AIBU to next time tell him to fuck off?

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Parking. I get the frustration for people living near schools but I never park illegally and never block people in. This evening at 4:30 I parked up in my usual spot about 2 doors down from the school as we are not allowed to park in the school car park. Bloke in van pulled in behind me, gesturing wildly. Got out his car and banged on my window, demanding that I move my car so He could park outside his house. Several times I head tilted and said ‘why’ and he repeated himself, each time just a little bit more aggressively. I had turned off the car and picked up my mobile to speak to my eldest to see if he’d picked up a loaf on the way home. Once I’d done that (man still shouting at me),I moved the car across the road but walked back past him to a very insincere ‘thank you’. Repeated again that my car was taxed and insured and that as I was legally parked, under no obligation to move my car. He then got really aggressive and yelled at me that he was ‘going to report’ me for being on my mobile. I laughed and said yes, in a legally parked up car with the engine turned off. So his response to that was that it was illegal to use a mobile in a car.

I shouldn’t have moved, I know. I was wrong, AIBU to stalk that parking space so next time I can tell him to do one?!

Am really shaken.

Gotta, most people know that calling a woman 'hysterical', 'manic' and saying 'calm down!', is misogynistic language. It's a fact
Its not about you being a woman. Don't hide behind that...it's your responses...your gender is of no interest to me.

I don't need a dictionary, maybe you should educate yourself on the subject? Try the Feminist board on here and then some wider reading perhaps.
I couldn't be less hysterical if I tried, I am in bed.

But I am a woman, and you called me those things.

Would you call a man hysterical or manic, for daring to reply to you? Of course not.
As you said yourself, you didn't call others stupid because they didn't reply back or argue with you. That is why you're so angry.

Yes, for calling people cunts for no reason. A man can be just as hysterical and stupid as you a woman you know.
How sexist you are, as well as everything else!

But I am a woman, and you called me those things

Because you were being those things. I am also a woman.
You can't call the misogynist card because someone recognises you are getting wound up....in bed or not.

Oh dear, you don't really understand do you. I will leave it here, it wouldn't be fair to carry on as you're not very educated on the topics you're referencing.

Females can be misogynists, too. Clearly.

Would you call a man hysterical or manic, for daring to reply to you? Of course not

If he responded like you....then yes, of course! It's not about you replying...it's about the tone and increasing hysteria!

What hysteria?

And no, you wouldn't, you liar.

Oh dear, you don't really understand do you. I will leave it here, it wouldn't be fair to carry on as you're not very educated on the topics you're referencing

...just

And no, you wouldn't, you liar

Oh I SO would!

me too.

No you wouldn't. It's a gendered insult used to shut women up.

It really isn't, but please do keep telling us that you know better than we do what we say and do. You know how women just love that.

It's a fact.

It really isn't, no matter how many times you say it. Its just your opinion.

It isn't opinion, it is fact. You're showing yourself up trying to argue that one because I can guarantee that most people know that.

Sigh. "Hysteria" has the same root as the word "hysterectomy". Hysterics were held to be so because their wombs were wandering. So yes, to be hysterical is usually a gendered insult and is far more often applied to women than it is to men. As a medical diagnosis it was also far, far more likely to be applied to women (see Elaine Showalter's work).

Estella may be a GF and she may have entirely derailed the thread. But she is right that women are far more likely to be portrayed as hysterical and emotional than are men, even when they're acting in very similar ways.

I'm far from being a GF, it's clear if you read back that two people kept going on and on at me, when I gave very little response. They continued so I gave it back.
I didn't do it all on my own, I will always defend myself. Always.

Wow, this thread has gone downhill. Estellanpip, you are being a GF, as you've single handedly derailed this thread with this ridiculous argument. (I avoided using the word 'stupid'.)

So,...even if a woman sounds a bit hysterical...it's forbidden to say so? Estallanpip happens to be a woman, so if hysterical cannot be used then please let me know what word I am permitted to use to describe her responses. I've already said her gender is of no interest to me, I respond to what's said, not to cheer gender.

*her gender...

Why is manic sexist? I can see why hysteria is/can be sexist but not manic.