AIBU Trollhunting is ruining AIBU

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I understand troll hunting if the OP is giving dangerous advice. However, increasingly every single poster is being grilled by troll hunters about every aspect of their post. It makes a thread hard to follow and really boring to read.

I don't understand why the troll hunters do it, there is an easy to use report button. I have read several threads in the last week where the OP was subjected to constant snide comments about the veracity of their post. I think if these troll hunters persist then people won't want to post at all.

Isn't dismissing as tedious anyone who starts a thread about their previous experiences on MN pretty similar to rocking up on a thread about parent and child parking and whining at the op that this has been done to death?

I'm teetering on the edge of handwringing that we should all just be nice to each other, aren't I

I agree that as posters we can acknowledge other posters we know. There's nothing wrong in that. I just don't think an exclusive board for "oldies" would be a good idea.

So in Mumsnet-land, the word “elders”
means a clique who have been here since the dawn of time? Got it.

Clique is less insulting imo.

I think there has to be a balance really Pagwatch

I meant to indicate that if people start threads about their previous experience you can avoid it if you wish and acknowledging people on threads is natural, but totally derailing them does give credence to accusations of exclusion and cliques. You wouldn't go to a party and take over and freeze people out of a conversation that was previously going on after all.

I laugh at, dislike and cringe in equal measure at those type of threads ilovesooty, especially when they start off with bemoaning where all the witty and intelligent posters have gone and descend rapidly into dialogue reminiscent of an excrutiatingly bad sit-com.

I've been around on MN a long time and in the early years threads would be full of virtual buffets, in-jokes, greetings to one another, repeated inane comments which were lauded as being so witty/intelligent, all the while the OP and any poster who tried to answer the OP would either be totally ignored or torn off a strip for spoiling the party. If those are the 'golden days' posters harp on about their rose tinted glasses are certainly doing their job.

And no, I wouldn't be keen on an Elders board but I'd like to see name changing restricted to discourage the goading of others.

It depends Pagwatch , posters recognising one another on a thread and waving and then speaking exclusively to each other, does de-rail a thread and is not too far off implying the OP and others posters aren't interesting enough. Using your pub scenario you surely wouldn't barge into a group of people having a conversation and then monopolise one person from that group in a totally different conversation to the exclusion of all the others.

Agree with ilovesooty and particularly RedDogsBreath. There is a balance and the 'luvvies' know what they're doing and don't particularly have regard for anybody else. It's a bit much and if it's making posters feel that they're intruding on the thread then it should be really obvious to stop or take it somewhere else.

...are designed

Tbf I don't think MN is anywhere near as cliquey as days of old. Probably because many of the oldies have either left or have been banned. I think it's fine to recognise and interact with a poster we have something in common with but not to the degree where it derails the thread ( that used to happen a lot ) or that it makes other posters feel left out.

There has to be balance and I'd rather feel like I was in a pub recognising some people but not others while basking in a certain cammeraderie than feel like we are all just standing on a street corner shouting at anyone who passes.

What a silly analogy. This is not a drinking den.

Agreed Lying

I think it's about manners and consideration for others - which would replicate the social awareness of real life scenarios hopefully.

Rose Are you trying to have a sly dig at another poster, or did you get goats mixed up with another animal?

imight

I am assuming its directed it at me

I dont think it was sly to be fair

It was overt

Great but it invariably does de-rail the thread as there is a separate conversation which is nothing to do with the premise of the thread going on in the middle of it which is automatically excluding others. Why not PM the poster you recognise and want to catch up with? Or start a separate thread for a catch-up?

Rufus Hmm, your mileage may vary, but I don't think it was bold enough to be overt. But not really high-grade infiltration grade work either. More Austin Powers than James Bond, maybe?

IMightMentionGriddlebone

Rufus Hmm, your mileage may vary, but I don't think it was bold enough to be overt. But not really high-grade infiltration grade work either. More Austin Powers than James Bond, maybe?

Is this an Older People only conversation emerging? Lol

I think it's unreasonable to not expect posters to acknowledge each other but as I said they shouldn't derail the thread RedDog. Fwiw I rarely see anyone letting on to their MN mates anymore.

If you like, it can be an 'older person' conversation. It's nice not to have someone demand my driving licence or other PASS-protected photographic ID for a change I'd describe it as random mumsnetters reacting to your comment, though. Did you not expect anyone to care?

Older people as in forum Elders.