AIBU to be upset (mil related sorry)

[Marlboroandmalbec34]

My mil and fil had my toddler overnight at there request ( not needed as I am on mat leave) my mil cut his lovely curly hair.
She had mentioned several times that it need doing but me and DH had made it clear we liked it longer

When I picked him up it wasn’t obvious but Fil said “we nearly cut his hair but didn’t” I said I was glad they hadn’t. When we got home and he had a bath and hair wash it became obvious it had been cut.

DH is working away but he text her asking if she had cut it. No reply for a few days. Then a reply “I cut the tatty bits off, it’s hardly a short back and sides”

Dh (still away) has told me he has spoke to her and told her not to do it again and has asked that we leave it at that.

I am upset for several reasons; mil decided it was her place to cut it against our wishes. it was his first hair cut ( so no curl for me to keep in his memory book) and Fil raised it and she didn’t admit she had cut it ( think perhaps fil didn’t know she had)

For context we usually have a good relationship and when I was working and when I go back to work Mil and Fil will do 1 day of childcare - again at their request

AIBU to feel so upset? Wwyd? Should I say something or accept DH has spoken to her and draw a line under it?

Thanks

Maybe another chance to appease dh. But it needs to be made clear that another strike means out, as far as future childcare is concerned.

The first time my PIL babysat for ds he was really small and breastfeeding. Dh and I went to a restaurant at the end of the road and I asked PIL to call me if ds woke up. They didn't - we didn't find out he was awake until we got back. And I really don't feel that I can trust them to babysit again if they can't follow a simple instruction because they think they know better. Ds is 2.5 now and they haven't babysat again.

I’m at a loss to understand why people think the MILs behaviour is normal and should be swept under the carpet.
Imagine if your child came home from nursery / school and the teachers had trimmed their hair “because it looked a bit tatty”.

Posters saying it’s only hair, I think you’re missing the point that it’s the fact that she lied and didn’t apologise.

I’d go mad and also cut off some of her hair to see how she liked it