Is it rude in all situations to ask for siblings to come to a birthday party?

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Following on from another thread about sibling and party. I was wondering if people think it's rude in any situation to ask for sibling to come to a birthday party?

If one of my dc are invited to play centre/soft play party, I think it's fine to bring the siblings, pay them in and feed them myself at another table and they have sweets when party bags go out.

Iv been stuck for childcare and my kids have sen (i need to be nearby) so iv been to leisure parties where iv stayed in the cafe (near the hall) with siblings while one dc at the party. The parents have always some out and nicely told me off for not saying and they would have included my other children - very thoughtful.

I have my kids parties in a church hall that i cater so i really don't mind siblings as long as they let me know they are coming.

Is it rude to ask tbh I don't think so as I'd be happy to say no? I think it's rude to just turn up with siblings and leave them.

My childrens friends at that age were carefully chosen. Even the ones I didn't know didn't come with parents attached! My children don't just have birthday parties but Halloween and other occasions as well.

No I don't think it's rude to ask I also don't think it's rude to say no either. It depends on circumstances and the kids.

For DD first birthday we had it in a massive hall and everyone was invite (I have neices and nephews at 5 & 7) however it was manic and we kept having to police them along with older siblings who came as the one year olds couldn't enjoy themselves for read of being trampled on. Most of the older kids listened and were good, one or two completely ignored us and carried on running riot!

This birthday we have booked softplay at a leisure centre so it's limited numbers so I have said unfortunately older sibling can't come due to numbers but also they can't help themselves running around and most are at an age where they won't take into consideration younger children who the party was meant for are also trying to play. Even my lovely sweet godson isn't invite because he's only 6 and just wants to play and it's not far to expect him to sit quietly or keep telling him off for running around (like older kids naturally do at softplay). However I'm so to be at the other end of this with DC2 on the way.

I started asking for church hall type parties. A couple of times I have explained to my younger one she couldn't go only to arrive and find everyones little siblings were there and host says I should have brought her! They all know each other too.

However not been asking to bring older sibling to younger ones parties as they don't know her and I think older ones can dominate a bit. Soft play it is fine to take them along and pay for them, get them food seperately if needed.

I wouldn't ask if it was someones house or a pay per person type thing though. But if you have childcare issues it is worth just speaking to the organiser.

Not unreasonable for younger siblings as long as you ask first. For church hall type parties most people over-cater anyway.