To think this is quite rude? I paid for her £72.34 shopping.

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I work part-time in a supermarket and it was someone's last shift. I do have a gift for her at home (as she didn't know her leaving date) but I told her to grab a few bits and I'll treat her (I didn't know what else to do).

The shopping came to £72.34! She then goes "thanks so much".

She also knows I'm a student :(

Maybe it's my fault for doing what I did, but don't you think that's quite rude?

You were not stupid. You were nice and friendly. She was cruel.

Harriet, I think I'd feel better knowing it weren't true. Some people are cheeky feckers though so I wouldn't dismiss anything these days.

Oh lovely!
You were being kind and she was being vile. Unless there was some sort of EPIC miscommunication, but I don't really see how that could have happened. Ignore the posters being rude to you, it's totally unnecessary. We all do daft things at 19, even if they're not quite on this scale .
Life lesson.

Be careful though, OP. The Daily Fail would love this.

How awful! Do any of your colleagues know this CF well enough outside of work to shame her into paying back every penny?

Karma may well sort her out. If someone has a collection for her when she leaves her next job let's hope it consists of Monopoly money, paper clips, loose staples and stray pubes.

You aren't stupid at all. The fault was hers, not yours

Too right,not your fault - it's the cheeky fkr who thought she could take advantage!
I've just seen you're 19. Trying to think back to when I was 19 only yesterday,yeah I wish and I can see it would be easy to feel cornered by some bolshy "older" person.
Chalk it up to experience, it's done now and not much you can do about it - just be prepared for any next times now you know it definitely is rude of her and you really don't have to pay for her weekly shop! She was WELL out of order.
A "sorry, I meant choose a bottle of wine/box of chocolates or something, I can't afford an entire £75 week's shop for you!"

She was a CF.
Lesson learned for you.
Next time : Grab stuff that comes to £x. Be clear.

She is rude cheeker fucker. You were bloody stupid to let her do that.

OP, Seeing as this is really quite an extreme situation, how about contacting the woman and asking for some of the money back. My guess is that she won't give you any of it back but she might do.

Hi CF,
I've been thinking about what happened today and wanted to let you know that I didn't intend for you to have bought so much when I suggested you choose something as a leaving gift. It never crossed my mind that you would spend more than £5-£10 🤷🏻‍♀️. I know I should have said something at the time but I was so shocked I didn't know what to say. Anyway I would be grateful if you could repay me some of the money. As you know I'm a skint student and I can't afford to spend that much on someone's leaving present. I would have been happy to spend up to £10 so could you please repay me £62.54. My bank details are xxxxx

Thanks OP

Was it a misunderstanding? Maybe she was going to do her shopping anyway and never dreamed you'd pay for all of it. Did she seem surprised or grateful? If that's the case she may be perfectly happy to give your money back. She may be feeling awkward about it too. Maybe not but just wondered!

Well, she's a horror but you've learnt a great lesson and it only took 70 quid. I'd chalk this up to experience.

Can you message her OP? You could say you felt put on the spot & made a rash decision & have now only just fully comprehended how low on funds this will leave you. Even if she doesn’t repay the money, which I wouldn’t have high hopes for if she was so cheeky to take it in the first place, it highlights her CF behaviour.

I struggle to understand this level of cheekiness - I’m the kind of person who would stand there for 10 mins insisting you didn’t buy me anything & would feel extremely awkward picking anything out.

If this is real then OP you are completely spineless and need to get a grip. I can't believe people let other adults treat them like this.

This is crazy. Can this possibly have happened? it seems so unlikely. There are so many CFs posted about on MN but I've yet to encounter anyone this cheeky. Sorry this happened, OP. I'd message and ask for some money back. The message a PP suggested was very good.

19, the OP is 19!

Some of you on here should be ashamed of yourselves and your vile comments to her.

OP, lesson learnt. Life will teach you to say no and toughen up but please, don’t stop being the nice person that you so clearly are

Wow I just can't understand how anyone could be so cheeky!

Don't beat yourself up over this OP. She took advantage; chalk it up to experience and try to stand firm next time someone tries it on.

Don't feel bad op.

You thought she was your friend. She's not. She's a nasty piece of work who took advantage of your kindness and generosity.

Just chalk it up to experience.

Can you message her OP?

I think you should try and get your money back.
You're only 19 and she shouldn't have taken advantage like that.
It's stealing really.
There's no way this was a misunderstanding. The cow took advantage of you.
Could you speak to a supervisor about it? They could try and get the money back on your behalf.

Wow. Unbelievable.

No, really.

Yes, message her OP. Although I can why you wouldn't want to and might prefer to put this whole bonkers thing behind you.
Hope you're ok.

If this is real.... then hopefully the DM will pick this up and shame the CF!

Agreed Sparkly - this is one thread I hope the DM do pick up on and she recognises herself!

Dear OP u sound lovely. I am sorry this happened. If you are not too embarrassed please talk to your supervisor. The colleague in question sounds horrid. You were beyond kind. Learn always set a limit and say no. I am sure older people would have been caught out too. Be kind to yourself.

Even if someone said to you, go pick up a couple of bits or something, who in their right mind would do a £70 food shop?!?!