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DH has hours of calls logged to a number I don't recognise

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livingontheedgeee · 29/01/2018 18:22

So, we use a phone provider where you pay for a monthly contract then need to add credit for things like calling overseas, dialling non-standard numbers etc. Normally DH and I keep £10 extra credit on just in case.
Last night, DH ran me as he's working away and asked me to top it up for him (he's completely technophobic).Normally I'd just log into the app on my phone but I was sitting at the computer at the time so I logged onto his online phone account to do it from there.

Right there, on the front page, it gave the top 5 numbers he calls with the number of hours associated with each number. One number he'd spoken to for 364 hours over the course of a month! Checking further (of course) he'd also sent 13 MMS to the same number meaning he's sending picture messages too.

Now he does use his phone a lot if he has to speak to clients and there are some clients he calls regularly but looking at the other calls, none of them are more than 10 hours across the whole month.

So, I went to his phone contacts list and lo and behold, here's the number assigned to some woman who I've never heard of.

I want to confront him but neither do I want to look stupid. He's never given me any reason to think he's messing about. Except perhaps he doesn't call me every day like he used to. Sometimes he goes two or three days without a call. This is the only change in his behaviour but thought it was on the back of me saying he needn't feel obliged to call every night.

Question is, do I call this number? Or do I ask him outright? Do I let it ride and see if he continues to call her?

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Straycatblue · 29/01/2018 19:04

Now that you've found her on fb and have her name, can you do a google search of her name and or + phone number to see if shes on Linkedin etc to see if she is a work colleague of his or not or it might say on her fb if she is.

Is your husband fb friends with her?

TheBrilliantMistake · 29/01/2018 19:05

6 hours in a month seem fairly reasonable if it's a frequent client, but it doesn't seem very much if it's a mistress.

SandyDenny · 29/01/2018 19:05

It doesn't sounds good, does he have any connection you know of to Dumfries?

Is the facebook profile open, is he friends with her? She doesn't sound very internet savvy if she has her phone number freely available on facebook.

Do you have friend who could call her so it doesn't show on your phone account?

How are you accessing your DH's contacts? Have you got a way of seeing what's on his phone?

livingontheedgeee · 29/01/2018 19:06

I checked her FB profile and there are plenty of pictures. It's nobody I know. Nobody he knows either as far as I was concerned.

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LuluBellaBlue · 29/01/2018 19:08

I’d definitely be stalking her Facebook and name. Does he leave his phone unlocked when he’s at home?

HateTheDF · 29/01/2018 19:08

If you do a LinkedIn search do it when you aren't logged into yours or make sure that your profile is private. Sometimes you get told who has been searching you on LinkedIn and if she gets told you are searching her and something is going on then they may think you're onto them

WheresTheHooferDoofer · 29/01/2018 19:09

Screenshot everything as you go along.

lurkingnotlurking · 29/01/2018 19:09

So do you have access to his phone?

livingontheedgeee · 29/01/2018 19:10

I'm not sure if his phone is locked or not. It's not something I would really care or worry about. I will do a linkedin search as my account is private.

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readyforapummelling · 29/01/2018 19:10

My DP is a joiner and sometimes sends picture messages to customers of jobs etc or certain materials. Not very often, I just know its something he has done. The fact your DH is in a trade gives me hope that it could be this. I hope he isn't doing anything untoward but you are going to have to find out one way or the other Thanks

GottadoitGottadoit · 29/01/2018 19:11

Yes, don’t forget to screenshot

VileyRose · 29/01/2018 19:11

:( hope it's innocent. Are you ok?

BetterEatCheese · 29/01/2018 19:14

Oh blimey. Hope it turns out to be a client. If you trust him, ask him. Did he know you could log on online? If he did, he's careless if he's hiding anything. So hopefully innocent

SockUnicorn · 29/01/2018 19:15

@livingontheedgeee as some other posters have advised i would add it to your contacts and check the whatsapp photo, then type it into facebook and google and see what comes up. Good luck!

StopPOP · 29/01/2018 19:15

That's an awful lot. Hope all is ok

OnTheRise · 29/01/2018 19:15

I hope it turns out to be nothing sinister but just in case, try to find out all you can before saying anything to your husband, OP.

ColourfulOrangex · 29/01/2018 19:17

I hope it's nothing bad OP Wine

summerdreamz · 29/01/2018 19:18

Oh gosh I really hope it turns out to be nothing OP but alarm bells would be ringing 😔💐

MrsMozart · 29/01/2018 19:19

It maybwell depend on what work they're doing.

I can go ages without speaking to x,y,z, then we're closing a deal and it's non-blinking-stop.

TiffanyAtBreakfast · 29/01/2018 19:21

Doesn't sound great OP. Hope we are proven wrong Thanks

Oddish · 29/01/2018 19:23

Ask casually who ‘her name’ is and watch his reaction closely.

user7680 · 29/01/2018 19:24

Following.....

gingergenius · 29/01/2018 19:24

Hope it's innocent op

summerdreamz · 29/01/2018 19:25

If I were in your shoes I would keep quiet for now until you next see him and then saying something like "so the weirdest thing happened today, do you know who 'her name' is" and watch his reaction very closely.

TidyDancer · 29/01/2018 19:26

Six hours isn't massive if it's a difficult client but if it's out of character for his particular business then definitely worth questioning. Can you check credit card statements etc?

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