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DH has hours of calls logged to a number I don't recognise

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livingontheedgeee · 29/01/2018 18:22

So, we use a phone provider where you pay for a monthly contract then need to add credit for things like calling overseas, dialling non-standard numbers etc. Normally DH and I keep £10 extra credit on just in case.
Last night, DH ran me as he's working away and asked me to top it up for him (he's completely technophobic).Normally I'd just log into the app on my phone but I was sitting at the computer at the time so I logged onto his online phone account to do it from there.

Right there, on the front page, it gave the top 5 numbers he calls with the number of hours associated with each number. One number he'd spoken to for 364 hours over the course of a month! Checking further (of course) he'd also sent 13 MMS to the same number meaning he's sending picture messages too.

Now he does use his phone a lot if he has to speak to clients and there are some clients he calls regularly but looking at the other calls, none of them are more than 10 hours across the whole month.

So, I went to his phone contacts list and lo and behold, here's the number assigned to some woman who I've never heard of.

I want to confront him but neither do I want to look stupid. He's never given me any reason to think he's messing about. Except perhaps he doesn't call me every day like he used to. Sometimes he goes two or three days without a call. This is the only change in his behaviour but thought it was on the back of me saying he needn't feel obliged to call every night.

Question is, do I call this number? Or do I ask him outright? Do I let it ride and see if he continues to call her?

OP posts:
judgejudyandexecutioner · 31/01/2018 15:53

Good luck

MrWriter · 31/01/2018 16:01

Good luck OP, hope its something perfectly innocent.

pollythedolly · 31/01/2018 16:02

Good luck.

youwouldthink · 31/01/2018 16:15

Hope it goes ok OP. But to be honest if it was something everyday/normal he would have explained straight off and carried on with his work day I think

Celticlassie · 31/01/2018 16:20

It was exactly this situation that ended my relationship with my ex. Numerous texts and calls to an unknown (to me) number.

Hope all's ok, OP.

SingingSeuss · 31/01/2018 16:36

You're very brave op. I hope it's not what you think.

pinkhorse · 31/01/2018 16:36

Are you ok op?

OrangeMan · 31/01/2018 16:37

Any update OP

Gudgyx · 31/01/2018 16:40

Good luck OP, hope it's all innocent

alotalotalot · 31/01/2018 16:41

I hope it goes ok for you op.

FucksakeCuntingFuckingTwats · 31/01/2018 16:46

Surely if it were innocent hed of laughed and told you what and who it is. Not come all the way home from working away.

pickleofficer · 31/01/2018 16:48

Fingers crossed there's a reasonable explanation OP

barbitarojo · 31/01/2018 16:50

I hope he gives you a good explanation and i hope the outcome isn't what you're thinking.
Even if it is, you can and will get through it.

chameleonsocks · 31/01/2018 16:59

Fingers crossed that he explains it all and it's totally innocent and you feel like a muppet for ever doubting him Flowers

2018SoFarSoGreat · 31/01/2018 17:17

So hoping this is going to end with you looking like a bit of a tit Flowers

Mammysin · 31/01/2018 17:20

OP Hope you are ok. Really feeling for u 😟

ConfusedButInLove · 31/01/2018 17:21

OP hopefully there is a good explanation for this. Good luck. Thinking if you Flowers

AdidasGirl · 31/01/2018 17:42

Keeping everything crossed for you OP.
Sadly I'm one of those who had that feeling in her stomach and was right.

PupPupBoogie · 31/01/2018 17:50

Good luck op

susiebee61 · 31/01/2018 17:59

could it be some kind of therapist, or from a support group person? really feeling for OP she is very brave

LastNightMyWifeHooveredMyHead · 31/01/2018 18:03

What Susie said - could it be his AA sponsor or something similar? I appreciate there may not be an innocent explanation, but "not what you think" and the need to talk f2f mean there could be - not many cheats fancy their chances bluffing face to face.

Either way, Flowers OP

loopylobespat · 31/01/2018 18:10

What ever it is I’m sure he would have got Home to tell you by now.

I hope you are alright OPFlowers

Pfftkids · 31/01/2018 18:12

I hope you are alright Op x

wishful2012 · 31/01/2018 18:26

Hope you're ok 💐 Told my dh that I spoke to tech and I could get his messages back....came clean as soon as he got in, he kissed someone 22years younger, not gonna run after him this time just hope I stay strong enough to do the right thing x

Dolwar · 31/01/2018 18:31

OP do you still have access to his calls and message log online? Can you check tto are of he's contacted her since you told him you knew about the calls etc? Might show him having done a panic phone call?