AIBU to next time tell him to fuck off?

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Parking. I get the frustration for people living near schools but I never park illegally and never block people in. This evening at 4:30 I parked up in my usual spot about 2 doors down from the school as we are not allowed to park in the school car park. Bloke in van pulled in behind me, gesturing wildly. Got out his car and banged on my window, demanding that I move my car so He could park outside his house. Several times I head tilted and said ‘why’ and he repeated himself, each time just a little bit more aggressively. I had turned off the car and picked up my mobile to speak to my eldest to see if he’d picked up a loaf on the way home. Once I’d done that (man still shouting at me),I moved the car across the road but walked back past him to a very insincere ‘thank you’. Repeated again that my car was taxed and insured and that as I was legally parked, under no obligation to move my car. He then got really aggressive and yelled at me that he was ‘going to report’ me for being on my mobile. I laughed and said yes, in a legally parked up car with the engine turned off. So his response to that was that it was illegal to use a mobile in a car.

I shouldn’t have moved, I know. I was wrong, AIBU to stalk that parking space so next time I can tell him to do one?!

Am really shaken.

you're the one who keep getting deleted pip, not OP. Shes not the GF here

It is SO annoying when parents park outside your house to pick up kids from school - bet OP wouldn't like it outside her house 🏡?

Because I don't tolerate people calling others 'stupid', taskmaster. I wasn't the only one to get posts deleted.
It's clear to me that OP is on the wind up.

t is SO annoying when parents park outside your house to pick up kids from school - bet OP wouldn't like it outside her house

I live a stone’s throw from a major tourist attraction. People park outside my house all the time. I knew that would happen when I bought my house. I live with it.

It doesn't bother me at all if people park outside my house, how is it an issue? DH and I bought the house not the footpath in front of it. If it's not permit holder only, you literally don't have a case, so why let yourself get stressed by it? As long as they're not obstructing you obviously.

Why do you keep asking people if 'that's all they've got' and keep going on about single mums on benefits? You really are a GF aren't you?

Not at all. I have explained my personal situation several times only. I am still being labelled lazy and entitled yet distance from school for walking, opening times of breakfast club, rush hour traffic and the time I need to be at work mean that walking isn’t an option. Nor is parking further away. No one has my back. No one can pick up the slack or drop off later or do a walking school run. If I were forced to change things, I would lose my job. Some people seem unable to get their head around that.

Same here ohreally, only I don't drive so have had to organise our routine accordingly for school runs and work.
I just don't know why you're trying to provoke an opinion on the single mums who don't work.

Because I don't tolerate people calling others 'stupid', taskmaster. I wasn't the only one to get posts deleted

You must have said something much worse to be deleted

That's subjective taskmaster :)

I think both you and the man sound like knobs and handled the situation appallingly.

just don't know why you're trying to provoke an opinion on the single mums who don't work

Because the suggestions are I leave the car at home and walk. It isn’t an option. The alternative is I stop working. The point is I have explained myself and I am still being told I should walk. And again. People imagine they understand the ins and outs of other people’s lives and the driving forces behind decision making. You know nothing of me yet I have been called gladly, entitled, stupid and god knows what else because I just want to legally park my car, pick up my kids, and get on with my life without being threatened or hassled.

Is it reasonable to refuse to engage with the person asking you to move or refuse to move? Yes you're within your rights to refuse but you're being deliberately difficult if it's easy to do so!

You have every right to be deliberately difficult towards someone who has approached you not with politeness, but with aggression. If someone asked me if I would mind moving my car I wouldn't mind unless they were aggressive, in which case you bet your bottom dollar I'd be "difficult".

Women should always be difficult to aggressive men.

Unfortunately, parents on school runs have got a bad name for themselves.

It's because they are mostly women, going about women's business which is considered trivial and annoying. No-one complains about the many, many people who double park, park on yellow lines, park inconsiderately outside sport centres or businesses etc., while going about their daily life. Because they are a mixture of men and women so they don't get especially pulled out for special opprobrium.

It's just where the majority of people who are doing something are women, that there is a societal feeling that these people are extra inconsiderate, because really they have no right to take up any space at all or inconvenience anyone else in any way at all.

That's a fair point Basil

OP perhaps you could suggest a Park Further Away Campaign at your school? The children can get involved designing posters and so on.
It would at least free up the area outside school for those who will lose their jobs and end up on benefits if they can't find a space.

It would be doing something positive. Your life sounds like a difficult balancing act but that's true for most of us.

I meant fair point about not tolerating aggression.

I'm not sure that parents on the school run have a bad name for themselves because they're women.

To sum up, I still think van man shouldn't have been aggressive and OP could have been more accommodating to move to the space opposite without any of the head tilting and asking "why" in passive aggressive mode.
Van man may have wanted to unload tools etc and just be cheesed off with the whole parking situation. But would have been better if he had asked politely. Two wrongs don't make a right.

She...not as he!

YANBU op. And I used to live near to a school. I saved my banshee screaming performance for people parked on or across my drive, but people parking perfectly legally on the road are not doing anything wrong.

And why is the op wrong when entitled man started by being aggressive to her? I would not have moved and would have been aggressive right back.

But she was really being stupid, so it wasn't unfair in any way..

Taskmaster
Doesn't matter....you can't tell the truth. You will get deleted now.

Won't be the first time!