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AIBU to next time tell him to fuck off?

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ohreallyohreallyoh · 23/01/2018 17:40

Parking. I get the frustration for people living near schools but I never park illegally and never block people in. This evening at 4:30 I parked up in my usual spot about 2 doors down from the school as we are not allowed to park in the school car park. Bloke in van pulled in behind me, gesturing wildly. Got out his car and banged on my window, demanding that I move my car so He could park outside his house. Several times I head tilted and said ‘why’ and he repeated himself, each time just a little bit more aggressively. I had turned off the car and picked up my mobile to speak to my eldest to see if he’d picked up a loaf on the way home. Once I’d done that (man still shouting at me),I moved the car across the road but walked back past him to a very insincere ‘thank you’. Repeated again that my car was taxed and insured and that as I was legally parked, under no obligation to move my car. He then got really aggressive and yelled at me that he was ‘going to report’ me for being on my mobile. I laughed and said yes, in a legally parked up car with the engine turned off. So his response to that was that it was illegal to use a mobile in a car.

I shouldn’t have moved, I know. I was wrong, AIBU to stalk that parking space so next time I can tell him to do one?!

Am really shaken.

OP posts:
Estellanpip · 25/01/2018 22:29

'None of those came back at me or argued'. Well I stand up for myself most importantly, others. You call people stupid, then you are a cunt.

Estellanpip · 25/01/2018 22:31

No, Taskmaster. It wasn't that I had said stupid things, it was that I was allegedly stupid.
Now I don't know the meaning of the word 'bully'. Is that because I'm 'stupid'?

taskmaster · 25/01/2018 22:32

Because you said stupid things. That is why you were allegedly stupid.
You don;t know what bully means, you showed that.
You're really not helping yourself here you know you're just saying more stupid things.

Estellanpip · 25/01/2018 22:34

I could tell you the meaning in four different languages.
Can I ask you again, why you live to goad and provoke people? Like you do to every poster, not just me?
It's very sad.

taskmaster · 25/01/2018 22:39

and yet you used it so inappropriately.

JackmanAdmirer · 25/01/2018 22:41

I am a driver... if the engine is off then it is perfectly legal to use your phone whilst sat in the car. Don't ever move again for him!

Estellanpip · 25/01/2018 22:43

No, I didn't, taskmaster.

JackmanAdmirer · 25/01/2018 22:45

...Oh and I've obviously not read the thread!

However annoying it may be for the man,
You bring legally parked means he can fuck right off!

I have to tolerate street parking and sometimes parking many doors away from my home so he can too.

Gottagetmoving · 25/01/2018 22:47

Estallanpip
You are starting to sound a bit hysterical and manic now....Calm down a bit!

taskmaster · 25/01/2018 22:47

yup, you totally did.

Estellanpip · 25/01/2018 22:49

In what way, gotta?

Estellanpip · 25/01/2018 22:51

No, Taskmaster. Go back and read what I said, remember the context.
Of course a verbal insult like 'stupid' is bullying behaviour. That is why I challenge it.

Gottagetmoving · 25/01/2018 22:53

In being hysterical and manic....in that way!

WheresTheHooferDoofer · 25/01/2018 22:53

No OP was minding her own business when a driver pulled up and gestured for her to move. I just thought it was a bit rude not to comply with that initially, especially as there were other spaces nearby. It comes across as a bit petulant really.

Why, when he could have used the nearby spaces. And please don't give me the rubbish about wanting to unload stuff. If needs to unload close to his home, he needs to find one with a drive.

Estellanpip · 25/01/2018 22:53

Gotta, you sound like a misogynist.

Noideawhatelseicando · 25/01/2018 22:56

Oh really I work at a hospital but cannot get a parking permit on site, the streets surrounding the hospital are permit holders only. This means I park 15 minutes walk away from the hospital on a residential street, not blocking anyone's driveway and I still have finished a 13hr shift to get back to my car and have abuse thrown at me or nasty letters stuck under my wipers. My point is no matter where you park people will still be annoyed. You have every right to park there and the police wouldn't have done anything to move you as what you are doing is completely legal (one of my colleagues used to be a police officer).

taskmaster · 25/01/2018 22:58

Of course a verbal insult like 'stupid' is bullying behaviour. That is why I challenge it

No it isn't.
Although if it was then calling people cunts is also bullying behaviour.

Gottagetmoving · 25/01/2018 22:58

You don't challenge 'stupid' with... 'C*nt'
Sorry...still can't say it or type it...because,...it is horrible and means nothing...whereas, 'stupid' does have a meaning.

Lizzie48 · 25/01/2018 22:58

Wow, Estellanpip, you are sounding well OTT. Calling you stupid is mild for Mumsnet, certainly not worth all this obsessing about. Just move on, you're not doing yourself any favours.

Gottagetmoving · 25/01/2018 23:01

Gotta, you sound like a misogynist

You don't really understand 'mysoginist'.... do you? Grin

Estellanpip · 25/01/2018 23:02

I'm just replying to their silly goading in a measured way, that's all.
I will leave them to it, they've whipped themselves into quite the frenzy.
(And yes, I do think it's fine to respond to someone calling me 'stupid' as cunt).

Estellanpip · 25/01/2018 23:03

Gotta, most people know that calling a woman 'hysterical', 'manic' and saying 'calm down!', is misogynistic language. It's a fact.

Gottagetmoving · 25/01/2018 23:04

Go back and read what I said, remember the context.Of course a verbal insult like 'stupid' is bullying behaviour. That is why I challenge it

You didn't 'challenge' it....You called me a cu*t....That's not a challenge. It's retaliation...and a pretty poor one.

Estellanpip · 25/01/2018 23:05

I challenge it, always.

taskmaster · 25/01/2018 23:06

Gotta, most people know that calling a woman 'hysterical', 'manic' and saying 'calm down!', is misogynistic language. It's a fact

Nope. Only if you aren;t being hysterical and need to calm down.

You really do need a dictionary.