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DH has hours of calls logged to a number I don't recognise

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livingontheedgeee · 29/01/2018 18:22

So, we use a phone provider where you pay for a monthly contract then need to add credit for things like calling overseas, dialling non-standard numbers etc. Normally DH and I keep £10 extra credit on just in case.
Last night, DH ran me as he's working away and asked me to top it up for him (he's completely technophobic).Normally I'd just log into the app on my phone but I was sitting at the computer at the time so I logged onto his online phone account to do it from there.

Right there, on the front page, it gave the top 5 numbers he calls with the number of hours associated with each number. One number he'd spoken to for 364 hours over the course of a month! Checking further (of course) he'd also sent 13 MMS to the same number meaning he's sending picture messages too.

Now he does use his phone a lot if he has to speak to clients and there are some clients he calls regularly but looking at the other calls, none of them are more than 10 hours across the whole month.

So, I went to his phone contacts list and lo and behold, here's the number assigned to some woman who I've never heard of.

I want to confront him but neither do I want to look stupid. He's never given me any reason to think he's messing about. Except perhaps he doesn't call me every day like he used to. Sometimes he goes two or three days without a call. This is the only change in his behaviour but thought it was on the back of me saying he needn't feel obliged to call every night.

Question is, do I call this number? Or do I ask him outright? Do I let it ride and see if he continues to call her?

OP posts:
MrTrebus · 29/01/2018 18:48

This does not sound good I'd phone the number and say you're calling from Mr X office he wants to see what check what time you're meeting but he can't come to the phone right now and then just see what she says! I'd also confront him directly. But that's just me.

NoHunsHereHun · 29/01/2018 18:48

Does the woman's name match up with the name in his contacts? Does it let you see how the number of MMS compare to others, how often does the call log refresh - can you see when he was last in contact with this number? It could have been a big problem that's now sorted. Flowers

Littlechocola · 29/01/2018 18:49

I wouldn’t say anything until he’s back at least.

livingontheedgeee · 29/01/2018 18:50

To clarify. 364 minutes, or 6 hours of calls to this number with the next number on the list coming in at 54 minutes over the month.

He is working in the North at the moment but not in Scotland. Funny he's never mentioned her or having to speak to her for so long.

I think there's something odd going on and hate deception so doubt I'll be able to keep my mouth shut beyond tonight!

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Lucymek · 29/01/2018 18:52

Save the number to your phone and open it up in watsapp it will have a photo of her more than likely.

livingontheedgeee · 29/01/2018 18:52

Her name is on his contacts but it's a nickname as opposed to her full name.

The only other person he's sent a MMS to is me - a picture of the job he's just finished.

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NapQueen · 29/01/2018 18:53

Gosh how worrying.

Is there a call log to show times and durations?

GertieMotherwell · 29/01/2018 18:53

Does he have whatsapp livingonthedge?

GeekyWombat · 29/01/2018 18:53

Do you / she / him have any mutual friends on Facebook? Can you see if she has Instagram / Twitter etc?

ICanStandtheHeat · 29/01/2018 18:53

Oh love. Fucking bastard!! Ok do g first question later. You need more evidence.

LineySt · 29/01/2018 18:54

I caught my ExH out with phone records. Awful time. I hope this isn't happening to you, OP, and it's innocent.

ICanStandtheHeat · 29/01/2018 18:54

What's her Facebook look like? Is she single?

HateTheDF · 29/01/2018 18:56

I would also put the number into Google and see what comes up

GertieMotherwell · 29/01/2018 18:56

What difference does her being single make?

MiltonBurnedTheBuildingDown · 29/01/2018 18:57

I would say print off the phone records, but if he's a technophobe you've got time to watch and wait.

NeverTwerkNaked · 29/01/2018 18:57

Sounds a bit suspect to me

MotherofTerriers · 29/01/2018 18:58

Dig around first. If its innocent, no harm done. If not, once you ask him he will delete stuff to cover his tracks and be very careful about leaving his phone lying around etc

RebeccaWrongDaily · 29/01/2018 18:59

cherchez la femme, and say nothing while you are doing it.

toolonglurking · 29/01/2018 18:59

Have to say, I'd be really suspicious...

BrieAndChilli · 29/01/2018 19:01

Can you look at her Facebook page and see if there’s any comments on there she’s made about your DH? Can you’d ee her on his friends list?
Does he ever go to Scotland?

twotired · 29/01/2018 19:01

Don't confront him till you have done some decent digging.

I hope it's innocent (but I won't lie, my spidey senses would be tingling), but if it's not then I'm sorry Thanks

mummyoftvef · 29/01/2018 19:01

If it's a mobile number put it in ur phone as A and see if they have WhatsApp if it comes up u could see there profile picture n see if u no the person

ClaryFray · 29/01/2018 19:02

I'd be shocked. Can you ask someone to add the profile? Someone you trust whom he wouldn't know if she mentioned the name.

Looks suspect OP

ICanStandtheHeat · 29/01/2018 19:02

Fair enough gertie not a lot I guess

Bubblegumfan · 29/01/2018 19:03

When is he next home op? Could you check his phone?

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