwerk · 01/02/2018 14:08

I've name changed for this as it is very outing!

Basically, I work in a small office with 2 other ladies doing the admin etc, for a local business. I have been there, full time, for just over 3 years, the 2nd works part time and has been there for almost 1 year and the 3rd is a new starter, still on probation.

We don't socialise outside of work and I wouldn't say we were particularly friendly.

For Christmas, the 3 of us were given a bottle of prosecco, a box of chocolates and a scratch card.

My scratch card was a winner! £25k winner.

I was over the moon! I've had a tough few years financially and this really couldn't have come at a better time. The money paid off a few bills and the rest will be used as a deposit on my very own little house (as soon as I find it!) I'm very excited!

After new year, I invited the 2 ladies I work with out for a champane afternoon tea in a swanky hotel and then we went for manicures and pedicures. All my treat.

This morning, I was taken into the office by the owner of the business and told that the other ladies have asked him to speak to me regarding the winnings, as they feel it should be shared 3 ways. And my boss agrees as he feels that my winning has caused a bad vibe in the office.

AIBU by not sharing? I'll be honest and say that the thought of sharing with them never even crossed my mind and I still have no intention of doing so, but I just wanted to get some other opinions...

OP posts:
Helllllooooooo · 01/02/2018 14:26

No I wouldn’t share! It was your gift, not theirs.
You did a lovely thing by taking them out, the ungrateful sods should have been thankful of that.

Moving on, I wouldn’t mention it again. If they do explain that it was in your gift bag and you didn’t receive any of their prosecco or chocs but you did take them out as a treat.

Your boss shouldn’t be casting his opinion either.

Redhead17 · 01/02/2018 14:26

Firstly congratulations on your win you lucky lady

Also would try have shared? Unlikely?

Plus if you bought the scratch card on your kick break or on your day off would you be expected to share or if finally one of those PPI places actually paid out?

Where does the sharing stop? Would they like to share your home? Partner? House work?

They are just pissed off they didn’t win and after that shifty attitude I would give them a penny.

I’d of be grateful for the champagne afternoon tea

Redhead17 · 01/02/2018 14:27

If you won £3 would he expect you to share or even a pound? What an absolute tit

Helllllooooooo · 01/02/2018 14:28

And I would be tempted to say you paid off all your debts, and your parents/dps to explain that it’s “gone”.

chocatoo · 01/02/2018 14:28

You are right in that you shouldn't have said anything. It was your gift. No you shouldn't share. You have already been sweet giving them tea and treats.
I bet if the boot was on the other foot they wouldn't be planning to share!!
Enjoy your winnings!

chocatoo · 01/02/2018 14:29

p.s. I agree with PPs none of your boss's business!!!

MadMags · 01/02/2018 14:30

You shouldn’t have told them but that’s done.

I’d ask HQ to pull this. It’s perfect Daily Fail fodder.

Your manager is acting disgracefully by saying this to you!

I’d email him/her saying;

As you are probably aware, I treated X and Y to lunch, champagne, and beauty treatments from my own pocket.

The money which I won and is mine fairly and legally is now spent and I trust that is the end of the matter as I feel uncomfortable with this having been brought up at all.

Thanks,

Me.

Congratulations on your win! :)

MistressPage · 01/02/2018 14:30

Cheeky fuckers!!! No you won it and I'm amazed at their brass neck demanding a share after you so kindly gave them a treat. Stand firm on this. And enjoy your winnings!

HolyShet · 01/02/2018 14:30

I would have stayed schtum

But too late now.

I wouldn't offer them anything now, because, anything you offer will not be enough to make them happy.

The business owner is being pathetic to even entertain their complaints - they gave each of their staff an equal gift - a chance at winning, not a share of whatever was won.

GeorgeTheHamster · 01/02/2018 14:30

Well he should have thought of that before he gave out scratch cards shouldn't he.

g1itterati · 01/02/2018 14:30

It sounds as if your boss might be miffed he gave away £25K GrinGrin.

Maybe the ladies haven't actually complained at all, he's just using them as an excuse to be able to raise the issue.

babyccinoo · 01/02/2018 14:31

He probably wants a share too.

Don't spend another penny on the u grateful cows.

If they expect you to pay for more lunches, drinks etc , tell them the money is spent.

ShatnersWig · 01/02/2018 14:31

Absolutely - if this is genuine get this pulled

babyccinoo · 01/02/2018 14:31

*ungrateful

TartanDr3ams · 01/02/2018 14:31

I wouldnt feel bad. It was a gift.. if youre bought new boots as a gift... do you have to give everyone else a walk around in them? It was a sealed gift (you said it was in a gift bag) addressed to you. Its not your fault that you had a winner. And you havr shared... you took them out for an all expenses paid day out

BackInTheRoom · 01/02/2018 14:32

No, you should NOT share! They equally had a chance at winning and there was no prior agreement that you would share!

Get this post pulled or you'll be outed!

Nocabbageinmyeye · 01/02/2018 14:32

So he bought ye scratch cards and now you've won it's caused bad feeling??? WTF did he think you'd win if not money? Selection boxes?

I definitely would not have shared, I need to know what you said to him after you stopped laughing at him the cheeky fucker

Redglitter · 01/02/2018 14:33

What a brass neck. Unless you had an agreement to split winnings tell them and your boss to jog on.

I can't believe they think they should get a share and he certainly shouldn't be getting involved

MistyMeena · 01/02/2018 14:33

CFs of the highest order! Do NOT share!

Plipplops · 01/02/2018 14:34

You definitely don't have to share it and did a lovely thing taking them out. you shouldn't have to keep it a secret either - although it has made me think twice as I've given scratch cards before (perhaps in home made crackers) and didn't really consider the potential fallout.

Can't believe they cried to the boss, and it's fucking unbelievable that he backed them up. Spineless twat.

BashStreetKid · 01/02/2018 14:34

Can you tell them they've misunderstood, it wasn't the scratch card you got from your employers that won?

g1itterati · 01/02/2018 14:34

I bet your boss had just run into the corner shop last minute and grabbed a few bottles, chocolates and a few scratch cards with a "that'll do them" kind of attitude. Maybe he thinks HE has a claim if he was the one who physically bought the cards. In this case, he's a w***er who has probably been stewing all Xmas Grin

Chugalug · 01/02/2018 14:34

Nasty bitches....they should be happy for you....lie tell them it's gone on credit cards you had eun up ,and have now cleared...and start looking for another job with nicer colleagues x

thecatsthecats · 01/02/2018 14:34

I got those Christmas crackers that have cash prizes in them and they turned me into a neurotic mess - every time I pulled one it was like I was risking MY lucky dip!

But no, that's ridiculous. You weren't in any way a syndicate.

Cliveybaby · 01/02/2018 14:35

Did you tell them how much you won?
If not you could tell them it was only £1000 or something, and you've spent most of it (inc treating them) and hand over £100 each or something?