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DH has hours of calls logged to a number I don't recognise

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livingontheedgeee · 29/01/2018 18:22

So, we use a phone provider where you pay for a monthly contract then need to add credit for things like calling overseas, dialling non-standard numbers etc. Normally DH and I keep £10 extra credit on just in case.
Last night, DH ran me as he's working away and asked me to top it up for him (he's completely technophobic).Normally I'd just log into the app on my phone but I was sitting at the computer at the time so I logged onto his online phone account to do it from there.

Right there, on the front page, it gave the top 5 numbers he calls with the number of hours associated with each number. One number he'd spoken to for 364 hours over the course of a month! Checking further (of course) he'd also sent 13 MMS to the same number meaning he's sending picture messages too.

Now he does use his phone a lot if he has to speak to clients and there are some clients he calls regularly but looking at the other calls, none of them are more than 10 hours across the whole month.

So, I went to his phone contacts list and lo and behold, here's the number assigned to some woman who I've never heard of.

I want to confront him but neither do I want to look stupid. He's never given me any reason to think he's messing about. Except perhaps he doesn't call me every day like he used to. Sometimes he goes two or three days without a call. This is the only change in his behaviour but thought it was on the back of me saying he needn't feel obliged to call every night.

Question is, do I call this number? Or do I ask him outright? Do I let it ride and see if he continues to call her?

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BarryTheKestrel · 29/01/2018 18:32

If you have Facebook put the number in the search bar, if the number is associated with an account it'll show you who it belongs to.

That's shit though. How many minutes in a month has he used calling you? I know on my husband's phone the 2 most commonly called numbers would be mine and MIL and most commonly texted would be me and his best mate. I'd be concerned if he was calling/sending picture messages to a random woman he'd never mentioned before.

retirednow · 29/01/2018 18:33

I couldn't resist getting someone to call it and see who answers. Or I'd type in the number and see what comes up.

VerrucaUpdate · 29/01/2018 18:33

The Facebook thing only works on people who have their mobile set to search. I don’t know anybody would that would work with.

KatnissMellark · 29/01/2018 18:33

6 hours could be a couple of long conference calls? Can you see any info re time of call/messages?

livingontheedgeee · 29/01/2018 18:33

AdalindSchade

He calls his clients to make arrangements to access their property or perhaps to have a discussion about any materials he needs to buy. The longest time he's spoken to any other number is 54 minutes over the month and I know who it is. He already told me they're eating into his day with the number of calls they expect.

Also, although I can't see all of the calls to this number, I can see that the last call was at 9pm in the evening.

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fantasmasgoria1 · 29/01/2018 18:34

Just ask him! I would not be able to wait I would just ask!

KatnissMellark · 29/01/2018 18:35

Definitely sounds dodgy then OP. Can you check his phone? I know others will advise you not to, but I'd get snooping.

FancyNewBeesly · 29/01/2018 18:36

Would he need to send picture messages to clients? Photos of work done or materials etc? Are there MMS to other numbers?

FancyNewBeesly · 29/01/2018 18:36

I agree with searching fb, whatsapp etc for the number.

Blackteadrinker77 · 29/01/2018 18:37

Could she be a nightmare client?

Has he mentioned one being a pain?

livingontheedgeee · 29/01/2018 18:38

Didn't know you could do that on Facebook, so I did it and found her. Someone in Dumfries. Now to start digging.

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fabulousfrumpyfeet · 29/01/2018 18:39

It sounds suspicious and I would need the truth if I were you. Pictures to a work colleague could be innocent, I often need to send pictures and videos

DextroDependant · 29/01/2018 18:39

6 hours in a month is more reasonable. Save the number and see what crops up on social media.

bobstersmum · 29/01/2018 18:39

Is it definitely a woman? Could just be a hard work client?

NorksAreMessy · 29/01/2018 18:40

When you hear hoofbeats,think of horses, not zebras

SchnitzelVonKrumm · 29/01/2018 18:41

Are you anywhere near Dumfries?

AdoraBell · 29/01/2018 18:44

Does his work area cover Dumfries?

italiancortado · 29/01/2018 18:45

I would hold back from saying anything just yet. It will give you the chance to gather more info

user1492958275 · 29/01/2018 18:45

So 6 hours and all the other clients don't go above 10 hours either?

Do I misunderstand ? If not I don't see what the problem is, he's called this number less than some others?

Viviennemary · 29/01/2018 18:45

I think you've got your sums wrong somewhere. 364 hours in the course of a month would be pretty impossible to do. Unless that person was on the phone either all night or all day.

EggysMom · 29/01/2018 18:46

Would have have work in Dumfries? That's an obvious first question, not knowing his line of business.

Viviennemary · 29/01/2018 18:46

Oh 6 hours. Not much change then. Hmm

GertieMotherwell · 29/01/2018 18:47

If you need someone to dig for you OP?
Just PM me x

peachgreen · 29/01/2018 18:47

It's tricky to know as that's not necessarily an unreasonable amount if she's a colleague or a client (depending on what DH does). Digging a bit more seems sensible. Hope it turns out to be nothing.

AdalindSchade · 29/01/2018 18:48

I'm confused
Do you mean other clients don't go over 10 hours in total with no more than one hour per client? And this number tots up 6 hours? That's definitely suss.

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