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AIBU to next time tell him to fuck off?

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ohreallyohreallyoh · 23/01/2018 17:40

Parking. I get the frustration for people living near schools but I never park illegally and never block people in. This evening at 4:30 I parked up in my usual spot about 2 doors down from the school as we are not allowed to park in the school car park. Bloke in van pulled in behind me, gesturing wildly. Got out his car and banged on my window, demanding that I move my car so He could park outside his house. Several times I head tilted and said ‘why’ and he repeated himself, each time just a little bit more aggressively. I had turned off the car and picked up my mobile to speak to my eldest to see if he’d picked up a loaf on the way home. Once I’d done that (man still shouting at me),I moved the car across the road but walked back past him to a very insincere ‘thank you’. Repeated again that my car was taxed and insured and that as I was legally parked, under no obligation to move my car. He then got really aggressive and yelled at me that he was ‘going to report’ me for being on my mobile. I laughed and said yes, in a legally parked up car with the engine turned off. So his response to that was that it was illegal to use a mobile in a car.

I shouldn’t have moved, I know. I was wrong, AIBU to stalk that parking space so next time I can tell him to do one?!

Am really shaken.

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StaplesCorner · 23/01/2018 18:34

I can see from both sides - how?! How is there more than one side?! She was legally parked, he was an outrageous tosser.

StaplesCorner · 23/01/2018 18:35

If this was a woman trying to get a man to move cos he was outside her house, even if she was pregnant with twins had 2 toddlers and SPD, posters would be saying "He's legally parked you have no right!!!"

Pengggwn · 23/01/2018 18:35

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Bluelady · 23/01/2018 18:36

It annoys the shit out of me. We have no off street parking nor do any of our neighbours, we all respect the space outside each others' houses to the point of not allowing visitors to park in them and get really angry when random people use them.

Rudgie47 · 23/01/2018 18:36

He doesnt own the road outside his house. Anyone can park there.
I'd phone 101 and make a complaint about his behaviour saying you felt intimidated because of his aggression.
If he does it again just tell him you are ringing the Police now, and do it in front of him.

Youngmystery · 23/01/2018 18:36

I would phone the police on him and report him. The non emergency number of course.

I did that to some twit who decided to hammer on my window and shouted at me for apparently stealing his space, which I didn't do. It's just something you don't do it's aggressive behaviour. The police found him and had a word with him, so hopefully he'll behave himself in future.

He chose to live by a school. It's obvious people will park there to pick up their kids. He may not always get his desired space if he goes there at the school run time.

Giraffey1 · 23/01/2018 18:37

The home owner was in the wrong. He has no right to park outside his property no matter how frustrating he no doubt finds it. It was unnecessary for him to be rude to you. He could have asked you politely if you would mind moving (as there was somewhere else you could park).

Maybe you could try parking somewhere not outside someone’s house If there is a space? It would be a kind thing to do.

catwoozle · 23/01/2018 18:39

I'd have locked myself in the car, filmed him then reported him to the police.

ittakes2 · 23/01/2018 18:39

School or no school - I get annoyed when residents insist they have the right to park on the public parking space outside their house and ask me to move. They don’t own the car space - it’s a public car space and I pay council taxes. BUT - I would antagonise them like you just did!

hotcrossbun83 · 23/01/2018 18:39

Similar happened to me once outside my son’s nursery. There wasn’t a problem with parking usually, there were a few spaces for parents and most parents walked anyway on their way to the station. One time all the spaces happened to be full (I was driving because I was heavily pregnant) so I parked on the road, completely legally. A woman pulled up next to me screaming that I didn’t have a parking permit - it was a CPZ from 10am-2pm only so I didn’t need one, I said this over and over but she just didn’t get it and said she would ‘report me’, who to I have no idea! Then stared taking pictures of my car. I laughed and ignored, she just got madder and madder. Best part was when another nursery Mum walked past and just said ‘calm down you mad cow’

Bojangles33 · 23/01/2018 18:41

Penggwyn

As I said, he shouldn't have been aggressive, but being rude and belligerent in return isn't helping anybody. Personally, as there was clearly another perfectly usable space I would've just moved and got on with my day. Each to their own though.

catwoozle · 23/01/2018 18:42

Don't live near a school if this sort of stuff bothers you. I feel sorry for people who don't have a choice, but not for the residents of £600,000+ houses near DD's school, which were built a long time after the school was yet are always moaning about its very existence.

MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 23/01/2018 18:42

As someone who lives in a house with no off road parking...

Sure it's legal to park there, but it's actually really fucking annoying to have some tit park outside your house! Just because you legally can doesn't make you any less of a twat for doing it.

He shouldn't have been aggressive, but sometimes people push your buttons.

Fluffyears · 23/01/2018 18:42

I would have just told him to report me forboarkinh completely legally. In fact i’d offer to wait for the police. Yes it’s nice to park outside your house but isn’t a god given right.

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 23/01/2018 18:43

Legally it's fine to park outside someone's house but it's good manners to move if the house owner returns and wants to park there.

I didn't think people head tilted in real life. Grin

And No, don't tell him to Fuck Off next time. Pick your battles and park somewhere else.
Life's too short for this sort of thing, whoever's technically in the right.

Gottagetmoving · 23/01/2018 18:43

Yes YABU to tell him to fuck off, because you have no more right to park there than anyone else and it is a bit annoying if you've taken the space outside his own home
That's just silly!
OP had more right than anyone else because she was there before anyone else! The only one in the wrong was the man.
OP took a space on a road quite legally. The fact it was outside his home is totally irrelevant.
If the man had phoned the police he would have been told he was in the wrong.

Curtainshopping · 23/01/2018 18:45

get really angry when random people use them.

Really? Why?

BewareOfDragons · 23/01/2018 18:45

They were not certainly both in the wrong here. OP was parked up legally on a public street. No one owns the street in front of their home, however much they may act like it.

Parking near schools is a nightmare for homeowners. Yes. But that is life. And most schools were there before the homeowners. They knew there could well be parking issues for a couple of time periods a day.

T2517 · 23/01/2018 18:45

I live by a school, people regularly block us in and you really get sick of people thinking that the people who live next to schools don’t have anywhere to go. My neighbour in particular really gets quite aggressive. But if you weren’t over a drive or anything, the guys just being a total knob. You don’t own the kerb outside! I’d just steer clear of him though.

FoodGloriousFud · 23/01/2018 18:45

All these people saying the blokes in the wrong, would you not mind having people stopping you parking outside of your house?! I still think op was intentionally antagonising him which is pathetic. If you're going to do that at least have the balls to stay where you are if you think you're right.

taskmaster · 23/01/2018 18:45

It annoys the shit out of me. We have no off street parking nor do any of our neighbours, we all respect the space outside each others' houses to the point of not allowing visitors to park in them and get really angry when random people use them

Then you are an idiot.

All of you who get mad at people parking outside your houses are. Go buy a house with a drive, and if you can't afford it, tough bollocks on you but don't tale it out on people who park on the road that happens to be outside your house: you don't own it.

Pengggwn · 23/01/2018 18:47

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bonnymnemonic · 23/01/2018 18:48

All these people bemoaning how frustrating it is when people park outside their homes, what on earth do you do if you're visiting friends or family who live on busier or more congested roads (without off street parking)? Would you actually go out of your way to park several streets away or to a public car park to ensure you aren't in front of someone's house?

PickleFish · 23/01/2018 18:48

I think it would have been helpful to just move, if there were other spaces. It's frustrating if someone parks there every day while he is waiting to park in front of his house, if there are alternatives. What harm in it? obviously legally there is no reason you have to. And he didn't go about it in the right way.

But if you want to keep parking on that road, it is helpful to work with the residents, or they will consider applying for residents' only parking, and then tends to make things worse for people who want to park just occasionally. You'd be parking a lot further away in that case.

OwdBets · 23/01/2018 18:48

Team OP here.
My DS used to go to a tutor for an hour once a week. I used to park outside and wait for him.
One of the neighbors ( whose house I was in front of) was trying to park behind me in too small a space so I moved along a bit to give her plenty of room. I was expecting a nod, wave or a small acknowledgement but all I got was a screaming "fuck you for parking in front of my house".
You don't own the road in front of your house.