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DH has hours of calls logged to a number I don't recognise

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livingontheedgeee · 29/01/2018 18:22

So, we use a phone provider where you pay for a monthly contract then need to add credit for things like calling overseas, dialling non-standard numbers etc. Normally DH and I keep £10 extra credit on just in case.
Last night, DH ran me as he's working away and asked me to top it up for him (he's completely technophobic).Normally I'd just log into the app on my phone but I was sitting at the computer at the time so I logged onto his online phone account to do it from there.

Right there, on the front page, it gave the top 5 numbers he calls with the number of hours associated with each number. One number he'd spoken to for 364 hours over the course of a month! Checking further (of course) he'd also sent 13 MMS to the same number meaning he's sending picture messages too.

Now he does use his phone a lot if he has to speak to clients and there are some clients he calls regularly but looking at the other calls, none of them are more than 10 hours across the whole month.

So, I went to his phone contacts list and lo and behold, here's the number assigned to some woman who I've never heard of.

I want to confront him but neither do I want to look stupid. He's never given me any reason to think he's messing about. Except perhaps he doesn't call me every day like he used to. Sometimes he goes two or three days without a call. This is the only change in his behaviour but thought it was on the back of me saying he needn't feel obliged to call every night.

Question is, do I call this number? Or do I ask him outright? Do I let it ride and see if he continues to call her?

OP posts:
Motoko · 29/01/2018 22:30

If he was having an affair, there would be more than 6 hours a month of calls, and possibly hundreds or thousands of text messages.

RamseysIdiotSandwich · 29/01/2018 22:31

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SandyDenny · 29/01/2018 22:39

Who sends SMS these days?

Me, I do, 100s every month, is there a prize?

What's so odd about that?

GertieMotherwell · 29/01/2018 22:39

I don’t understand why people are mentioning text messages. They could be sending 100’s of whatsapp messages a day without trace

Farmerswife36 · 29/01/2018 22:42

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LolitaChi · 29/01/2018 22:48

I’m confused ... why did he need you to top up the balance of the phone contract?

You said the contract was for calling abroad and non standard numbers.

Yet he’s working up north somewhere and she’s in Scotland? So he could just use his phone as normal.

FucksBizz · 29/01/2018 22:51

I wouldn't ring the number if I were you, but I would do some more digging.

Hope it's innocent OP Flowers

notevenamum1 · 29/01/2018 23:00

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CheapSausagesAndSpam · 29/01/2018 23:04

Just tell him you know....no poinbt in all this digging. Can you see if this woman is married from her profile?

sadie9 · 29/01/2018 23:07

364 hours over a month is 12hrs per day. Is he some sort of helpdesk technician? That's one reason why this would be happening. Otherwise as someone said, your phone account has been hacked and someone is using that number. I would firstly get onto the phone company and ask them to give you information on that number.

MrTrebus · 29/01/2018 23:13

Sadie RTFT

everyone placemarking it's quite rude really what are you hoping to read? Ooh goodie can't wait to see if he's cheating or not Hmm Rude. OP what did you decide to do?

ReginaldMolehusband · 29/01/2018 23:30

Since when have phone companies had access to all your contacts and give names to numbers?

RamseysIdiotSandwich · 29/01/2018 23:31

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

SandyDenny · 29/01/2018 23:31

Not only is the placemarking rude it's pretty pathetic to only post a fullstop

Bubblesback · 29/01/2018 23:35

Is there a chance your account could have been hacked and it's someone else?
Hmm

SandyDenny · 29/01/2018 23:36

Ramseys, it's a bit off topic but why are you insisting that no one sends texts, everyone I contact by phone uses texts, are you in the UK, millions of texts are sent every year

mehhh · 29/01/2018 23:41

Definitely do more digging!

RedDogsBeg · 29/01/2018 23:42

Sandy what does it tell you about the kind of person a poster is who would do that on a thread like this? Unbelievably rude.

lukeperry · 29/01/2018 23:48

@RamseysIdiotSandwich I send and receive multiple texts every day.

CheapSausagesAndSpam · 29/01/2018 23:54

Ramsey it's not odd at all. I use a laptop for all my internet dealings and my phone is a cheap one....I have no desire to use facebook or whatsapp so send texts. I'm in my 40s and a lot of my friends are the same.

WitchIwasaWitch18 · 30/01/2018 00:00

I think you are worrying unnecessarily. 6 hours and 13 picture messages over a month doesn't suggest a madly passionate affair to me especially as you already said other clients may be up to 10 hours.

norfolkenclue · 30/01/2018 00:01

@RamseysIdiotSandwich 🙄 really? 'Literally no one you know' sends texts? I must have a lot of weird/inept/backward friends then, because we all send texts. All the time. Every day 😱

💐 for you OP. Hope you're ok xx

maddening · 30/01/2018 00:06

I would go through his phone first , the content of the text messages is key, unless he deleted them which is just as tellling

impossible · 30/01/2018 00:09

This could very easily be innocent. Try not to jump the gun - maybe ask him.

MrsMaxwell · 30/01/2018 00:10

I HRTFT but check his internet history with a fine tooth comb.

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