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Should I have shared?

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werkwerkwerk · 01/02/2018 14:08

I've name changed for this as it is very outing!

Basically, I work in a small office with 2 other ladies doing the admin etc, for a local business. I have been there, full time, for just over 3 years, the 2nd works part time and has been there for almost 1 year and the 3rd is a new starter, still on probation.

We don't socialise outside of work and I wouldn't say we were particularly friendly.

For Christmas, the 3 of us were given a bottle of prosecco, a box of chocolates and a scratch card.

My scratch card was a winner! £25k winner.

I was over the moon! I've had a tough few years financially and this really couldn't have come at a better time. The money paid off a few bills and the rest will be used as a deposit on my very own little house (as soon as I find it!) I'm very excited!

After new year, I invited the 2 ladies I work with out for a champane afternoon tea in a swanky hotel and then we went for manicures and pedicures. All my treat.

This morning, I was taken into the office by the owner of the business and told that the other ladies have asked him to speak to me regarding the winnings, as they feel it should be shared 3 ways. And my boss agrees as he feels that my winning has caused a bad vibe in the office.

AIBU by not sharing? I'll be honest and say that the thought of sharing with them never even crossed my mind and I still have no intention of doing so, but I just wanted to get some other opinions...

OP posts:
ItWentInMyEye · 02/02/2018 11:50

They sound awful Shock enjoy your win!! Thanks

Viviennemary · 02/02/2018 12:24

Well I think tea in a swanky place and pedicure was a touch mean when you won £25k. But you don't have any obligation to share your winnings. But the atmosphere will be bad from now on IMHO. It's jealousy. I don't expect if they'd won they would have shared equally with you.

pisacake · 02/02/2018 12:26

she didn't win £25k though Hmm

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 02/02/2018 12:29

pisacake Why does it bother you so much that OP changed the amount?

And since it does bother you so much, why are you still responding?

FluffyWuffy100 · 02/02/2018 12:32

We get scratch cards at chritmas from a relative - they all get dished out and we all scratch them.

I often wonder what would happen if someone won big (the most anyone has ever won is a tenner!)

babyccinoo · 02/02/2018 12:40

she didn't win £25k though Hmm

Pisacake - It's what OP said in her OP and as we don't know exactly how much she won why are you annoyed and pulling the Hmm face?

You are way too overinvested. Take every thread with a pinch of salt and unclench.

pisacake · 02/02/2018 12:45

Overinvested? I made two replies in this thread, god knows how many some of you lot have.

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 02/02/2018 12:55

pisacake You seem to have a real bee in your bonnet about the OP changing the amount. Why is that?

Hardly anyone else, apart from the 2birds poster, has had anything negative to say.

SumThucker · 02/02/2018 12:55

I'd say the over-invested on the thread are those replying as though OP is one of their Facebook huns.

Some tales on here are clearly put on to make the Daily Mail, they're pretty easy to spot too.

No point reporting them either, it's not something MN could disprove is it? Obviously they'd know if it was a name-change by a regular account.

The cynic in me thinks MN enjoy the traffic from the DM articles though so it's win-win for them.

ForestFrump · 02/02/2018 13:12

Winners like this can never win. My friends elderly man won £30000 a couple if years ago.

She gave my friend £2000 towards her wedding and my friend said "£2000 is a bit mean when she's won £30000!".

I mean ffs - entitled or what? She is lucky to get anything. Where does people's entitlement come from?

ForestFrump · 02/02/2018 13:13
  • Nan not man!!
2birds1chick · 02/02/2018 13:41

MNHQ - I wasn't trollhunting. I was calling someone out of blatant BS. There is a difference.
Maybe you should actually research what an internet troll is, before using the term 'trollhunter' for someone who challenges another about lies.
This is so fucking petty and ridiculous.

SillyMoomin · 02/02/2018 13:49

Sour grapes 2birds? Wink

TheMerryWidow1 · 02/02/2018 13:50

good luck to you op, you tried to do a nice thing and its come back to bite you, such as shame. Be interested to see how the boss thinks he can tell you what to do, none of his business!! Have fun spending it!!!!

2birds1chick · 02/02/2018 14:04

Moomin Not at all Wink

MiddleClassProblem · 02/02/2018 14:13

It is troll hunting here as basically trolls here tend to be more catfish style than bullies. We don’t need those kinda trolls when the “vipers” wake anyway 😂

I’m not sure if those kids of trolls can be hunted though. Unless you mean physically stalking them to here IP address...

It can be frustrating that you can’t call bullshit but unfortunately that’s just the rules here and it has lead to genuine OPs being attacked. I’ve even seen a few attempts in long time posters which is amusing as they get batted off like an annoying gnat.

DarthNigel · 02/02/2018 14:27

Haha! I'd like my next door neighbour to share their recent premium bonds with me as it's causing a bad vibe on our street because theirs won and mine didn't..

These people and your boss need to get a massive grip.

Clandestino · 02/02/2018 14:31

You've got enough money to start looking for a job and from the look of the things you will need it.
Sour grapes. They're jealous but it doesn't mean you need to budge and share your win. It's your ticket, your win. Enjoy.

Butterymuffin · 02/02/2018 14:35

@2birds

MNHQ - I wasn't trollhunting. I was calling someone out of blatant BS. There is a difference

No, there isn't. You were trollhunting by MN's rules as you were obviously suggesting that this hadn't actually happened (even with change of details) to the OP and it was an attempt to 'plant' a story. So your patronising reply to MNHQ doesn't give you the moral high ground, it just makes you look like someone prepared to argue on for ever about why they were in the right. Not a good look!

I've no skin in this game. I have no idea what's actually going on in OP's life or anything about them. But it's MN's rules you're not playing by and they can enforce them if they want.

PhuntSox · 02/02/2018 14:38

Hand in your notice and leave, they will never get over this!

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 02/02/2018 14:46

"Hand in your notice and leave."

She may not be in a position where she can just hand in her notice. We're not all married to CEOs and Bankers.
Yes I know she's just won a vast amount of money but thst wont last for ever.

Scrumptiousbears · 02/02/2018 14:57

So OP if you won more than £25k did you tell the girls the real amount?

Personally I wouldn't have shared but if I was one of the other girls i obviously would have loved it if you had Grin

Singlikemiranda · 02/02/2018 15:03

I have learnt from this thread is not to tell anyone if I ever win any money!

Ellie56 · 02/02/2018 15:18

I did think £400 out of £25k was quite a lot to spend on 2 work colleagues that you're not that close to, especially when you want to put a deposit down on a house. It makes more sense now.

How did the meeting go?

Ellie56 · 02/02/2018 15:19

Bet the boss won't be buying any more scratch cards... or not without a proviso that all winnings are shared from now on. Grin