To go on a city break leaving behind sick baby

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Sigh, I kinda know I am...
Meant to be going on a city break this weekend with friends and family. Flight booked. 18mo has come down today with a bug, hot, clingy, just not well. I work full-time so I'm not even going to be there much to comfort him before the weekend. He doesn't sleep as a rule (wakes 3-4 times), won't accept dh at night, still feeds and I was desperately looking forward to a weekend away to SLEEP, have a drink, spend some time with a sibling whose having a hard time. And also hopefully let dh make a start on night-weaning (again) without milky boobs mum (he is only too happy to delegate almost all night responsibility to me on basis "he can't comfort baby" - he can but we always seem to slip back to me doing it all).
Anyways I can't really put a sick baby through the stress of that, can I? Think I know the answer...

Enjoy your time guilt free.

It will help break the dependency a little as well.

Good, glad you're going! Make sure to tell your husband NOT to call you during the night. The only exception to this rule, is if DS is in A&E.

I have to travel for work. This has meant I've been away when DD is ill many times. She is fine, DH moans about it but he is also fine. I did come back once to find them both sat on the sofa wrapped in dressing gowns and a sofa blanket stinking of vomit because he was too exhausted from being up all night with a puking kid to bother showering either of them!
If it was me I'd go. Babies Dad is there. I wouldn't leave a sick kid with a non-parent but I consider DAD = MUM when it comes to childcare.

Have a lovely time!

He has his father, would your partner think twice if the shoe was on the other foot? Baby will be fine and actually will be a great opportunity for them to build the connection he thinks isn’t there.

You wouldn't think twice if your dh went away for the night. I can't guarantee you won't worry but try to enjoy your break. Maybe just make sure you're contactable by phone in case things get worse?

YES!

Babys can be ill at any time, enjoy the break!
I went to Venice for a week end when mine was 6mths old. Rang my mum constantly, felt guilty whole time but he was fine!

I think you should go

Definitely go, you need this break. His Dad will cope with baby I'm sure and they may get to bond a bit more too. Enjoy!!

Just go - baby will be fine!!!!

If you are sure it's just a cold then yes definitely go - it sounds like you need and deserve the break and his daddy is quite capable of looking after him. Make sure he sends you updates so that you are reassured all ok - which it will be. Baby will adapt.

My baby was the same - up until she was gone 2 she just wouldn't settle with anyone else - despite being at nursery full time - she insisted on having her Mummy. It's important for you to hand over sometimes and have some 'you time' x Have fun! x

Have a great time.

If you are leaving him with his dad then YANBU - have a good time! X

Have a blast op!

Have a fantastic time! I'm sure your children and their dad will cope.

Will you be ok? Even if your son is fine, will you be panicking? Can you enjoy yourself?

If you are prepared to leave your sick baby for a holiday, you really need this break.

So go, don't feel guilty, recharge your batteries, return firing on all cylinders.

Bringing up children is exhausting and we need to step away from it all from time to time.

If you don't take this break you will just grind yourself down, and you may even start resenting being a mother.

YABVVVVVU.
Don’t even think about it. He needs his mom. God forbid he worsens whilst you’re away ....??

Worsen from teething?! Relax people. If he worsens she comes back if it’s that serious. My DH regularly travels for work. A cold/cough/vomiting bug in either of our kids wouldn’t stop a trip. He has cut one trip short when one was hospitalised. No need for the dramatics.

Why does he ‘need his mom?’ Surely his father will suffice???

I wouldn’t,only because I think it would be hard for your little one if they were well, and I couldn’t bring myself to disappear for the weekend if they were ill, especially as they’d just be wanting boob for comfort. I don’t think it’s awful if you do go, but I’d have to postpone. Do you have insurance?

Er... she’s already gone

Haven’t you read the updates? The toddler had no temperature this morning and was much better.

This child is being cared for by their father

I’m sure it will all be fine

Maybe invest in an advice time machine.